My need in help is in my marriage.... I have no sexual need anymore an its ruining my marriage serously !!!! What can i do to save my marriage...please help me...
2007-06-30 15:20:29 · 30 answers · asked by BOOBOO 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i love my husband an my drive for sex after kids has slowly but surely stopped.. we have sex but its like 2-4 times month sometimes none cause he works off alot.........its sad cause we are in our early 20s our prime time to be love making lol....so i need help an yes we have talked about this for the longest and ihave got to do something to make my marriage stay together ...its me not him......
2007-06-30 15:33:36 · update #1
boo boo you need to talk to ur female doctor..no joke.. it happens to women all the time. nothing to be embarrassed about.. do you have a female specialist? if not you need to get one & they can get you straight.. probably just your harmones or something simple..now it*s up to you to do the rest... good luck!! :)
2007-06-30 15:48:21 · answer #1 · answered by Barbie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The world will tell you that you have a problem, that you need toys or drugs.
I do not agree.
It is normal to want sex 12 times a day for the first 2 weeks, and 12 times a day after two children, if you are pregnant or, even worse, on birth control pills.
My suggestion is this:
When your husband comes home, have a babysitter for the first evening. She cleans the house and looks after the kids, and you cook a nice meal. Give him a nice backrub. Treat him like a king. Make sure you are well rested. Relax and enjoy life.
He will feel pampered and try to seduce you.
Remember that you have something that no other woman has. you are the only woman in the world that will always be faithful to him, that always cares about him, and you are the mother of his children.
That, combined with being sweet and supportive, and loving, is more important than fancy clothes and toys.
Most men do not mind if the wife IS old.
Men mind that she ACTS old, grouchy, oveerworked, naggy, etc.
Be in love with him, and he will love you.
Do not mind if he looks at other girls. Looking is natural. Only saints do not even look.
If you have too much work around the house, you should get an Au Pare. She will do the heavy work, and you will feel like a new woman.
How do you think the rich girls stay young? SERVANTS
If you need to find a reasonably priced Au Pare, do not go through an agency. They charge thousands of dollars for the girls who are too incompetant to get their own job. I could find one in Europe for you if you are interested. Get a nice christian girl who will not try to seduce your husband.
Remember, TV life is not normal.
Sex once a month is normal.
Sex three times a week is also normal.
If you are the former, and your husband the latter, find ways to please him that are at least a little fun for you too.
Read the song of solomon in the bible. That is the type of wife men want.
and remember, the happiest man is the man with the most happy children :)
2007-07-01 10:58:26 · answer #2 · answered by Romneyminn@yahoo.com 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because you are married, you have an obligation to your husband and the marriage bed.
Go to your OBGYN and see if there is some hormonal imbalance that has caused your sex drive to abate. You may be lacking in estrogen or some other type of hormone that will increase your "drive" and your lust for your husband.
If that doesnt work, then rent some videos and see if that may get you into the "mood". Your husband is not going to wait forever for you to give him, what he craves and needs, so, seek help soon, or you may find that he has gone elsewhere for the satisfaction that he desires, and you will be left hurting, and feeling that its his fault, when its your problem, and it made it his ...
Go on Dr. Ruth or some sex thereapist to find ways to excite you, into a romantic mood. I hope that you get over your dilemea soon...
I wish you well...
Jesse
2007-06-30 15:27:27 · answer #3 · answered by x 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
whoa! 20's isn't your prime and let him know it is his peak not his prime.
When the kids get older things will shake out a lot different than now. Best sex of my life is in my 40's and I believe my wife would agree. In our 20's we were just rabbits bangin away. It will only get better. Meanwhile you better Cowgirl up and give him some pity sex(doggystyle) where you don't do a lot of work and he gets happy. Missionary is the worst pity sex because i can see the boredom in your eyes. maybe give him a hand once a week for his pleasure.
Your drive will return, so just maintain him firmly till then.
Old Guy
2007-06-30 16:26:04 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That what happens having children at such a young age.Your in a circle of confinement, with no pleasure.Children are great but your life has been consumed.So you an your husband need some time out.So get family to handle the home front why you 2 get lost for a while. Good luck
2007-06-30 15:41:18 · answer #5 · answered by 45 auto 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is a difficult question to answer without knowing the specifics of your situation. Sex is an important part of a relationship, if you find that you are not interested in sex anymore there may be underlying phsyical or psychological reasons. Depression, physical ailments or relationship troubles may all be to blame. Without more info, this question is impossible to answer.
2007-06-30 15:26:08 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a very serious issue that happens to millions of women, so please don't feel alone. And is very treatable. Please schedule an appointment with your doctor, and address this issue with him. There are many medications today that help with this and have very low, if any at all, side effects. Another alternative if this is not hormone based is talk therapy to find out why you don't have a desire. But to be honest I would really seek the advice of your physician first.....
Good luck!!
2007-06-30 15:35:04 · answer #7 · answered by Tamara 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go see a doctor, you may just need a boost in some kind of a hormone. Another thing is try new things in the bedroom!! go to the sex shop! go get some toys. experiment! get a little wine! get drunk! play a game!! hope you find your love monkey soon! *^_^*
2007-06-30 15:27:05 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
first try to figure out why you're not interested anymore. is it a medical condition? talk it over with a doctor. if it's not, then the issue could be with your marriage, especially if you and your husband have unresolved issues with each other. Talk things over with a trusted marriage counselor, and things might get better.
2007-06-30 15:31:53 · answer #9 · answered by butterfly84 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Try different things and see what turns you on, maybe watch a video or real erotic stories. Try different things like the stuff they sell at slumber parties (www.slumberparties.com)
If this doesn't work I'd say consult your doctor or try counseling.
Goodluck!
2007-06-30 15:23:29 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you talked to your partner about this? Perhaps you (or maybe both of you) may want to contact a sex therapist. They can help work through any issues you might have so you can satisfy your sexual needs.
2007-06-30 15:23:12 · answer #11 · answered by penpallermel 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋