My ex cheated on me with a married woman. Now they're married to each other. I know very well the reasons for cheating. So, from those of us that stayed or stay faithful in our marriages, why did we/do we do that? I'd like to hear from those of us who did the right thing for a change. I didn't cheat because I took my vows seriously. And I was willing to do anything to save my marriage, including counseling. He wasn't.
2007-06-30 10:25:46 · 12 answers · asked by wc2ketey 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Oh...I forgot to mention that I was married 25 years.
2007-06-30 10:50:42 · update #1
Because I love my husband and would never want to cause him pain. Trust is a necessity in a relationship and cheating removes trust. its like having a perfect recipe and taking away the flour, it will never turn out ok.
2007-06-30 11:10:06 · answer #1 · answered by Sweet Serenity 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I also took my vows seriously because that means I give my word to the man I married. Trust is something I take seriously and thankfully, my husband does, too.
We also are Christians and take our faith seriously and believe in hell as the alternative for making bad choices. Plus, we love each other very much and don't want to hurt the other person so we are quick to discuss problems if we have any and we are both quick to apologize to the other if we do or say something we shouldn't have.
We are both committed to making our marriage work and that sometimes takes extra work to fight temptations that could cause us to want to stray.
Anytime a person is tempted, they need to immediately close the door that leads to that temptation, even to the point of cutting off friendships with someone. I know many ministers that was going to take a woman other than his wife to visit someone in the hospital but he always took a third party if his wife couldn't go. No temptation for anyone, plus it kept the gossips at bay.
Take your time getting to know someone and look for any red flags and most of all, don't think you can change them after you marry. "They" have to be willing to make those changes (and do it) before you take your vows.
So sorry you had to go through this but hope and pray you can find someone worthy of your trust and love next time.
May God continue to help you heal and bless you through the years to come
2007-06-30 17:43:12 · answer #2 · answered by KittyKat 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2007-06-30 17:36:41 · answer #3 · answered by bylovemagic 1 · 1⤊ 3⤋
Some of us dont cheat because we dont need the headache. Cheating is for wimps and sluts that want it all and cant make it on their own and are afraid of losing stuff. To me its better to take the hit and move on to someone else without having to look over my shoulder or feel guilty. Stuff can be replaced--your dignity --not so easy
2007-06-30 19:54:27 · answer #4 · answered by Vegas Mike 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Does the reason really matter? Isnt it all about being happy? People that dont cheat are happy with themselves. People that do cheat are not happy with them selves and looking for someone to make them happy. Have a Happy Life
2007-06-30 18:32:25 · answer #5 · answered by Stephen d 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
77% of men cheat befor thier 10th year of marrage. and your husband cheated on you so you know they do. why stay in a marrage if your live partner cheats it,s disrespecting you on his part. you diseve better from a man.
2007-06-30 17:34:45 · answer #6 · answered by i,m here if you need to talk. 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Because I have better morals.
I never wanted to hurt anyone the way that I was hurt!
2007-06-30 17:36:43 · answer #7 · answered by MommaBear 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
didnt cheat cuz i dont want to be a waiter. i dont want to be serving up sea food like crabs to my partner
2007-06-30 17:30:00 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
because they are committed and love their spouse..It is a shame that most of the time one of the spouse is not as commited as the other...
2007-06-30 18:21:37 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You answered your own question!SOME PEOPLE DON'T take their vows SERIOUSLY!
2007-06-30 17:38:56 · answer #10 · answered by Klingon 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋