If you have, what happened to the marriage? Were you able to pull through it or did it destroy it?
I want to know if there are actually situations where someone was betrayed but somehow the marriage was still salvaged and maybe even turned out better then before....
2007-06-30 13:23:53 · 17 answers · asked by Katia 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I haven't cheated, but I have been cheated on. After years of having a lukewarm marriage, my husband had an affair with a co-worker last year. I was completely devestated when I found out. For months, I cried everyday. I checked up on him. I checked the calls on his cell phone. If I had to go to the store I rushed as fast as I could because I was afraid that he was talking to her while I was gone. I didn't trust him at all and didn't believe a word that came out of his mouth. But, as time went on, I gradually started to trust him again. Now, a year and a half later, I don't have that urge to question every move he makes. I still don't trust him completely. I doubt I ever will. But, he and I are more in love now than we have been in a long time. Our marriage is stronger because we both saw the changes that we needed to make in ourselves and both worked hard to make those changes. I wish it had never happened, but I can't change the past. I can only try to make the present and the future better for myself, my husband, and our children. And it gets better every day!
2007-06-30 14:00:14 · answer #1 · answered by ncgirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good Question, Yes you can salvage a marriage ( I know ). If you are saying a man cheated. He needs to know that he broke the 7th Commandment. He sined aginst his wife and God. He has to be sorry for his sin. He cheated not the wife. If he has sorrow for what he did and willing to trun from his sin. Ask for forgivness ( from God and his wife ). Trust in Jesus to save his marriage and form the danger of Hell. Then the marriage can be salvaged. Hard question . . . .and not any easy answers. Sorry
2007-06-30 20:36:42 · answer #2 · answered by Bioman 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well about 3 years into the marriage I started talking to a guy on the internet...he called one night while my husband was home...and my husband left for a couple of hours, but after that we made up and it has never happened again.
2007-06-30 20:43:42 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know about better than before, once that bond of trust is broken it can only be repaired not replaced. Its like a broken bone, it will always hurt when its cold outside. You can work through it but it is a hard road. I have done it when my ex cheated on me but eventually the relationship fell apart. Without trust it just doesn't work.
2007-06-30 20:28:31 · answer #4 · answered by Deborah R 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
both of us did....and we are trying to work it out. I can tell you it is not easy and neither of us trust the other one. We both have agreed to make ourselves accountable at all times for time away from each other, the computer, the phone, etc. We have gone to counseling and we are going to church. God is our help or we would not have made it this far. If we both keep choosing to let Him lead us I know it will work out. If not, then I know it will not....simple as that. And even with God in the equation it is NOT EASY.....there are big consequences for cheating. Forgiveness is hard, it does not come natural. It hurts the kids...it hurts the finances....it just plain hurts!
2007-06-30 20:37:23 · answer #5 · answered by bethybug 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nope - never cheated. 11 years together and 4 years of marriage.
2007-06-30 20:28:51 · answer #6 · answered by Jas 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No i have never cheated on my husband and don't ever intend on doing it i married my husband because i love him he is my universe he is my whole life without him i would just die i took a vow and i made a promise till death do us part and that means forever.
2007-06-30 20:43:54 · answer #7 · answered by Mary O 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was cheated on 3 times in 13 years, and my unconditional love run out recently, and to be honest, it hurts to be apart from her even though she done me wrong, but I know there's someone better for me out there.......
2007-06-30 20:28:01 · answer #8 · answered by heymrdj1 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely not. I love my husband with everything in me. Ever since I met him, there's never been anyone else for me. Why would you marry somebody unless you were absolutely sure you could devote your whole life to that person? You also need to pray and make sure that person is exactly who God has for you.
2007-06-30 23:06:33 · answer #9 · answered by piano2897 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is never any making better the loss of trust between two people, However, forgiveness can move mountains.
2007-06-30 20:28:00 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋