Is age the biggest factor in predicting a woman's perspectives and tendencies?

Question

I've been burned by the last couple relationships I've had, so I'm simply trying to minimize risk. The same can be said of guys (about age being a predictor), but not to the same extent.
There are other factors, like whether she has a career that she enjoys & whether she has children from multiple men....but I think age is the most reliable predictor.
What are your thoughts?

Ah, look at her mother.

I believe women hide their bad side too well for me not to discriminate based on a few factors, especially age and now upbringing.

Answer 1

like other people have said, age isn't as important as maturity. i know many women in their 30s and even 40s who act like teenagers, and other very young women who are wise, giving, confident, secure in themselves and what they want in life, and what they want in a man. a few indicators to find someone who is mature and worth having a relationship with:

1. she has held down a steady job for a long period of time (is not flighty, irresponsible...if a woman only stays at jobs a few months then jets out when things get hard, she'll probably do the same in a relationship)

2. level of education -- did she drop out after the 10th grade? if so, was it to support her family or to party? did she go to college? if so, did she apply herself and do well or did she flunk out? these are all indicators of her attitude towards life.

3. financial independence -- does she pay her own bills, carry her own car insurance, live on her own (without anyone sending her money or maintaing her)? sorry but, if someone else has always paid her bills and you get with her, chances are in a while you will be the dupe paying her bills.

4. life experiences -- has she travelled, been exposed to different people and ideas? has she had other relationships and knows what it is like to make a relationship work (and yes it is WORK, you can only spend so much time in bed before having a conversation... if it's someone you can't stand versus someone you love and respect, that is a big difference. you can't just put your **** in her mouth when she starts talking).

5. the way she talks -- is it "I I I, me me me" if you get vibes that she is selfish or self-absorbed, run don't walk! I have been in many relationships where I was the one giving and the other person was taking, taking, taking, and acted like the world revolved around them, and it is NOT fun.

6. her beliefs -- how strong are her beliefs? do her goals and beliefs match yours? when you disagree, does she try to shove her ideas onto you and always be right or is she just secure in herself but doesn't have to put them on you?

7. in the kiss -- how does she kiss you..soft and sweet, domineering, reluctantly, impatiently (like they have better things to be doing)? you can tell a lot by her personality by how she kisses you. if she looks in your eyes when kissing you, it means she is focusing on you and your inner soul. if she closes her eyes she is savoring the physical sensations and less focused on you.

8. does she have pets -- If she is a loving and gentle person, she will like to care for animals (unless she is allergic). if she has pets is a big indicator that she will be a good caring person to you.

9. does she like to cook for you -- this is a big indicator that she is a giving person who really cares for you, especially if she takes a long time and makes something really likes like from her childhood. it's just a 1-time thing it could be gimmicky but if she likes to cook for you and cooks for you often, as they say the way to a man's heart is through his stomach..

10. if she has kids -- first of all know that you will always be 2nd to her kids. kids take up a lot of their mother's time, energy and resources so there will be less there for you. then you have the tension of being in their lives and what role you will play. it takes a very secure man to be with a women who already has kids. definitely like you say, if she has kids with multiple men it means she has had several serious failed relationships or that she doesn't know how to use birth control or both (both of which you should avoid).

11. start out as friends first. that way you can get to know her and you can both learn to be very comfortable with each other. friends hide less from each other than if you are going on a date, so she will have less chance to be dishonest about her imperfections. ;) then once you have been friends awhile if you still like her the line of "i think we should be more than friends"

12. what kind of car she drives, what drinks she likes to drink, what clothes she likes to wear, what music she likes, how she likes to relax / hobbies -- these are all indicative of her personality. does she dress in revealing and slutty clothes (skanky girl)? does she drive a really expensive car and shop at high-end stores (princess girl)?

13. if she does drugs, drinks too much, eats too much -- it's easy to overlook these at first but they are addictions and will not go away. and you will be the one bailing her out when she gets a DWI, driving her to rehab or embarassed when you go to the beach with your fat gf.

hope this helps and this is just my honest advice from my own experiences!

Answer 2

I don't find age a reliable fact for gauging anyone's beliefs or attitude. I think that selfish people tend to remain that way or become worse with age. A person is a sum total of all of their experiences negative and positive. I personally have become even more of an advocate for the underpriveledged now than when I was younger simply because I have more time. My children are older and thus more self sufficient and my first career is coming to an end. A woman that grows up in a household where patriarchy is very present and believes that women are second class citizens may very well choose that view point or else totally rebel against those ideals.
My parents brought me up to appreciate equality and diversity and to be honest with you it is a lot easier to be flexible and tolerant as a result of that.
My coworker often say that I am one of the most easiest going people they have ever worked with. Nothing fazes me.
Perhaps what is happening is that like many women you go into a relationship hoping that you will be able to persuade these women to change. This never works except in the movies.

Answer 3

I think age has a lot to do with most genders. I know you said men, too, but I disagree that it's not to the same extent. I think your age, experiences, the experiences of your generation, the zeitgeist, all of that has to do with perspectives and tendencies. Don't forget to factor in heredity.

I don't think you can minimize your risk of getting burned. Keep in mind that the only thing those relationships had in common was you. Why are choosing a certain kind of person? What kind of behavior are you engaging in that could lead to breakups? What kind of attitude and expectations do you have? People are complex and you tend to draw certain kinds of people to you based on your own perspective and tendencies.

Answer 4

Everything you're saying is just as true of men as it is of women. Take a basic psychology class and you'll see that what you're doing is a natural human reaction (though not a logical and smart one). People have a tendency to simplify other groups and believe "we're different, there's a lot of variety in the group I'm in, but in that group over there, they tend to be the same." I always think of that when you say "oh, the same is true for guys...but not to the same extent."

In my experience, age makes a huge difference in a guys thoughts and behaviors (no surprise there- people grow and mature with age, hopefully). I think most women who have had experiences in their lives dating an 18 year old and, say, 30 year olds would agree with that.

But yes, if you want a more mature partner, date people who are older. No need to bring gender into it, it's true for everyone.

Answer 5

Age does not mean a thing.

How was your relationship with your parents? Did you have an overbearing Mother or father? If you get into a relationship and stay due to familiarity issues, you may be in for a surprise.

Take charge of your own person, how you see your life to be and find someone who fits the role that you want them to be in.

Someone can be 18 or 65 and offer you that. You just need to know what you want and you will attract some one who fits the role.

When you feel a connection because you sense something comfortable or familiar with the person, unless you had a great relationship with your parents, you will not be happy longterm.

Answer 6

I just have to ask...why do you want to predict a woman's perspective?
Why not have a conversation with her about it?
I understand you don't want to get burned again. But think about this: you can get to know a person before you make an emotional investment. Then, if she is not compatible for any reason, you can move on. No investment, no burn. Seems like that is what the first couple of dates are (or should be) about.... just getting acquainted without making a major emotional investment.

Answer 7

Nope also it could be a good one. Sometimes older women can be very bitter and cranky. I know some younger women who are much nicer and caring than older women.
Chances are, if she has kids she is much more likely to stay with you as long as you can provide for her. If you can't she may be tempted to leave and fine someone else. If she has children from multiple men I really don't think it's a good idea to get involved with her in a relationship. I mean, what happened to the men? Did she just ditch them? Did she cheat on them? She could do it to you.
In my opinion the biggest factor is... how she was raised, what are her views on the world. Ask her what are her views on the world and see how open minded and stuff she is before you start date #4.

Answer 8

i think experience is the biggest predicting factor. Experience result in positive or negative change in perspective depending on what the individual chooses to make of it. But yes, I will say experience, more than age, predicts a woman (or man's) perspective and tendencies

Answer 9

One major difference is whether or not they are married. In fact, politicians have studied this phenomenon, and the ideological differences between married and single women are much larger than the differences between the average woman and the average man, or between married and single men.

This may not really serve your purposes however. :-) I do find that there are some major generational differences between baby boomers, gen xers, and millenials. There are quite a few interesting books on the topic. "13th Gen" is one about Gen Xers that is particularly good, but a few books have illustrated the differences between several gnerations in our society.

Answer 10

I would say age plays a factor, though it is not as strong as maturity; in this case maturity is the biggest factor. Being a certain age doesn't mean the person carries the maturity of that age. Anyways this is my thought.

Answer 11

Nah, i dont think age is the biggest factor in predicting a woman's perspectives and tendencies... i think its just the way she was raised that will determine it.