If a person cheats and the fling is very very romantic and highly sexual but the partner is absolutely devasted - was it worth it?
If the partner on taking them back goes on and on about the cheating - was it worth it?
2007-06-30 04:29:13 · 31 answers · asked by Judybaby 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Some think it is worth it, some think it's not.
The person goes on and on about the cheating because they are very hurt, their dreams are shattered, the trust is gone and the love is lessened because the heart is hardened a bit. They need to talk about it, they have to talk about it or they will explode.
2007-06-30 04:33:17 · answer #1 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Cheating is NEVER worth the problems that it brings, no matter how romantic or sensual the experience(s).
If the non-cheating partner finds out, the devastation is irreparable; no matter if they forgive you or not. They will always live with the self-esteem issues that come from being cheated on.
In addition, when the cheating partner sees the tears and witnesses the heartbreak they have caused, the remorse is incredible and overwhelming.
If someone can't resist the urge to cheat, it is best if they break up with their partner and start anew with the person they want to be with.
It's never good to start something else before finishing the current thing.
We have a problem in our society. They don't call us the fast food country for nothing. For years, we have been taught by commercial advertising that it's okay to want what you want and want it right away. Furthermore, we are taught to get what we want, when we want it, because our happiness is the only thing that matters.
Whatever happened to responsibility, selflessness, sacrifice, faithfulness, loyalty and steadfastness? Why are we constantly telling ourselves that it's okay to take what we want without fear of, or thought to, consequences?
Have a good day.
2007-06-30 04:42:21 · answer #2 · answered by diva_500 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Only you know the answer to that but think how you would feel if your partner left you for good..would it still be worth it?,,if the fling was so wonderful why are you not with that person?..I think your partner senses that you are not really sorry and that is why they keep going on about it..if you are really sorry and want to make your relationship work then you must use your time and energy trying to prove that instead of daydreaming about something you did that was so wrong and devastate the person you are supposed to love..forgiveness takes time but you will never achieve this while you are still fantasizing about the fling
2007-06-30 04:40:34 · answer #3 · answered by tysbev4ever 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Was it worth it? Love and trust go together. Once the trust goes (And I know a lot of people say they have forgiven a partner for cheating but the thought that they could do it again never totally goes) the love starts to go to.
2007-06-30 04:51:34 · answer #4 · answered by mel 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
are you kidding me? No cheating is never ok and its never worth it.
If you want to be with someone else, you get a divorce or break up depending on the level of commitment you and your partner were at.
If your partner was GENEROUS enough and LOVED YOU enough to take you back but still talked about the cheating bothering them, and that bothers you...your an incredibly selfish and uncaring person.
2007-06-30 04:34:14 · answer #5 · answered by blackned_wings 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Being a cheat and a liar is never worth it in the long run. Living with that on your shoulders is like carrying the weight of the world. Unfortunately, once trust is broken, its almost impossible to get back. The hurt and pain that was caused is never worth the price for physical gratification.
2007-06-30 04:34:39 · answer #6 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
how can being a liar & a cheat that breaks their partners heart ever be worth it. Even now, you're thinking only of yourself because your partner is so hurt they can't let it go. Obviously it wasn't worth it. you should have thought about others before going ahead. You can do as you want, but at least should have the decency to finish with one before starting with another.
2007-06-30 10:29:07 · answer #7 · answered by Angel Eyes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, because whoever cheated should feel terrible for hurting there partner that bad, if you are the one who cheated you are wrong, cheating only hurts people that's all it does it doesn't make anything better and whoever cheated should not even wonder was it worth it because no it wasn't.
I hope that if you are the one who cheated you apologize to you partner and do anything that you can to make it up him/her.
Good Luck and you or whoever cheated should never cheat again.
2007-06-30 04:37:23 · answer #8 · answered by single&happy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If my partner betrayed me and kept going on and on about the affair, how great the sex was, blah blah blah, I would feel as though their only reason for going into such detail was to humiliate me and to make me feel like I was nothing to them.
I would shut that person out of my life, burn that bridge, and walk away from it all.
The betrayer is the one that will put any value on the affair. And if losing someone that loved and cared for them was worth it, then the betrayer is the overall loser.
2007-06-30 04:40:31 · answer #9 · answered by Ella 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I feel very sorry for the woman taking you back. What a fool. Just by asking that question shows you have no remorse for totally devastating this woman. Move on she deserves much better than you.
2007-06-30 04:42:57 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋