No way...my whole entire life am I going to last through the marriage curse.
I've barely made it 10 years....thats enough punishment i think.
To get married for life...sounds like you commited some kind of dreadful crime and have to be sentenced "for life".
2007-06-30 14:14:52 · 24 answers · asked by ? 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Wow--I never thought of it like that...Now I am having second thoughts about getting married. I am going to tell my boyfriend the points you presented.
2007-06-30 14:18:17 · answer #1 · answered by Miss J 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It's too bad you feel that way. I am a happily marrried man and can't imagine my life without her in it. We are best friends and have a great time together. It sounds like you got married without really being ready for the commitment, or maybe you married the wrong person. Marriage should be a mutual partnership that makes you happy and fulfilled, not miserable and bitter. My in laws were happily married for 55 years until he passed away. Some people get what a good marriage is all about. Good luck and I hope your misery doesn't continue too long.
2007-06-30 21:45:12 · answer #2 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You marry because you "love" that person, and want to spend the rest of your life "pleasing" them if possible.
Apparently you cant "make" that type of committment, or, your tired of your spouse, because you have developed a "rut", and want to get out and seek new pleasures and pastures... You would leave some one who loves you, and has born your children, and has taken care of you through good times and bad, only to "dump her" because "your" tired of her? Sheesh!
Adulthood is called maturity, and with maturity is the ability to make a committment to some one, to love, hold and cherish, through good times and bad... Apparently "you" arent mature enough for that, and obviously have made a "wrong" decision, and didnt pray to the LORD and ask if this woman was the "right one" for you, so, your stuck with her or divorce. Either way, it seems your going to be a "failure in life"!
Your kids, Wife, friends and family will suffer, because you cant keep a committment. Its a shame that you even bothered messing up this woman's life, who "could" make a committment, and was mature enough, while you werent, or didnt want to fully commit yourself to the act of marriage. (Did you have your fingers crossed behind your back, when you took your vows? Is that what you were thinking?).
Grow up man, and be what you said you would be, a husband to your Wife, and Father to your kids!
I wish you well...
Jesse
2007-06-30 21:28:08 · answer #3 · answered by x 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
LOL - you kill me. Obviously you have picked the wrong cell mate my friend. That is a shame.
You have more marriage under your belt than I do, but I am very happy and look forward to watching our kids grow up, travelling, buying a bigger house, the pets we will have over the years, the triumphs and the failures we can face together. I look forward to having my husband there for me when we face some of the hardest moments (such as losing parents some day), and I plan to be there for him. I also look forward to having grandchildren one day and enjoying them together. Family Christmas through the years and retirement.
If you are that unhappy you need to seek counselling together or move on and stop wasting each others time.
Good luck!
2007-06-30 21:22:42 · answer #4 · answered by ~Brenda~ 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Marriage means FOREVER. It means you pledge your whole life together and want to make each other happy. If you can't do that then you shouldn't make the commitment. Of course it's hard, it's VERY difficult! You have to work at it just like anything else. I hope you find happiness with your wife again.
2007-06-30 21:33:57 · answer #5 · answered by dreamkilter 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is a life decision to be selfless, giving to your spouse forever, no matter what. That's the way it works.
Unless you're ready to sign up for the whole deal with someone, don't bother. Stay single.
2007-06-30 21:31:38 · answer #6 · answered by arensclan 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry you feel that way. A good marriage isn't a death sentence, it's a blessing. A spouse is a partner in life, not a prison guard. You must have had a very bad experience to feel that way.
2007-06-30 21:19:13 · answer #7 · answered by JustDucky 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
YOU make your life what it is...and you also make your marriage what you want it to be.
You should not have gotten married if you are not happy, or knew that you could not be happy committed to one person.
It is sad that you feel this way, maybe you have someone new?
If you do,
then do not let your wife suffer...
release her and let her be free...and happy...
like the 2 of you used to be..
Blessings n hugs
2007-06-30 21:36:09 · answer #8 · answered by Midnight Winter WOLF 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i commited my love ,not my life. i still have time outside the home like any single person does,i still see my friends and family.if you had a outside activity you wouldnt feel traped. if you enjoy animals , go and help at a pound. join a type of club doing something you enjoy. no ones life is trapped inside 4 walls unless they choose to be there.
2007-06-30 21:25:19 · answer #9 · answered by marilynfsmgm 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Then why get married??? It is a way that people who are in love make a committment to each other. No one says that you have to get married, but when you do, you are telling God, family and friends that you are committment to this person and will do anything for then...yes for the rest of your life.
2007-06-30 21:19:08 · answer #10 · answered by pink 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I have read another post of your and gather that you are going through a rough time in your marriage. Why not go to counseling with your wife and try and work things out?
2007-06-30 21:39:14 · answer #11 · answered by A M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋