i am very concerned about my uncle. ever since he got out of the navy he has been "hanging out" or "dating" a woman that i consider to be a detriment to him. she bugged him until he finally said yes to dating her. now he is doing drugs ( she has been doing them for a while) and he is so skinny its not funny. she writes and says stuff about me that is not true. she thinks she is more important than his family. she spends every second of her time with him, gave up her kids to be with him and has no job. they fight all the time about things that are really childish. i don't like her and i have let my uncle know this. i feel she has something up her selve. he tells me to try to be nice to her because she basically lives here with my grandfather, my uncle and myself but, they sleep, eat and basically spend all their time out in a broken down van. i am so worried about what this is doing to my uncle's health i just don't know what to do.
2007-06-30 07:56:05 · 4 answers · asked by *~green eyez~* 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
They are both grown ups.
Nothing you can do.
You can only worry about the things in life that you have control over. The things you can't control you have to stop stressing over.
Your uncle is a grown man making his own decisions.
2007-06-30 08:59:16 · answer #1 · answered by Mr R 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have made your opinion of his gf clear to him, then there comes a time when you just need to stand back and try some tough love. Your uncle is a grown man and is responsible for his behavior. You can love someone and not like their lifestyle or who they choose to spend it with. I know , from personal experience, that the only things in life I can change are the things that are directly in my control. Like the way you think and act toward things. All you can do is let him know that you love him. Don't waste time spent with him bitchin about his decisions, when there is a perfect opportunity to have some quality time with him. Sounds like you are feeling a little left out. Put yourself in his shoes...would you like to spend time with someone that constantly rode your back, in the name of love? Sometimes all they really need is for you to love them, no matter what.
2007-06-30 15:10:12 · answer #2 · answered by gitargal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I so wanted to help, but alas I can not. Sorry!
Good Luck!!!
2007-06-30 15:14:54 · answer #3 · answered by bobalo9 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
call the cops
2007-07-04 07:19:44 · answer #4 · answered by cheri h 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋