he doesnt think I can stay sober for 9 months. What do I do? How do I convince him I can be a good mother?
2007-06-30 13:43:55 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
its because he knows that once he has a kid with you...its the final nail in the coffing.
bye bye freedom.
2007-06-30 13:47:41 · answer #1 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 5⤋
Well, first of all, I would go to AA and get help if you are not getting help. I would stay sober for at least a year to prove to your husband that you are serious about being sober before asking him again about having a baby. Drinking is a disease and you have to make the conscious choice to not drink.
2007-06-30 21:44:45 · answer #2 · answered by janetrmi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Show him that you can and are willing to stay sober go to counselling and AA etc, give it twelve months then discuss the baby issue again if he still says no, then im sorry to say he doesnt want a baby at all, but look at one good thing at least by then you will be sober!
2007-06-30 20:58:32 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stay sober for 9 months and then talk again.
2007-06-30 20:59:37 · answer #4 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would work on staying sober for a while. Probably close to a year and try interacting with any nieces or nephews you have. It will give you time get to know more about the demands of children and prove to your husband that you are committed to remaining sober.
2007-06-30 20:49:11 · answer #5 · answered by indydst8 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
if you have a very bad drinking problem, youre in no position to put a baby at risk of having health problems, stay sober for a least a year if you really want kids and love them
2007-06-30 20:56:46 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
just stay sober for 9 months and prove him wrong - then talk about having a baby
2007-06-30 20:46:46 · answer #7 · answered by Jas 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Deal with the issues that are making you drink to begin with.
Having a child is a HUGE responsability, and too many people take it lightly.
Your husband must be very concerned if he thinks you have both a drinking problem... and any normal person would want a responsible person to take care of their child.
Go to AA and get help before you even consider getting pregnant....PLEASE.
2007-06-30 21:07:14 · answer #8 · answered by Nena S 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you'll stop drinking for a year to PROVE to him that you can stay sober and then have the baby talk again.
2007-06-30 20:55:47 · answer #9 · answered by rhonda c 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Stay sober. Action speaks louder than words, as they say.
2007-06-30 20:59:42 · answer #10 · answered by fdm215 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Can you? If the drinking is out of control than you need to address that problem before thinking about becoming a parent.
2007-06-30 22:02:03 · answer #11 · answered by dizzkat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋