or it's way too much for you?
2007-06-30 06:24:34 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Arts & Humanities ➔ Philosophy
I think that only God the father and Jesus can do that. If I love someone with all my heart and then they defile me and cheat and brag about it and abuse me in all manners, that love will be seriously injured. Although once I love someone, there is a part of me that wishes them success and happiness inspite of the breakup. I know that sounds a bit weird.
2007-06-30 10:37:51 · answer #1 · answered by Magic Mouse 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a good question because I've met so many people who don't have good relationships with parents, siblings and now have ex-spouses. I've wondered at how easily they become intolerant, were willing to throw away the relationship sometimes for little or nothing. I've been a daughter, sister, wife and mother. The people in my life are human not gods and they have made mistakes as have I. I have been happy with them and I've been angry with them but I've never stopped loving them nor they me. My mom used to say that when you point your finger at someone look at you hand because your thumb is pointing at you and your part of the problem. For every action there is a reaction and I think if we take responsibility for our own actions as part of the relationship we understand that the loved one is no more god like than we are and we can give and receive that unconditional love.
2007-07-01 13:31:23 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would if only I knew what it was.
Really. I didn't get any, even from my own family. So it's really a question of being "born blind" here on the subject, you're asking me about "unconditional love" when some days I wonder out loud if "love" isn't just another four-letter word, an imaginary construct that people use and abuse to explain and justify their less rational behavior....
Some days I wonder if people don't just mean "I use you" when they say "I love you".
And I really don't know what to say to that. I try to be giving with people, almost to a fault, whenever I get a fair chance to. I do my best to not be any more selfish than necessary.
But I'm not sure....I don't think I will ever be sure I know what this "love" means, never mind this "love with no strings attached".
Sorry. -_- Thanks for your time though....this is a good question!
2007-06-30 14:34:14 · answer #3 · answered by Bradley P 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm capable of giving unconditional love, under certain conditions.
P.S. There is no such thing. If you're human, you ALWAYS want and expect SOMETHING back. If you don't get it, you stop loving. Unconditional love is an illusion. If however you can think of an example of unconditional love, I'd love to hear it.
2007-06-30 13:30:24 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think that, short of the parent/child bond, unconditional love is virtually unattainable. The only true test is to have the person you love act in a manner contrary to that love - then see how you deal with it. I do not think I am capable of it.
2007-06-30 13:33:21 · answer #5 · answered by utarch 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have given unconditional love, it's usually too much for the other person. I don't do that anymore, except to my child
2007-06-30 14:32:53 · answer #6 · answered by greenie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the only one capable of giving unconditional love is God. i think that would be a little too much for any of us.
2007-06-30 13:50:00 · answer #7 · answered by Marie 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I guess not. My love (romantic love) comes with conditions:
he has to love me
he has to be honest, faithful, sincere, trustworthy
he has to be kind
he has to respect me as a person
there has to be an attraction between us
even with other kinds of (platonic) love -- family or friends -- I have conditions. Yes I adore them but if they were to betray me in some terrible way, I would find it hard to love them. If someone were cruel, immoral, did something to deliberately hurt others, then I could not forgive them. I could not forgive cruelty in anyone, not even someone I loved. It would be that much more painful to bear if someone I cared about turned out to be so different than I thought.
I guess I have a condition that people be basically good. I've seen a great deal of evil & cruelty in the world. I've seen some scary sh&*. It's made me cautious & cynical. It's hard for me to trust, but when I love & trust someone it is devestating if they betray me, turn out not to be the good person I thought.
I know it's not terribly Christian. Jesus said to "turn the other cheek" when someone strikes you. To "love your enemies & pray for your persecutors" but it's hard for me to love someone who abuses me, or abuses anyone for that matter. In fact it's impossible.
So, no I admit I am incapable of unconditional love.
2007-06-30 14:50:22 · answer #8 · answered by amp 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, I don't think I am unfortunately. I have some basic conditions....trust, respect, true kindness.
Love can be unconditional outside of those basics.
2007-06-30 19:43:46 · answer #9 · answered by Barbara 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, to everyone. I think everyone is capable. This is the true way to evolving the spiriting at high rates of speed. This is the way to be more Godly. To become highly evolved.
This is how we are supposed "To do unto others"...As Jesus said, and Shakespear, and Martin L. King Jr. and Budda, and Kirrishna, etc. GREAT QUESTION.
2007-06-30 14:05:19 · answer #10 · answered by BabyGirl~ 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋