Marriage is different than a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship, where if one is always not in the mood or is doing a crappy job at pleasing the other, they can end the relationship.
But in a marriage... well it's supposed to be until death. What incentive is there for the guy to keep working out and staying in shape or for the woman to not baloon up and gain 50 lbs (ie stop being attractive to each other) when they're married for life . Does the sex cease to be satisficatory. Do married couples stop finding each other attractive?
2007-06-30 08:07:18 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Nope.
After all, this one person, out of all the partners you've ever had, has invested a lot of time in learning exactly what pleases you, the same as you have about him or her.
More important, as the love in a solid marriage grows, looks matter less. (Good thing, since none of us is getting younger.) The feeling of being deeply loved and sincerely desired, coupled with the certainty that this person is going to give you a complete meltdown, euphemistically speaking, is more erotic than any beautiful stranger.
2007-06-30 08:18:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, I've been married for 11 yrs Oct 25th and together for 13. I've just had my third child and gained (haha) 50 lbs during the pregnancy. I gained 50 lbs with my second as well, by the way. I make sure to lose it all though. I am back down to a size 0 now and it took me 3 mos. It is worth it though. God commands us to take care of our bodies and to look our best for our spouse. If we do and we live our lives for the Lord as we should, everything else falls into place. Now having 3 kids, believe me, we know the meaning of no sex life, lol. This is why it is so important to stay connected with each other in other ways. So important to be creative. Lingerie every night can become a pain, a chore and routine, but every now and then makes it more special and rekindles the passion. Marriage is a constant work, but it is so worthwhile and so very rewarding.
2007-06-30 08:25:02 · answer #2 · answered by Mom of 3 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I've been with the same man for over 15 years and we've been married for nearly 8. We met in high school and I am now pregnant with our fourth child. I can honestly say that he is more than just my husband...he's my best friend and our sex life gets better with each passing year. Neither of us are fat or have stopped caring about what we look like, but I don't think a person stays looking good for someone else! I want to look good for me... People who say that once you get married your sex life goes down the drain are married to the wrong person!
2007-06-30 08:36:55 · answer #3 · answered by andiw 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have to tell ya, a LARGE percentage of men gail 50 lbs after getting married too. Don't have kids, and sex should stay great for a while! I've also learned that it sometimes helps to close your eyes and pretend you are doing someone completely different! :) I know, it's terrible. But hey, whatever works!
2007-06-30 08:26:38 · answer #4 · answered by mary rachel 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
every relationship gets old.. that's why so many ppl try to do new things to make it more interesting.. If you can figure ways to make things new again, then go for it..
As for staying attracted to the other person, well, just be yourself.. everyone goes through life changes, you just have to make sure the person you're with willlove you no matter what challenges life may bring.
2007-06-30 09:39:31 · answer #5 · answered by yayitssonya 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A good marriage is like a fine wine - the older it is, the better it is
of course, the same-old-same-old can get less enthusiastic but that's when you have to WORK at keeping the joy in the relationship and in the intimacy.
books (NOT porn.) can offer suggestions to keep the flame there
2007-06-30 16:41:57 · answer #6 · answered by sugarpie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex becomes less of an effort in a marriage after 2 years, but then you havesomeone who understands your body, so you don't have to "try" so hard anymore, it gives you comfort and make sex more relaxing and not a big issue to worry about.
2007-06-30 10:26:32 · answer #7 · answered by gumsy 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Dude get real, it just gets better and better each decade!
The incentive is to have fun and as long as your having fun the rest takes care of itself(I don't mean irresponsible party as. clown either)
fantasy exploration, comes with maturity, hmmmm.
Old Guy
2007-06-30 08:30:44 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES but only for me, but I had a bad marriage to go along with this.
2007-06-30 08:10:17 · answer #9 · answered by kim t 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yup happens all the time. its life. thats why you have to make that effort to appear appealing to your partner. quite frankly if you give up on your appearance, you have given up on your marriage and you are taking your partner for granted. like ok i am a slob and you still have to love me anyway. thats disrespecting your partner.
2007-06-30 08:20:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋