I seriously hate sex. I was molested as a kid but I dont want to use that as the reason because for years I was fine. But I will be 40 soon and suppose to be in my sex prime and I hate it. My boyfriend of 8 years is at is breaking point and I don't know what to do to make it better. I wish I could but everytime we start to be together I get sqeemish and get that felling of sticking your hand in meetloaf. It is horrible. I don't even have the desire. I want to be with him. as in sit with him, lay with him etc. but as soon as it turns sexual I grit my teeth and just absolutly hate it.
2007-06-30 14:00:46 · 5 answers · asked by Jerri lynn 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Your not alone in that department. Sometimes things that happen to you as a child has a way of creeping up on you when you hit 40. Hormones also play a huge role there. You shouldn't allow yourself to go on like that, and your obgyn is a good place to start. Get your hormones back in place first, and then at least you can either get better OR rule that out as a possible. When you feel its expected it makes it extra repulsive. If you two can figure out a way to change that part that would also help I think.
2007-06-30 14:07:37 · answer #1 · answered by cindy h 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know Jerilynn, you do have a reason for hating sex...but at forty years old...it's time to let go..you need to start praying to God through Jesus, to forgive those that did this to you. so you can be released from their bondage...it wasn't your fault, and it is obviously ruining your life for you...you do probably get disgusted from sex, because it was ruined for you as a little one...you never have forgotten it...it probably just hurts you so deeply, when you think of submitting...this is so sad..but believe it or not, forgiving the enemy can sometimes release US from their grasp...come to terms with this...ask the Lord to help you find the way, and I also will pray that your boyfriend, can be more patient with you...forty is still quite young...but it's never too late to really start living...you should be able to enjoy sex for YOU now...and that is what the problem is..it was a shore for you...something you dreaded..and everytime it appears again,...that part of you is rising up and the emotions shut down, ...just like when you were a little girl...but it is time to move forward, and get that release that truly forgiving these perpertrators that have done this to you...the release you will feel and the freedom,...will be like nothing you have ever experienced...but you have to mean it...and the Lord will do the rest...God Bless sweetheart, my prayers are for you and you feeling good again..
2007-06-30 21:08:05 · answer #2 · answered by MotherKittyKat 7 · 1⤊ 3⤋
You might want to try some kind of therapy. You used to like it. When did you stop liking it and what happened to make you stop liking it?
2007-06-30 21:18:47 · answer #3 · answered by maigen_obx 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are sex therapists out there that can help you....they will sort through your issues and help you enjoy sex again. Good luck!
2007-06-30 21:05:17 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
molested this will make you hate sex's.pray that you will over come this someday.sex is to good.lol
2007-06-30 21:05:44 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋