how to tell wife shes getting too heavy?

Answer 1

Hmmmm......how do you define "too heavy?" Do you mean she's too heavy for your preferences? If so, take a look in the mirror. Is your hairline the same as it was 10 years ago? Is your stomach as flat? Is your skin as smooth? I'm guessing the answer is "no."

I don't mean to sound harsh, but why is it that men think that their aging processes are natural and great, but that putting on a few pounds for a woman is somehow a major problem that has to be solved?

Let's pretend that your main concern is your wife's health and happiness, and you want her to be physically fit and to feel great. The best way to go about this is to try to encourage her to do something to stay fit. How to do this? Do it with her. Turn it into something fun that the two of you can do together. Buy a membership at a gym for the two of you, or take her out walking or biking each night. Tell her that YOU want to cut back on food so you can drop a few pounds, and that you need her help to do it. This will get her motivated to work on some healthy eating and exercise habits.

On the other hand, if the truth is that she actually already is pretty healthy, maybe you should reset your priorities and be glad you have a good woman to care about you in this life, and forget about trying to turn her into someone else. Appreciating her and loving her for who she is would be the quickest way to raise her self-esteem and help her to care about her appearance. Funny how that works, isn't it?

Answer 2

In good conscience, I wasn't sure whether to answer this question, because I suspect that you may be asking this because you want a thin wife and are asking for this reason, as opposed to worrying about her health.

Giving you the benefit of the doubt, and because many morons seem to have answered you with some really dumbass things, about the only way you can do this without looking like a complete moron yourself, is to introduce subtle changes into both your lives. You could start cooking healthier meals, not buying junk food etc and suggesting you take up sports together. Think about her interests, because the gym and running bores some people, so you might want something more stimulating.

Be nice about it. I hope you are a nice guy who wants the best for his wife. Lastly, don't expect her to make changes in her lifestyle if you won't. That's selfish. I wish you and your wife all the best and hope that my first assessment of you was incorrect!

Answer 3

Is her weight an issue for YOU or are you concerned for her health? Think real long and hard about this before even considering to talk with her. If the issue is because of health reasons...then maybe you both should practice good eating habits together and taking time every day to maybe taking a walk or joining a gym TOGETHER (that is the main point here). If you truly love your wife then you will be gentle and kind with your words and actions. Looks should not be a factor when you are in love...but like I said, if this is a concern because of health reasons, then you will HELP her, not pick out flaws or even saying things that you will regret one day.
Good luck!!

Answer 4

You don't. She has a mirror, she knows if she has a weight issue. One of the things I love most about my husband, was when I was a tad overweight, he would totally deny it. I would ask him "am i as heavy as that lady, or so and so" and he would always look shocked that I would think so , and say no way not even close. I know darn well that i was or close to it. I am happy to say I have now lost the extra weight. If you are concerned about her health, then I sugguest you offer to cook more, and make healthier choices, like chicken breasts, etc. Also do more of the shopping, and by low fat stuff (ex. mayo, sour cream, cheese, lean meats, etc.), also sugguest things like lets go for a walk in the evening, or for a swim, tennis, golf (without a cart), etc. Just don't be obvious about your motives. You are supposed to be her biggest fan and her soft place to land, so please don't state the obvious, trust me , she knows and it would probably break her heart if you said something. Good luck with the healthier lifestyle.

Answer 5

Well, if it is a matter of health concern, then I would say something politely about it. I would even consider looking at my own self and seeing if maybe I too packed on a few pounds since marriage. However, if you are just looking at in a vanity type of way, then I don't believe there to be any way of discussing this matter. Women are sensitive people and especially when it comes to weight issues. If you love her, you love her for who she is, not what she looks like, but there is no harm working on the issue together, if you feel it is getting that bad.

Answer 6

Dont tell her, why dont you instead of hurting her feelings by telling her she is too heavy, get her to go on walks with you or go to the park and play baketball or something. You should not just come out and say it, you need to just keep her active and be active with her, and eat healthy with her, do it all with her and that will help her. You cannot just come out and tell a women that she is getting heavy beleive me it will not go over smoothly.

Good Luck!

Answer 7

Chances are you don't have to..She is most likely aware of her weight increase and not feeling to good about it. If you are truly concerned and what to talk to her about, I would plan a nice outting for just the two of you. I would ask her if everything is ok and if she is having some problems your not aware of...Just tell her your concerned she maybe depressed or stressed out because you have noticed weight gain and you just want to let her know you are there for her......Don't attack her or make her feel bad..She will never forgive you if you are not carring in thoughtful in how you approach the subject!

Answer 8

Not quite sure there's an easy way to drop that bomb, but you better think of something. I wish I would have said something before my wife became morbidly obsese and lost all of her sexual appeal. She was a knockout when I married her, she let her weight get out of control, kept getting fatter and grosser, and now I can't even stand touching her. Better fix this.

Answer 9

Oohh, tricky. Try to make it a joint issue. "Honey, I've been thinking about trying to get in better shape. What do you think of joining a gym together?" Or "You know, I've been reading about healthy eating, and I'm thinking maybe we should try to cut back on some of the sweets and carbs and eat more fruits and vegetables. What do you think?"

In the meaantime, keep telling her how beautiful she is and how much you love her. If the program succeeds, tell her often how great she looks. Positive feedback is much better than criticism.

Good luck.

Answer 10

Be gentle. Just mention something about wanting to get in shape yourself. Tell her you want a gym membership or something, but that you would like to join with her. Emphasize how much you would like to start a healthier lifestyle. That should get your wife to open up about her own concerns. She's going to like the fact that you brought it up.