how to cope with the fact that your wife never really loved you after 10 years of marriage ?

Question

and we have three children 2 boys and 1 little girl now she wont let me see them and i found out that she has been seeing some one else ?

Answer 1

This is very difficult, and there is no easy answer. It takes time. Focus on the positive aspects of what you got out of the relationship - your kids would be the obvious answer, but there might be others. She did love you, but she changed, and now it's time for a new phase in your life, and in hers. Try to make it amicable, but let her go and move on. Focus on improving yourself, meeting new people, and being the best father that you can be. Good luck.

Answer 2

Well, I'm kind of young, and never been married, but I have been in a situation where you find out the person who you love may never have really loved you due to seeing other people, mistreating you, ect. I'm quite sure the pain I felt in that situation cannot compare to what you may be feeling seeing that you were married, and had children with this woman. What I can say is that in situations like this you should become closer to god. I don't know if you are a religious man, but the lord is really the only one that can help you with the pain you must be feeling. This woman must not have been the one you were meant to be with, particularly if she is seeing someone else, and if she isn't letting you see your children that you both equally should be able to spend time with. You deserve to be treated much better then this. No one deserves to go through what you have, but it must have happened for a reason. That is something you should discuss to with god to see why this is going on. But also you must remember that just because she is treating you like this now doesn't mean she never loved you. Her feelings my have just changed. Either way, you don't deserve it. Just pray and come closer to god. Hopefully, this can help you cope with the pain.

Answer 3

The same way I deal with it after just separating from my wife after 24 years under the same conditions minus the kids.
Basicly realize she isnt worth your effort and accept it. Go on with your life and find someone else that is worth your feelings and DONT GET MARRIED AGAIN!
IMHO it isnt worth the lawyers, insurance and litigation for a slip of paper so you can get a tax break. In the long run youll come out ahead financially as well as emotionally.
Concentrate on the kids and not the wife. They are whats important at the moment and they will be with you for the long haul.
Good luck guy!

Answer 4

Oh boy, must have been young too. Hey don't worry about it. You not the only one that goes through this. Go live a life and enjoy yourself. With the children situation I would be going to court requesting a joint custody and if she refuses tell the judge and your lawyer let them deal with her. They have more power. All you can do is sit back and wait by praying.

Answer 5

it does hurt when the person u loved so much turns on u, and betrays u. it is normal to feel hurt, accept the hurt, work through it, don't even try to deny u hurt. its through this hurt that u will gain the wisdom u need to go on in life. its nothing u did to cause this, this was strictly her choice and her decision, and her bad character. she is avoiding u because she does not want to be reminded of what she did. somewhere in her mind lies her conscience and she knows what she did to u was wrong. its a grief process, that we all must deal with, and cope with, it takes time because after a 10 year marriage, we do get attached to our mates, and after 10 years its really hard to think them capable of such an awful thing, but it does happen, but its not about anything u did to her. u need to petition the courts and demand your fair visitation from her.

Answer 6

Welcome to the broken heart club,it's amazing just how much we don't no about the person we have been sleeping with for years.How good they are at fooling us and we are at fooling our own selves into thinking everything is alright when deep down we no it isn't. Did you ever think that you could feel the hate you feel now for that once loved person.Or that so much hatred was in the person you believed in and loved and gave your heart to could or would hurt you this way.That's what really hurts the most the fact that you believe in her and trusted her.

Answer 7

I'm sorry that you or anyone for that matter ever has to go thru heartache. But, it happens to most of us at one time or another. Get yourself together and move on. If you want to see your children then you may need to go to court. There are plenty of other people out there who will appreciate you for who you are. Good luck =) If your not a big meany , that is......

Answer 8

That happened to a high school friend of mine, only he was married 22 yrs., before he found out that she never really loved him & that she'd cheated most of all those 22 yrs. He was devastated, as you must be. You have a right to see your children, so seek a lawyer, & go from there.

Answer 9

ahhhh this is an easy one buddy, I have been there and the trick is is that you take 50.00 and go get liquer and a great cd, have a friend come by and take your phone internet and car keys. crank the music (hopefully something up lifting) cry, say your **** yous and pass out with the thought of that you are better than her and you will work your *** off and beat her at her own game. heres a great quote..."the grass is allways greener over the septic tank" ttyl bud

Answer 10

Focus on yourself, learn from mistakes and move on. Whatever you decide to do next, money is important so don't let this problem affect your job or business. Be a good father, your children deserve at least one good parent.