my husband has sent other women on his hi5 very inappropriate messages is that just betrayal or is it a form of cheating
2007-06-30 11:17:50 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
these messages are concerning sex and he has talk to lots of them
2007-06-30 11:30:23 · update #1
If it's something you wouldn't do in front of your spouse, then it's probably cheating.
Have him send me something inappropriate............I'll dry up his wet dream!
2007-06-30 11:25:57 · answer #1 · answered by Ella 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He's addicted, not just obsessed. It's not just that he doesn't want to stop, he may even mean it when he promises to stop, he just can't stop. You should confront him about it, and say that this porn thing, and the lying and breaking promises about it, are starting to seriously affect your ability to trust him. If he turns it around on you, you can easily turn it back: yes, you went into his computer to see if there was porn there. You didn't trust him... and you would have something to apologize for if you hadn't found it all over the place, but you did. After all the broken promises you can't trust him any more. And he's probably getting to have a hard time trusting you, and that is not a good sign for the future of the relationship. Tell him you need counseling as a couple, if you want to really work on things. Talk to the counselor about this issue, and the counselor may suggest that your husband seek treatment for porn addiction.
2016-05-19 22:33:04 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
For my husband it would be betrayal. We have ground rules and a line that cannot be crossed. Talking about being intimate is breaking a rule of ours that we both set a long time ago. So I would have to say it depends on your relationship with your husband. Some people have very open relationships and others have very conservative relationships. But if it bothers you then it is not appropriate and you should discuss your feelings with your husband.
2007-06-30 12:15:46 · answer #3 · answered by Jas 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not cheating per say, but still very disrespectful and thoughtless of him to do. He is MARRIED and he isn't respecting you. How would HE feel if you did this? Not only that, if this was done to me, it would make me start thinking about what else he might be doing that I don't know about. You need to have a talk with him before it gets more out of hand that it already is.
2007-06-30 11:25:47 · answer #4 · answered by glittereyedg 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We men tend to be very simple. If we do not get satisfied at home we get it someplace else. I think his behaviors is a sing of a lack of something. (Passion, excitement etc.) In a very mature form try to find out what he needs. Why is he doing this? His reasons will determine if he is cheating or not. But, better yet, you both should be able to communicate your needs and become a better partners.
2007-06-30 11:27:28 · answer #5 · answered by azulladosiempre 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to decide the answer to that question. It's a matter of how much you trust your husband, what his nature is, and how much slack you are willing to cut him. Personally, I would consider it a "talk" worthy offense, but definitely not cheating. Also, it depends on whether it stops at the messages, or goes further. Don't spy, just confront him and ask him what he is thinking.
2007-06-30 11:21:47 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i assume the message was sexual in nature. ask your husband this. if you sent the same message to a man what would he think? most likely he wouldn't like it, hate it even.
your husband is cheating on you. plain and simple. he has probably already done something or he really want to--and eventually will.
you have to decide if you want to be with a man who is a sneak, a liar and a cheat.
2007-07-04 10:09:45 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think sending anyone inappropriate messages is both a form of cheating and a betrayl, in this case.
Find out how far this online relationship has gone, why he is doing it and either leave him or force him to mend his ways.
If you decide to stay and it happens again, leave.
2007-06-30 11:22:58 · answer #8 · answered by Melanie J 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
This is NOT ok. Your husband is completely disrespecting you. If he has certain needs that he thinks are being fulfilled by doing this, then he needs to speak to you and have you fulfill those needs. This is not acceptable, how would he feel if you were doing that? If you allow this what will you allow in the future???
2007-06-30 11:34:46 · answer #9 · answered by Sha Sha 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's not betrayal or cheating. A good fantasy life is healthy. Until your computer has a pus-y installed that your husband can use, online flirting is harmless. He fantsizes about girls online, but he pulls YOUR skirt down to get some action.
2007-06-30 11:28:28 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
Well in the eyes of God when people marry it is heart, mind, body and soul ! So yeah that betrayel is cheating !
2007-06-30 11:27:10 · answer #11 · answered by lonewolf 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋