Do you think age 19 is too young to get married?

Question

I'm asking because my friend is 18 and he is engaged to this girl and they plan on getting married next summer which he will be 19

Answer 1

well, it depends on whats going on in there life, r they in college? going to college? it all depends but if they love each other and arn't rushing things, then its ok.

Answer 2

I was that age when I married my first wife and at the time believed that we would be together forever. Well at 19 there are still plenty of things to learn and changes for everyone to go through. This marriage lasted for 2 years and 1 day. We did have a beautiful son now aged 32 years old with 2 young daughters of his own. His mother and I are good friends today, both remarried and supportive of each other. We realize that we married far to early in our lives, but hindsight is a wonderful thing. So I guess what I am trying to say is that yes I do believe that 19 is far to young and tender a age to devote the remainder of your life to another person.

Answer 3

It all depends on the maturity of the people involved, as well as their life circumstances. I would say that in our age it's probably too young, because you really need to go to college to be successful and make something of yourself. Of course, there are exceptions, and a lot of young people are very entrepreneurial and mature. Our grandparents, and those of their generation, all got married at around 17-19. But time were different, and a 17 year old was a lot more mature, and had many more opportunities back then. So think about that.

Answer 4

Take it from my experience. Yes, it's too early to get married! I was married at 18. Our marriage is still together, but it took a LOT of work...more than I can ever begin to tell you.

Possible? Yes, but that usually means giving up a lot of things. First of all, people go through a lot of changes between the ages of 18 and 25, and then even more between 25 and 30. So even though they're in love now, who's to say that they will both be the same people when they get older?

Second of all, the instability of being so young is trying also. Chance are, he and his wife will be working and going to school at the same time, which means they won't be able to spend as much time together. This will help deepen the gap in their relationship.

Third, they probably won't have a lot of support from family and friends. I sure didn't! No one out there was willing to tell me how to deal with things. I had to learn it all on my own, which made things very difficult. I hurt many people in my life when I got married so young.

And lastly, there is bound to be a lot of resentment when they get a little bit older and realize that they didn't get to experience life.

Answer 5

I was married at 19 and am now divorced. I remarried in my mid 20's. I don't think that 19 is necessarily too young. Age makes a difference, but so does the person you are marrying.

As a friend, suggest they get pre marital counseling. If they don't want counseling, suggest they thoroughly go over their life plans. They need to talk openly and honestly about their views on finances, children, politics, religion, in laws, goals,sex, ....the list goes on!

They are planning a ceremony for a year from now, so they aren't rushing. Just help keep their feet on the ground and they will make their own decisions.

If they are acting mature and responsible, you should be happy for them and celebrate the happy occasion.

Answer 6

It can be too young for some couples and then some couples the marriage can and will work out. My sister was married at 19 and her husband was 22. They have 2 grown sons and 3 grandchildren. They have been married for 36 years. My nephew was married at 19 and has been married for 13 years. If it is meant to be then it will work out for the couple.

Answer 7

I definitely think it is to young. I know that some people have done it and lasted but, that was in the 50's. This day and age changes occur daily. At 19 you haven't even experienced half of what you will go through as an adult. You must first go through your own changes and become the person you are going to be to fully be able to commit yourself to someone else. Don't get me wrong love is true and out there it is just a huge step to say I am going to love you forever when you can't promise that.

Answer 8

I think 19 for a guy is really young! But since theyre already engaged then all you can do is wish them the best of luck. Besides, if they get married at such a young age then they can have like a 70th or 80th anniversary and not a lot of couples have that =)

Answer 9

There could be a way! My bro was 19/ fresh outta hs. And he and his wife arent together. BUT! I dont think it was the age that did them in. I think that if you are strong and know that it is God (or whom ever you my believe in) then nothing can stop you. BUT if you are doing it for ANY other reason...ie just to get out of mom & dad's house then of course it wont work. I also know a couple who have known each other 10 year, married 5 yrs and they are strong in their marriage. Its all about being in tune with your maturity and being in tune with what God wants for the two of you.
Im also getting married next summer and I was told I was too young as well (Im 21, will be 22 next year) I didn't listen because I know where my heart is and I know that it is God's will for me and my fiancee to be together.
PS- remember either way you (or your friend) goes, it's always cheaper to keep her!

Answer 10

yes...i do believe that's too young. At 19 you haven't met enough people to know that you've found the one. A person has to much more growing up to do and maybe in a few years if they get married they will grow apart and be totally different people and things could not work out. I think waiting until a person is secure financially and personally is good to do. Being your own person and waiting to share it with someone else forever.

Answer 11

No, it is not too young. As soon as people are at the legal age of marrying, they are OK to get married. That is WHY they call it LEGAL age to get married. I wish your friend and his girl good luck. My sister got married at 19 as well and have 4 children now, and his husband still loves her dearly. So go for it , I say.