He is very much a man's man to talk to but the last couple of years he has a hard time maintaining an erection when we start to make love and he prefers me now face down and he rubs between my *** cheeks until he ejaculates. Lately he has begun to grab me like I have seen men do in porn movies by the shoulder from the back during sex. Afterwards he rushes to the bathroom to clean up and bring me a wash cloth. He use to kiss me during sex but that stopped a couple of years ago too.
He has always had male friends and he now has one that I think is gay (never married, 45 and lives alone) that he works with but also comes to the house.
My husband also cooks, cleans and my gay friend says he is one gene short of being gay.
2007-06-30 15:00:20 · 17 answers · asked by chicago bully 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It's normal to loose an erection before, during, and after sex. Doesn't mean he's gay. Holdign on to the shoulders during sex is a way for the male to get deeper into what he's into. Going deeper, and harder into the vagina. Doesn't mean he's gay. Cleanliness is next to Godliness. Why wouldn't you want to clean up after yourself. The inside doesn't smell so great outside once oxygen hits it. I suggest if you don't want an infection to take his lead and wah yourself. Doesn't mean he's gay. Just because a guy lives alone, and has never married doesn't make him gay. I think you should be happy to have a husband that cooks, cleans, and takes care of you. If your gay friend male or female. If female then sounds like she wants you for herself. If you think your husband is gay then ask him.
2007-06-30 15:12:09 · answer #1 · answered by Sweet 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a serious tough nut to crack, but i would have the same suspensions. I would. Definitely bring it up again, even if he does get mad, this is your life an Ur little girl. I would snoop like crazy when he's not home to. If he were gay or bi, he might have some porn or something. The best thing is evidence! Check all places he might hide something. An with the friend that just let's himself in an screames up the steps would drive me crazy. If a friend of my husband's ever did that it would be a problem. I do think he might be gay, cuz normally straight men do not have a lot of gay friends at all. An my husband's brother is gay an they hardly ever hang out wit straight men. To bring it up just say " listen, you can tell me anything, I will always support you" try an be really nice an understanding. I'm not sure if it will work but you can give it a try. Or maybe you can try an bring up Ur past an lie about maybe being with another women, like you were experimenting with Ur sexuality. An see if he confesses about something. I hope one of these things work for you. Good luck to you an Ur family : )
2016-05-19 23:15:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
excuse me for this-
he's wanting anal! he is getting bored with your sex life and wanting to try something new. and as far as him grabbing you from behind on the shoulders? nothing to worry about-who the hell wants to have sex in the same position, nothing new, for years?
and i promise you the more open you are to his desires and fantasies, the more he will appreciate you.
as far as a threesome goes? no way, anyone that can or wants to watch their spouse have sex with antoher person, male or female, doesn't truly love you. either way its adultry.
but your gay friend on the other hand, a gay man can normally spot another gay man, no matter how manly they act.
check out your husband's single friend, if they work together, i'm sure you can find out something. ask your husband lots of questions about him. when he asks why, just tell him that you want to know who he's spending so much time wtih as well. and watch the friends actions, try to play private eye yourself.
2007-06-30 16:05:51 · answer #3 · answered by *** 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, chances are he is on the down low. By having sex with you he is able to maintain a self delusion of being straight. Next time his special friend is over ask them both are the fuc*ing each other. The look on their face will tell the truth not what they say.
2007-06-30 15:08:29 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think it is leaning more toward the gay and not bi. There is differently something wrong when he changes your sex life and doesn't not bother to ask you about it. Sit down with him and ask him what he thinks about your sex life and how it has changed also include how you feel. If he avoids the questions there is another red flag. Listen to you instincts first and for most.
2007-06-30 15:17:26 · answer #5 · answered by Lizard 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
So you're sex is getting old and this is his way of spicing it up...does that make him gay?
How about this..are you BI enough to let him have a hot 3some?
2007-06-30 15:22:18 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hmmmm, maybe he is just bored with your sex life and needs to spice it up a bit. If you are worried he is gay, ask him.
2007-06-30 15:05:54 · answer #7 · answered by wildlifer 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Communicate with him. It sounds a little strange...and men communicate so many of their emotion through sex. You definately need to talk to him.
2007-06-30 17:27:31 · answer #8 · answered by Alicia F 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Gay men notice other other gay men. If you friends thinks he's close then he is!
2007-06-30 15:06:18 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
It sure sounds like he is gay cuz no normal man would do all that!
2007-06-30 15:17:52 · answer #10 · answered by little lou lou 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋