You don't hate them. You just like them.
2007-06-30 09:42:12 · 34 answers · asked by 2Jaded 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I am married with NO children.
2007-06-30 10:59:59 · update #1
I've done that, been there. Won't do it again for certain. I am working on not rebounding, and / or falling for anyone, anytime too soon. Of all the people in the world, why should I expect to stay with someone I know isn't "it"?
I'm not exactly self-centered, but I know this is my life, and nobody is going to ruin it except possibly me.
Life is way too short to spend it in bad shoes, polyester clothes, and poor relationships. \
2007-06-30 09:48:44 · answer #1 · answered by RICKY 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You don't say whether you are married, have kids, whatever. But my two cents is this...life is short and you deserve to be happy. In my life right now I have that situation...I am married, been married for 14 years and while I no longer love the man I am still living with him for the kids sake and I tell you it is hard. I hate when he touches me but I don't say anything because I can't afford to live on my own. I have tried to address the issues and make our marriage happier but it has not changed the way I feel so at this point I am just in limbo...waiting for the kids to grow up and move out. In my case I do have the oldest moving out next month so that will help then when I can get the second one to move on (17) I will get on with my life. I just don't want to do anything to make their lives any harder than they have to be until they are on their own then I will have my freedom. Sometimes I feel like I am not being fair to my spouse but at the same time he seems to be getting what he needs from the relationship even though I am not and he does not want to give me what I need so that is that.
In your case, if you have no kids, no reason to stay, move on..no sense wasting time with someone you are not passionate about
2007-06-30 10:42:48 · answer #2 · answered by Unluckyinlove 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe that marriage is something you should take very seriously. You don't just wake up one day and look at someone and say to yourself, Gee I don't think I love this person anymore.....If you have looked into why your not inlove and what you could do to fix your marriage and feel that there is no saving it, than I say get a DIVORCE. Nobody should spend there life with someone they don't love and that doesn't make them happy...I would honestly spend sometime thinking about how you truly feel and why you feel this way and then make a move....Try talking to that person and express that you feel like you have fallen out of love and why, once you figured out why......I wish you all the best and hope you can make the right choice for you!
2007-06-30 09:56:18 · answer #3 · answered by benzmom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first are you married? If yes, do you have children? If your children are very small you might have to suck it up until they are old enough to understand. There is no way I could leave my wife because we have two small boys. There is no way I would loose the time and experience watching them grow and become men just because I did not love my spouse anymore. In the case of marriage, you chose to commit to that relationship and you should not punish your children because you made a mistake. Anyone who does not agree with me is just too selfish to think about who is really getting hurt in the split.
2007-06-30 09:51:32 · answer #4 · answered by gonzos139 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here is a great little book that speaks to what it takes for a good relationship. It is called Dancing with Dragonflies. It is on amazon.com. Check it out. It is packaged as a childrens book but the message is there for more mature readers.
2007-06-30 09:50:54 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
cut your loses. even if kids are involved, if you've gone down the avenue seeking counseling etc. and there is still a love loss then move on. you are not setting any kind of example for the kids by staying in a loveless relationship.
I was relieved when my parents divorced.
It really depends on so many factors though. All the best to you.
2007-06-30 10:02:14 · answer #6 · answered by Dreamlover 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are talking about marriage, yes, you stay. If it is not marriage, no, go, look around.
You might take inventory of what real love is - it is not always excitement. Make sure you are not setting yourself up to just keep moving from one person to the next when you reach a stable relationhip and it is not all the excitement of the initial meeting.
2007-06-30 10:57:17 · answer #7 · answered by moonmother2000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm there now, it's complicated we have a daughter together. I'm not sure I want to spend the rest of my life with him but, I guess I'm not ready to turn mine and my kids lives upside by leaving. So yes I'm staying with someone I don't love anymore.
2007-06-30 09:48:52 · answer #8 · answered by Steffy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I wouldn't. I guess it might be different if we had been married 50 years and we were just closer FRIENDS than really "in love" anymore. But if I was young and we were just dating? Heck yeah, I'd dump him - life is way too short to live in a passionless, loveless r'ship.
2007-06-30 09:48:26 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
For the last 8 years...
2007-06-30 09:51:10 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋