We broke up about four years ago, when I was pregnant with our son. Since then, we have both dated other people, but we still end up having sex with each other. He keeps telling me that he doesn't want to get back together, but he won't just move on and leave me alone. I still love him, and it's very hard to get over him with him coming around(and when I say come around, I mean to see me). Every time that I talk to another guy and he finds out, he gets jealous, and every time I try to cut him out of my life(I only want him out of my life as far as my personal life; as far as our son is conerned, that is a different matter), I turn around and he's still there, like he's not taking me seriously. Is it that he still wants me but is afraid to admit to it, or is he playing games with me?
2007-06-30 15:59:32 · 6 answers · asked by camiasia2000 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
He's having his cake and eating it too!! And you are allowing him to do this to you. Sort out a visiting schedule for him to come and see your son, and only allow him to do just that. When time is up don't have just you and him time, do not converse with him about anything other than your son ... anything you do is none of his business and don't allow him to make it his business. And think about what your son is seeing - sometimes mum and dad sleeping together, sometimes mum with someone else, sometimes dad with someone else - how confusing would it be for him!
2007-06-30 21:05:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why should he take you seriously? You tell him to move on and then you're right back in the sack with him. Does he still want you? Yes, for sex. Is he playing games with you? No. He was honest. He wants to bed you, not wed you. The only one playing a game is you playing games with yourself, and possibly the emotional stability of your child.
Look, you're getting something out of this arrangement or you wouldn't be doing it. Maybe putting up with this "old shoe" is just more comfortable than actually going through the process of finding someone better. Maybe you just don't really believe that you and your child deserve something better. I don't know. Only you know why you are putting up with this situation. But don't blame him. You're the one letting him in late at night.
Some counseling might help you see things more realistically. Many communities have counseling services where the cost is based upon one's income.
2007-06-30 16:24:44 · answer #2 · answered by Tom K 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well you better open your eyes girl...if you really want to move on then you better get rid of him aside from the fact that hes the father of your son,. it seems that hes taking advantage on you, he is not ready for a commitment yet. he thinks that your his possession, like a toy probably he wants you whenever he feels
like and just throw you away if he wants to. he doesnt want you to be happy because he is selfish only thinking about his needs.he should have married you in the 1st place the time that he got you pregnant
stop, look and listen...
u deserve someone better-- theres still a life out there waiting 4 u!
2007-06-30 16:52:10 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's playing games with you sweetie and you're letting him use you.
As the saying goes........he wants his cake and eat it too.He won't leave you alone till you put a stop to it and I think you really need to do that.
He doesn't love you OR respect you or your feelings.I think it's time to let go and find someone who truly cares for you and respects you.
Of course he needs to see his son but leave it at that.
You have to be firm and make him understand you don't want to be involved with him anymore and let him know that you mean it and are serious.
THIS IS TRULY A GAME FOR HIM.
I think you realize that.Good Luck.
2007-06-30 16:09:48 · answer #4 · answered by sonnyboy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is just playing with you. You should tell this guy to get lost. I'm a Man and can tell you first off that he just wants a little on the side. Cut him off and he'll be gone.
2007-06-30 16:11:00 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
stop having sex with him and see if he still is around. doubt he will be
2007-07-04 00:34:49 · answer #6 · answered by cheri h 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋