I usually have a very super high sex drive than my lady, who has a very low sex drive, that sometimes, drives me crazy up the wall [Sexually]. I am pretty much always hot for sex with her almost every other night, but she complains against me, she doesn't feel hot enough to have sex with me. She is always tired and complains, that she does not enjoy sex, with me every other night. It takes her approx. 2 weeks for her sex drive to recharge up, when it take me about 2 days to recharge. Is this normal? What are the best ways too get a woman interested in hot sex? I enjoy tons of super hot sex, but she is always ice cold, when it comes to sex in bed! lol Feels like I am having sex to a dead woman! Maybe she is depressed or something. Maybe she does not love me anymore.
2007-06-30 15:33:28 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
My wife is very healthy. She has NO healthy problems whatsoever! She is basically a housewife and I am the hardworking man that support her and her/my 3 children. She hates me, when I always talk about sex!
2007-06-30 15:59:10 · update #1
Show her some affection....without your penis being involved....
that will help her to feel that you care about her...not just what is between her legs.
2007-06-30 20:59:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sex seems to be more complicated for women than men.a women's emotional well being is tied into her sex drive.generally for a man it does not matter.maybe shes just tired . it has been my experience that even when I'm tired it doesn't matter because the other person excites and it want to please.she does not enjoy sex, so the both of u have to figure out why.if her lack of enjoyment is not a medical reason then it is mental or the lack of communication as to what she enjoys.i heard that there is a women's version of Viagra and it works.i would try other options before medication though.people always feel better when they eat healthy..this applies to sex drive as well.i read that a women cannot achieve an orgasm without niacin being present in the uterus.whatever the reason i cant give a definitive answer..that's between u and her.goodluck....happy orgasms to ya.
2007-06-30 16:00:16 · answer #2 · answered by NONAME 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How would or how does she feel about a shopping spree at the Hustler store or something similiar to that. I have learned that many couples are wanting to try new stuff to spice up the sex life so maybe that's what she needs. There are alot of new fun toys for couples you should check it out. I am starting a new business based on just this issue and so far what I gather from people is that they do want to try something new so why don't you give it a try.
2007-06-30 16:03:45 · answer #3 · answered by Gloria M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am about to tell you about me and husband! I have a 3 and 4 year old child. Do you have children?
Anyways I am a stay at home mom and I am worn out by the end of the day. My advice and it worked for me is get something kinky like a whip of a movie if you know what i mean! set a romantic scean and take it from their. Don't push though act like you are not expecting it. Like you don't even want it that is a turn on for me! Good luck
2007-06-30 15:53:31 · answer #4 · answered by lovable_walker 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its crazy but our sex life can be effected by whats going on in our everyday life. If shes depressed, overly tired, annoyed, all of that can play a big factor in the sex drive. Do things that you know relax her... cook her a really nice meal or even get her favorite take out, compliment her all the time, but not in a corny way.. but like a semi porno way, but heres the thing, dont make a move. Thats what she expecting you to do. If you start doing those lil things and not "looking for anything in return" that will excite her more... cause its unexpected. Leave her lil messages on her phone, text or voice mail... Something crazy like "I shouldve bought your panties with me so I can sniff them... :" lololol.. something just to make her laugh. Lil notes and stuff... she needs more than just a hard one to get her going.
2007-06-30 15:41:53 · answer #5 · answered by frankee_77 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dude. Sex Drive, while regulated to some extent by DNA, is mostly a response to stimulus, both physical and verbal, but largely depends on you. Yes you. No magic root or pill will make her hot for you. I recommend going to Doubleyourdating.com and getting his Ebook. It is cheaper than one of those gimmick pills. Also sexual technique is important. Women go CRAZY for dudes who are good in the sack. Trust me I know. Giving a girl 3 or 4 orgasms in a night will make her addicted to you. I have the experience. For killer technique, read "She Comes First" it's a great book and has lead to women literally forcing me to go down on them and such(I'm trying not to be explicit). It also triggers a natural instinct for reciprocation, if you know what I mean. Anyway, you might be opposed to some of the concepts but trust me, try something new as your sex life is very important to a relationship. My fiancee is very pleased and in love with me because of this. TRUST ME, try it. Email me if you have questions. I'm here to help.
2007-06-30 15:45:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
These are good questions. Is she having orgasms? If she's not, you need to address the problem. If she claims she is but she still acts like a log, it could be a form of resentment.
I don't predict happiness here. Try to go into couples counseling. You can't make her have a higher sex drive, but talking things out might improve the situation.
Another possible solution is to resort to porn.
2007-06-30 15:39:10 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your statement that you are the "hardworking man who supports her and 3 children" and that she is "basically a housewife" kind of makes me wonder if you talk to her like that and in turn if she doesn't appreciate that you treat her like shes ONLY a housewife and a mother.
2007-06-30 17:33:30 · answer #8 · answered by its about time 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There could be a lot of reasons...
do you have children...how many & how old
otherwise do you have a happy marriage
when was the last time she had a blood test
do you do your fair share of housework
is she physically healthy
First step is to make sure she's healthy, her hormones are working properly....so get her to make an appointment with her GYN & your family doctor.
2007-06-30 15:39:31 · answer #9 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to rethink your approach. Find out her needs, why is she tired? Help her with things so she won't be sooo tired? what is she complaining about? fix the problem. just stop and think about her needs for a min and maybe she'll be willing to engage in sex.
2007-06-30 15:40:07 · answer #10 · answered by jonl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sound to me like you should get some tips on how to please your wife. Most women are not interested as often because you dont make it worth it. You may also want to try something different spice things up. Or tequila lots of tequila!!!!
2007-06-30 15:43:47 · answer #11 · answered by groovygal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋