2007-06-30 07:51:34 · 30 answers · asked by rocccj 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Low will power, low self esteem, weak moral fiber. Any of those reasons.
2007-06-30 07:53:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Cheating and starting affairs usually happens as adults enter their mid fourties and have somewhat of a mid-life crisis and have a need to reassure themselves they can still keep the attention of the opposite sex. After being married to the same person for a couple of decades it can get old dealing with that persons BS and they go out and have an affair partly out of getting back at their person, but also cause they're getting old and they realize it.
Having an affair can also excite the daily routine. People start getting those butterflies in their stomach again and are happy to know that someone is thinking of them just as they are. It's almost like a kid sneaking an extra cookie, they may only be getting just an extra cookie, but the excitement while doing it adds to the pleasure.
What is really bad about married affairs is that they ALWAYS affect the family negatively. Even if the spouse never finds out for sure that their husband or wife was cheating on them, you can still see an obvious difference in how they treat each other and often times it leads to the destruction of the family. So the kids pay for it more than anyone else, cause that is their mommy and daddy who are fooling around.
2007-06-30 08:03:02 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Men and women are really nothing more than complex animals. We have the ability to fight and deny ourselves those things with which our most basic instincts tell us to do. This ability is derived from a sense of morality and ethics that was decided upon by some one other than yourself. We are taught from the very beginning that cheating and adultry is wrong. In the beginning (Code of Hammurabi) committing adultry was purely an economic matter. How do you divide property amongst your relatives through a legal marriage and your illegitimate children??? Then religion took hold adultry for similar but slightly different reasons.
There are many reasons why some people either develop their own moral and ethical standards or give in to their most primal of instincts. It is not for us to judge them because for as much as we try to deny it none of us are really that different. None of us are the samepeople we were ten years ago and I bet we will all be different in many ways ten years from now. Relationships work this way as well, you and your partner either grow together or grow apart over time. Its simply life and it happens regardless of who's morality and ethics we try to live by. Set your own rules, harm no one in your actions and the rest us cannot complain. If adultry is harming you, your spouse or someone else Do Not Do It! If it harms no one have at it, have fun and good luck!
2007-06-30 08:29:12 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think its because they feel its "safe". There is no chance of the other wanting more because they are both bound to other people. Now as to why people cheat its a mystery to me. For some people its getting what they don't at home but if they would talk about it they probably could get it at home. Other people i think just have no conscience telling them whats right and wrong and don't care. Some people are just immoral and self-centered.
2007-07-07 09:46:46 · answer #4 · answered by Amanda W 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do people cheat in general? I don't know... the thrill? The lack of a spark in their own relationship...? *shrugs* Not my concern. If you don't like cheating, then just don't do it.
If you mean they cheat TOGETHER as in married couples meet other married couples to get together and have sex, then that would be called the swingers lifestyle. Hey, if they want to do that, I support them. I personally don't care.
2007-06-30 07:55:04 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Because they have no morals. I was married for 8 years and when the marriage was almost over my ex told me that she would not cheat on me until we were seperated, atleast she had the decency to wait.
2007-07-04 15:37:26 · answer #6 · answered by paul s 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Married men and married women who cheat on their partners have a flaw within themselves. They are looking for a quick fix, to make themselves feel better. However, it does not fix their original problem which led them to cheat in the first place.
People think the grass is greener on the other side. It is not.
2007-06-30 07:56:08 · answer #7 · answered by suespie471 2 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Because they don't have a clue that their weakness of morals will have a devastating result in the long run. One way or another, someone is going to suffer major heartbreak and betrayal.
2007-07-07 07:20:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some cheat because they can't commit themselves with one partner and some cheat because they are unhappy in the marriege
2007-07-04 23:58:02 · answer #9 · answered by Rissiepit 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Monogamy is not natural to the human species. Marriage is a social institution. It is beneficial but it is not natural and is many times overruled by this instinct to take different mates.
2007-07-03 21:07:29 · answer #10 · answered by platocrates 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't know.
I have been contacted by so very many, many men via the Internet looking for some "side action". Its DISGUSTING! They don't feel any guilt about cheating on their wife(ves).
Its gotten to the point where one of the first questions I ask someone is if they are married and if they are actually honest and tell me yes, then I tell them goodbye and block them.
2007-06-30 07:55:37 · answer #11 · answered by deb35802 2 · 2⤊ 3⤋