I was with this guy for 2 and a half years. He was my very first boyfriend. It started really nice but we had a very nasty breakup. He started talking to his ex which made me break up with him. It has been a year since this happened and I have no feelings for him at all. I know he is not the right guy for me. But the fact that they are still together bothers me. I feel very very disrespected because he got with her right after we broke up. There were pictures of the everywhere on the internet which was so so hurtful. How do I stop to feel this burden on my shoulder, how do I remove this negative baggage? Please help. I feel weird and angry when ever I see the other girl, even when her name is mentioned but all I want is to not feel this way. I just want to have peace and if anyone have any idea how I can get there, either from personal experience or from reading my story please share. thanks
2007-06-30 07:09:27 · 8 answers · asked by truth 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
it will take time before you stop hurting
2007-07-04 00:18:50 · answer #1 · answered by cheri h 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know it hurts your heart but aren't you glad you know this now, and can start the healing process. How you stop the burn den on your shoulders is to remember that he is gone and believe me he will be on someone Else's shoulders not your anymore. He was a player and didn't love you the way he should have, that's his loss. Take back your heart, and don't let go of it lightly anymore. Yes he disrespected you, and showed others, what type of person he is. Pray for peace in your heart, and it will come in time. Each time these two cross your mind be thankful that baggage is no more mine. Time heals all wounds.
2007-06-30 15:25:25 · answer #2 · answered by carmel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It has been a year since the break up. It is really time for you to stop dwelling on the past and move on. You have already said you have no feelings for him, so why are you letting his current relationship upset you so much, especially after a year has passed. Stop spending so much time on the internet looking at their pictures and get out and do something more productive. Volunteer with Habitat for Humanity or some other organization. Get involved with your church, or if you don't go to church consider doing so. Join a bowling league, exercise class, or something to meet new people. When you start to feel bad, go to a park and feed the ducks or just go on a walk. The quickest way to change how you feel is to change your environment.
2007-06-30 14:28:28 · answer #3 · answered by Sadiqua 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know that it is hard to get over the deceit and hurt they inflicted on you. But, by letting this bother you a year later you are letting them win. Close your eyes and think of everything about them that bothers you. When you do this you will tighten with the stress. Inhale deeply through your nose and exhale through your mouth. Shake it out through your fingers like you just washed your hands and there are no paper towels. Do this until all of the tension is gone. Keep breathing and with every breath let a piece of them go. Don't keep it inside your better than that! I can't make the dislike of seeing her go away but, just know she probably likes the fact that she still gets to you. Don't let her win. She got him and your better off-Tell yourself that everyday!
2007-06-30 14:27:20 · answer #4 · answered by lovely 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
alot of times men go back to the old x and let them do that they are only hurting themselves cause one time or natoher it will mostly break up again there was reasons before and it will pop up again why would you be bothered by this you dnt' care. i know its just interesting to hear what is going on but hey forget and forgive and get on with life.
2007-07-03 22:52:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know how you feel i just broke up bowt a week ago and were best friends now but he iz goin to ask this girl out 2DAY itz goona bother me to but i got told that you should be strong show that your not bothered coz that will do his head in then shout and cry to a friend that will listen about it and you will feel better. they should leave you alone a little bit more i think.
2007-06-30 14:15:50 · answer #6 · answered by kimmy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, I know its hard when you loose your first love. it is hard.... but it sounds like you may still have feelings for him. I dunno.... i know when my ex gf broke up with me, I never saw it coming.. we were together for 3 years. at first I felt the same way. I saw the other guy I got so angry.... i saw her I just went the other way. but I soon realized that she wasn't the right one.... i know someone is out there. that there is that special one. and when your perfect person.... you will be totally blind sided by him.
you have to try and let him go..... if he would treat you like this, then he would do the same to someone else....
but it does sound like he is to immature for you anyway.....
keep your head up....
2007-06-30 14:26:56 · answer #7 · answered by William M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give yourself time to heal. Theres no way to eliminate hurt, only lessen its damage. talk to freinds and make new freinds. Keep your mind occupied.
2007-06-30 14:13:44 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋