Why do you need self-confidence if you want to survive college/university? What do they do to you? -_-?

Question

I just heard that you need self-confidence, and lots of it.

What exactly do they do to you in college/university?

I'm still in high school, and everyone i know would say I'm the master of self-doubt.

So why exactly do you need confidence? Is it absolutely necessary?

Personally, I don't have much confidence, but I'm doing fine in high school. So what's so different about university then?

Thanks ^_^

Answer 1

Confidence is key for anything in life. A perfect example is simply politics, debates, or the UN. If you come off as sounding super confident and knowing your stuff, people will believe you no matter what you are advocating.

College isn't bad. I am a Junior in college right now and I attend a huge 50,000+ student college. It is very competitive and the reason why I think confidence is important is because college is competitive. Most people do not go to college. You are one of the few "elite", so-to-speak, to have the chance and brains to go to college.

Personally, I don't know many people in my classes. I know the people I hang out with, live with, and spend time with. We don't share any classes in common and class is just lecture most of the time so you sit there and take notes and have no time to talk to anyone beside you to any reasonable extent.

So you need to be confident in approaching people. You need to ask for help when you need it, people will help you because helping someone in school is one of the best ways to learn yourself--it tests you. Furthermore, confidence is required in knowing for yourself that you will do good. You will get good grades. You will have great friends. You will have a great time and draw something invaluable from your college experience.

So in a nutshell, you need to believe in yourself. You very well may end up having to study for a final examination by yourself because you don't know anyone else in the class. You need to feel comfortable approaching your Teaching Assistant when you need help. You have to feel confident that no one is going to judge you on a question you ask. In the end, if you feel good about yourself and trust your own judgement, you will do better than if you relied on those of others.

Finally, the high school and college transition is not easy. I am going to college about 3000miles away from my hometown and my family. Yet I love it here. I am having a blast and I must say that as you move on in college, you will gain more and more confidence if you start trusting yourself more. It is not absolutely necessary, to answer your question, but it is most beneficial. As you can see from above, college and high school are quite different.

I hope this answers your question, feel free to contact me if not.

Answer 2

More nonsense from the self-esteem movement, I'm afraid. Some of my best students have had relatively little self-confidence, and some of the poorest are convinced against all evidence of how wonderful they are.

What matters is not what you think of yourself, but what you do about it. If you don't have much confidence, and so you give up before you ever get started, of course you won't succeed. If, however, you feel you need to try harder because without that you don't stand a chance, you might do extremely well.

The only advice I would give you is to make sure you don't verbalize your lack of self-confidence too much. It gets annoying to most people when a perfectly capable person goes on and on about how worthless they are, as if they were begging others to contradict them.

Answer 3

Probably the main difference when you go to college are the things that are easily available to you. Sex, alcohol,drugs...and everything in between. You need to be strong and have self confidence to be able to turn down all of the offers you will get to partake in these indulgences. You sound like a level headed person. I don't think it will take a lot for you to do the right thing. Good luck and the best of everything to you always!

Answer 4

Have you seen documentaries on boot camps in the Army?
Well, in a college it's 100 times harder. You have to get up at 4 AM, run 10 miles with full load of books (about 50 lbs) then they give you 3 minutes for breakfast, then you go to classes, which are taught by former military drill instructors (the ones, who were kicked out for being to strict) then they make you clean the college stadium with a tooth brush and so on till midnight.
And it's every day like this for four years.

Answer 5

when you get to college you are no longer treated like a child. Your professor gives you a syllabus which is an outline of what assignment will be due when and you will never be told about that assignment again. You will be expected to know when the assignment is due and turn it in on time. Your instructor may talk about the subject matter, but will never give you a reminder that the assignment is due. If you don't believe in yourself and your abilities to handle adult situations, you will probably not do well in college.

Answer 6

They don't "do" anything to you. You just may have trouble starting relationships because the most attractive thing about a person is their confidence. So, run around naked, be in a talent show, or just talk to people and try to boost your confidence!

Answer 7

It is what you do to yourself. Be a leader and not a follower & keep in the front of your mind the goal you and your family set all these years......a diploma with honors......and let the others fall out of the race due to poor work habits and a lack of focus.

Answer 8

You will need a lot of self consciousness to make it through college because you will be giving speeches, reading research papers, giving thesis................etc