what would you do if u had my life??????

Question

Okay so basically my life sucks right now. i just found out im transferring schools, my dad hates me ( i dont live with him), my moms going through menopaus and she actscrazy, all my friends from my elementary school are acting like bitches to me, my supposed "best friend" talks **** about me, im fat, and im afraid im never going to get a boyfriend. i dont know what to do anymore. everytime i try to be the "funny" one to cover up my physical flaws (the fatness) with my personality my "friend" taylor says im not funny. I am the oldest of 3 on my my moms side and i just found out my dad had ANOTHER kid. (my mom and dad are divorced). nobody takes me seriously when i say that i am reallly depressed because i was always the "funny" one and i have always kept that persona. I try to keep the humor going so no one can see what i am like on the inside. my dad is a total *** hole, and hes always telling me to lose weight- which only makes me eat more (im a compulsive over eater). someone help!

Answer 1

First of all, I realize that you are young and may have trouble understanding this: Your life and your happiness should not be defined by what people say to you or think about you. If your father does not seem to love you, it is not your fault. It is only proof that he needs to work on himself in order to be the loving father you need him to be. Second, stop trying to impress people that you are funny. Be yourself. Inasmuch as you are probably still trying to figure out who you are, I believe there's a beautiful person inside just screaming to get out....and one day you will!!! Find out if you are covered under your parents' insurance plan and make an appointment with your family doctor. Explain everything you are going through and ask him to refer you for counselling to sort out your feelings and help you with the eating disorder. You can get over it once you find constructive things to fill the emotional gap that you are trying to fill with fatttening foods. My dear, you have the whole world ahead of you. Don't be so hard on yourself. Take life slowly and set some simple goals and work toward them one by one. You will see that you can accomplish them if you set your mind to them and not let people ridicule you or convince you that you can't measure up. You will get to the promised land, sweetie. Don't give up.

Answer 2

You said the smartest thing! you said your life sucks RIGHT NOW. You sound like you are brave enough to speak up for yourself, so if you are worried that you are depressed, go to the doctor, tell her that your life is miserable right now, and ask for some help.
Here is a hard thing, you cannot fix your mom, and you cannot fix your dad. don't try. You may be the funny one, the good news is misery is the basis for all good humor. Write down what is happening, and find ways to enjoy the foolishness around you. Your mom is going to get through this, you will not always be too fat, and people will take you seriously. Meanwhile, start writing. Use what you know, I think you have what it takes!

Answer 3

What i would do if i were you, is i would change my life style. Stop eating as much. Eat 5 SMALL meals a day, excise, and don't drink sodas. Start with water w/ flavor or plain water. And about the friend issue, if they tell you mean stuff and act like bitches, why consider them friends. If you are going to a different school this is a good chance to start over. And for you dad, ignore him, well not completly ignore. Dont worry about the boyfriend thing, take everything step by step. Maybe start with losing weight. I myself want to lose weight, i have never had a boyfriend, but dont give up hope. And about the mom and dad thing i dont think i can help you to much in that area. You mom is going through menopaus so put up with it for a while longer.Good luck w/ everything, i hope things turn out better for you.

Answer 4

First of all it's about you in the inside not your outside the most important problem you have is dealing with your depression. Your depression is the root to your problem you have to love yourself first before you can love anyone else. I'm not exactly sure what's going on with your parents but you shouldn't worry about their situation I know that's hard but you're the oldest child of your mom's and the other siblings look up to or at least watch everything you do so therefore you should be showing them a strong, understandable, funny, and give them something positive to look up to even as hard as it may seem you can do it. As for as the other child your dad had all you can do if given the opportunity is to embrace the other sister or brother it's not there fought he/she is here. As for your dad hating you he doesn't hate you or even if you think he does love him harder tell him that you love him and I know I'm a child I do make mistakes and say to him it hurts your feelings when he talks about your weight and maybe sometime when he's not busy can we go take a walk sometimes. And last but not least you're to young to be worry about having a boyfriend concentrate on your school work. And hey sometimes going to a new school isn't so bad may be you'll meet better friend's try to look the positive side about everything you're going through I know it's hard but you can do it. I pray everything turns out good for you.

Answer 5

Try hard to understand life as you grow older and keep friends who are successful in life and observe their attitudes on life, parents are like grainsof sand, no two are alike, have faith in our Lord for guidance. I can only say this my father didn't know how to show lovebut I knew that he loved me!

Answer 6

well basically you can make your life more better by moving and dont' worry about the dad hes irrivelant. but you kneed to see doctor and get your head right and then you will be fine and feel better lose weight that is why you are heavey and things will work out.

Answer 7

make some changes in your life