my hubby cheated on me 2 years ago and know im the one wondering about stuff!!! ive been faithfull all my life.. to him, and forgave him, so why am i know the one thinking about stuff.. wondering about stuff?
2007-06-30 08:22:28 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Don't wonder if it was something you did; because he chose not to talk to you if something was wrong. Some people feel like they are missing out when they are only with one person; some just crave the attention of someone new. There is nothing you can do to change that. You can only decide if this is good enough for you. If you believe he is sorry and has changed then you must find a way to forgive him. If you cannot forgive him; then walk away because it will do you more harm in the end. You will eventually believe all men are cheaters and they all are not. Good luck.
2007-06-30 08:27:38 · answer #1 · answered by littleone 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2007-06-30 17:49:05 · answer #2 · answered by bylovemagic 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
TRUST! Its gone, you will keep on wondering about all kind of stuff, where he is, whats he doing, who's he doing it with. It will kill you, if you forgave him, then you need to put these things behind you, all of it. If you can't, go see someone to help you. You need to be honest and tell your hubby how you feel. He needs to help you as well. If you can't you are going to have to get out, I know its easier said than done, but can you honestly say that this is a life for you. I really feel for you, I pray that I will never be in that situation, but he 'wondering' that you do I do as well, but now if I wonder I ask him out sraight and I get an honest answer from him, but TRUST is the answer. Good luck
2007-06-30 15:31:53 · answer #3 · answered by Ella 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What exactly are you thinking about & dwelling on: a) that he cheated on you & will it happen again; OR b) that you secretly desire to do the same?
If you have made the conscious decision to make this relationship work & are still dwelling on the incident - work on your own brain & make yourself forgive & forget - or you will never be able to move forward with him in your life - especially if that is always eating away at the back of your mind.
If you are secretly holding a desire to cheat on your husband or have an 'interest' in someone other than your husband - think before you act!
If you want to make things work with your husband - make this 'interest' work in your favor - use the IDEA of him/her as a fantasy to increase desire with your current partner.
If you feel that you need to cheat, if the desire is too strong and you have to go outside your marriage - be honest & explain to your husband what is going on - if you two have to separate in order for you to get yourself back in check - than do so. But do not make the same mistake your husband made with you.
Cheating hurts alot of people. I ahve been there, done that & speak from personal experience.
2007-06-30 16:06:43 · answer #4 · answered by tristaC77 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tishie, Dear been there done that ! I too was true and got repeatedly cheated on !Forgave her at first but it contiued so we divorced ! Many years has passed but my mind still drifts back and I wonder what if- - - - Then I just snap out of it and realize that I was not the cheater and that life goes on !
2007-06-30 15:43:36 · answer #5 · answered by lonewolf 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have you truly forgiven him? Check with your doc to see if there is a reason for an increased libido. Are you in love with your hubby, if so then talk to him about your fantasies, if not then get a divorce. If you cheat and then divorce, it could make him crazy! Cheating is just wrong on every level. But hey! he did, maybe he will give you a freebie if you are just looking to get freaky with someone else. Ask, be honest, and remain committed to your relationship.
2007-06-30 15:30:03 · answer #6 · answered by Spanglish 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u will always wonder if he loves u or not, because once u get betrayed u really never get past it. takes a long time to move on once it happens. u will always wonder why, and think about it, but therapy might help u alot. cheating hurts our self worth makes us feel less of a person, and we will always wonder if it will happen again to us.
2007-06-30 20:18:04 · answer #7 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok look u have to Safe ur self is good that u forgave hem u will get from good ok but don't think about the staffs
2007-06-30 15:29:51 · answer #8 · answered by iceage 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why wonder move on, think about all the stuff you
can do with your husband.
2007-06-30 17:02:01 · answer #9 · answered by Krissy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well im more of a revenge person myself, so id go out and cheat on him too. if he got mad i'd say it was only fair. then we could move on from there'
And your not alone, i think about cheating on him all the time!
2007-06-30 15:29:19 · answer #10 · answered by Sizzle® 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋