Why are many women not satisfied being simply wives and mothers? Why they are so obssessed with careers?

Question

I mean even when they get everything they need from their husbands:FINANCIAL (2) EMOTIONAL (3)BIOLOGICAL still they want their own incomes, own identities.I want to know what's so insulting in being known as somebody's wife? As a result of competing with their husbands they are causing distress to themselves as well as their husbands and children.They forget that homely tasks are not inferior but complimentary.Many men also forget that having a wife at home is a tremendous asset not just for household tasks but also paying bills,receiving couriers etc. Yes there are some tasks like doctors/police etc where society needs ladies but those are exceptions.I never say that women are less capable than men but one should understand one's prioritiesespecially shouldn't children be the priorities after motherhood? Ofcourse if somebody needs money or is abused by her spouse then she has to work. Also a woman has the right to choose celibacy or become a childless woman.Then she can work.

Answer 1

Coming from someone who is taken care of in all those respects mentioned. My husband encouraged me to continue my education, now I have a BA. He is now encouraging me to find a career that I love. And yes we have three kids that we have BOTH been taking care of. Hun, there is much more to life than just taking care of the kids. We want to take our children places. We want them to travel with us and see the world. We want them to have a great education. I am fortunate enough for my kids to have me for an example. They saw how hard I worked and what I have accomplished. It was an amazing feeling having them cheer me on as I went up on stage and received my college degree. That will never leave them.

Do not get me wrong. Motherhood is amazing, but so is being able to afford having a life that the whole family can share. And yes my children ARE my PRIORITY. Without having to compromise myself.

Answer 2

[Why are many men not satisfied simply being husbands and fathers? I mean, even when they get everything they need from their wives: financial, emotional, biological still they want their own incomes, own identities. I want to know what's so insulting in being known as somebody's husband? As a result of competing with their wives, they are causing distress to themselves as well as their wives and children. They forget that homely tasks are not inferior but complimentary. Many women also forget that having a husband at home is a tremendous asset not just for household tasks but also paying bills, receiving couriers, etc. Yes there are some tasks like construction/lawyering etc. where society needs gentlemen, but those are exceptions. I never say that men are less capable than women, but one should understand one's priorities especially shouldn't children be priorities once a man becomes a father? Of course if somebody needs money or is abused by his spouse then he has to work. Also, a man has the right to choose celibacy or become a childless man. Then he can work.]


What do you think of your question turned around and applied to men? You're asking women why they would possibly want anything outside a husband and children, and saying that society has no need for them (outside a select few tasks) otherwise. Women are just as human as men, and the lot of us have a wide variety of needs...a few of which may or may not be fulfilled by a spouse and/or children. The presence or absence of a spouse/child/household does not define a woman any more than it would define her counterpart. They are components that compose the greater whole human being. ...and while it is not at all insulting to be known as someone's wife, to expect that once a woman is married, she drop her identity outside of her marriage, her home, and her children...is.

Answer 3

We are human. Everyone wants to find their place in the world where they feel that are doing what makes them happy and helps the world. Many woman do not get this feeling of accomplishment from being at home. I would wager that if you spent even a single day as a stay at home mom you would realize how hard a job it is, and probably couldn't do it. The point is that women want to have the choice to have a career and get out of the house if they so chose. Women did not fight for their rights to just throw them away. And women can work and have children. There are many options for women who want to do both, and saying that only women who are childless or really need the money should go to work is ridicuous, and chauvenistic.
I'll also leave you with one thing to think about. How many brilliant womens minds were wasted by the fact that they couldn't get out of the house and do something with it. How many cures and bits of technology don't we have because women were kept down, and still are. Think about the possibilities of a society where women are actually full equals, and how beneficial that really could be.

Answer 4

Marriage - two making that marriage and then family roles/relationships work in harmony.

Women that stay home R working but many don't figure it out that their job also requires a break along with a husband that respects that. They are also contributing to the economy because a house attended to requires upkeep period. I have heard comments made that no money is spent when wives stay home. First off hubby has to be making enough to support the family's needs (including future) and second the other is just an empty comment. A woman that stays at home is much more in tune with that which needs to be replaced, upgraded, fixed, and handled whether by her, her husband, or both. Children are also exposed to their parents and not placed into strangers hands with no concern as to what they are being taught or learning. It is part of the husbands role to support the important tasks of his wife and take communication seriously including off times when it's time for husband and wife to take a personal break concerning interests (fun) and nurturing the marriage (top priority).

Too many couples fail to realize their biggest and best dates can take place after the ceremony starting with the honeymoon but definately not ending there. Planning and putting money aside during those younger days for those times or just making it a priority to be exclusive at least once a week can make a marriage last forever---even more time is available for that after the kids have grown.

Answer 5

Not every women R, to each their own. I wanted to be a stay at home mom, I enjoyed it. But then when my kids became full time students, I was lost. I had no Idea who I was. I was my kid's mom and my husband's wife. But who was I. I got lost and I really did not have college education. So what was I do? I got trained to be a cashier, but ended up being box-person. That was ok, it gave me something to do. Well needless to say seven years later I had to work, because I became a single parent. I began working in a nursing home-in housekeeping, then I went in to CNA, after a while I could not physically do it any more, so went back to housekeeping,not a good Idea. Next I went in to the kitchen as a prep-cook, damage already done , Osteoarthritis in the serious mode. I am now disable and going stir crazy. I miss working. I told a friend I guess I need to find a job, where U stand,sit and lay. We decided there is no such job, what a shame.

Answer 6

Because women are complex, self-affirming beings, who relish life. We understand how to multitask. It is not out of our realm to be a wife, lover, daughther, mother, sister, aunt, boss, worker, homemaker, and community activist all at the same time. Some of us want careers, because it is natrual for all humans to contribute something significant to life. (I'm not saying that motherhood and being a wife is not meaningful). Some of use don't mind the challenge of setting and meeting goals. Some of us don't mind being life-long- learners.
Children should be the priorities of both parents. It takes an egg and a sperm to make a child. Whenever the day comes, where a sperm is no longer needed to have a baby, then that will be the day that children will be only the woman's responsibility. Women should not be asked to choose between a family or a career. Men are not asked to choose. Men have the right to choose celibacy also.
Homely tasks are not inferior to women or men. Many men do not mind sharing in home making responsibility. They cook, clean, and change dirty diapers. Cleaning up behind grown ups is not the exclusive job of the person who has fallopian tubes.
Also, many renaissance men are not interested in acquiring a maid or a nanny when they marry. They want a partner. They are interested in meeting a smart, self- suffient, goal oriented woman, who wants more out of life than clipping coupons, burping babies, and servicing a man.
Don't get me wrong, I admire women who have chosen to be wives and mothers exclusively. That is their choice. They have that right. But, I have issues with people who feel that I should choose that life, just because, I'm a woman.

Answer 7

I understand that many women don't want to do the wife and mother bit, but I'm excited for when that time comes for me! Yes I am currently building up my career but my hubby and I have talked about when, if all goes as planned, in about three years or so when we begin having children how things will go. I won't work until they are old enough to be in school, absolutely not. He is financially secure enough to support a few people, and as of right now we put in equal amounts as far as money and household chores go. Some women like being doctors and striving for more and I support my friends who make that choice, but once I'm a mother that IS my job, I don't want my children coming home to an empty and exhausted house. Just me though.

Answer 8

Theres nothing wrong with being a stay at home mom, but you try staying home day in and day out doing nothing but a daily routine that becomes a "chore". Having children is not a call to stay at home. I actually stayed home for 2 years and then I went back to my office. By the way I made much more than my husband. Maybe the question should be WHY do men feel so inferior to their wives when they make more money? AND, why does that cause them to go haywire and cause problems that lead to divorce?

Answer 9

It depends in the woman.

Some women want to be mothers, they want to take care of their husband and family, it is ok.

But others, are not happy with this. Why? Because we are all individuals with different needs.
Since I was a child I knew what I wanted to be and through my life I have continued following this goal. Is this better or worse? It is neither, it is an individual decision with which I am happy.
But there are never general rules, each woman has to follow her path (as well as men), the word is:FREEDOM to chose what is best for her.

Why are there some men that want to be lawyers and others that want to be artists? I also know a man that decided to be a stay home father while his wife works and he is happy. Again a personal choice

It is the freedom to chose and the respect for the human that chooses that makes the difference.

If a woman has all the money and protection of the world but she want to be a lawyer, she will be an unhappy human being. This is a very short life, respect for the choices and rights of others is peace....this sounds like Benito Juarez (lol)

Answer 10

Excuse me, but do you REALLY believe that a woman can get EVERYTHING that she needs from her husband. No human can get everything they need from another human. What in the world is wrong with have an identity of our own? What if a woman does not have children? Is a woman defined only by her children and husband and her home making skills? I think that you are very wrong with your assessment that a woman should work only when she his childless. What about a woman without a husband, a woman who has gone through a divorce? In this day and age, with the cost of living, both parents have to work anyway. Maybe we should go back to the days when women could not vote, or when women were hardly considered human is what you are saying. Get a grip, it's 2007, and we are not going backwards!