well it just got worse i thought that she would stay loyal to an agreed separation but one month to the day on my daughters b/day my two kids saw my wife in bed with another man how deverstating is that she swore blind last wednesday that nothing was going on trust me and like an idiot i did my kids hate it my wife is trying to get the kids to like this man and they dont want to know
when i saw my wife this morning she said nothing to me what so ever some advice would be nice its killing me !!!!!!!!
2007-06-30 01:59:17 · 19 answers · asked by yamadori4u 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I am thinkng it may have been your wife that suggested an agreed seperation.....I maybe wrong......Was there need for a seperation as far as youare concerned?
After four weeks, and She has been caught by her own Children, in bed with another guy!!!!
Wow.....it makes me think she was already seeing this guy before the seperatin!!!!
As soon as you can see a lawyer and start divorce proceedings, and seek custody of the Chldren!!!!
Move back in to your matrimonial home, as soon as possible....like yeserday. Don't tell her squatt!!!
Don't argue ....it is about your Children now.....She is the one that ruined the vows by breaking them.....Dont raise your voice or let her know about your plans ...as she will be phoning the old bill up saying you have hit her and have you removed whatever!!!
Bite yor tongue..... and make sure your Children feel safe and proteceted and loved with you in the home once more....
More men are being granted the home and the Children than years ago, especially when thier wife has been cheating sooo blatantly the Children see it....It could have long term issues for them, maybe consult a counsellor....
Although you may want to believe her, if you do it will happen again and again!!!!
And the little Chldren wil be in the middle of it all.....
Get a lawyer, move back so your Children are safe and won't have to face what they saw again, (She could have had a perverted peado' guy in home, albeit women think they know men, no one knows anyone really) just try and be there in all ways for your Children, and good luck with the divorce...
2007-06-30 02:41:19 · answer #1 · answered by susan8589 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you want my honest opinion? If so then read on. If not, then read no further as I'm sure that you have a screw loose. Regardless if you are legally separated or just not living together, this woman is one lying, cheating woman and has proven it to her very own children. Dump her now and let her have her play mates. Under no circumstances would I ever take a woman back like this either. By the way, this is exactly the opinion /advice that I would give any woman under these same conditions.
2007-06-30 09:11:32 · answer #2 · answered by pappysgotitgoinon 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
think you got to let her go and take all that she says with a pinch of salt for a while until both of you have real clarity on your situation..kids need to be the main focus and to bring a man in to the house like that is not acceptable just yet, maybe she can do that on the nights you will have the children with you..distance yourself from this women and see how you feel in a few weeks.i wish you all the luck in the world and hope it gets better soon.xx
2007-06-30 13:13:00 · answer #3 · answered by Redmuppet 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you think she's doing all this on purpose sweetie?
She doesn't want to be the one to get the divorce. She's clever i give her that. You need to sit down and watch some Tyler Perry. And get over it. To be caught with another man by your kids? Thats wrong. Lack of Respect for the kids right there.
2007-06-30 10:25:45 · answer #4 · answered by trey 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've never understood why people separate and expect loyalty. I thought the whole reason behind separation was to date other people & get back together with your spouse if you couldn't find anyone better in the allotted time.
But for you - get counseling and invest a LOT of time in the kids, they are probably more confused than you and are also feeling guilty about their loyalties to both of you. give the children as much time and attention as you can, but don't badmouth their mom to them.
2007-06-30 09:36:21 · answer #5 · answered by Tammy W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Man that stinks, you might just as well find an attorney and get the ball rolling for divorce. This will probably give you the perfect chance to get custody of your kids and let her pay child support. If she was so thoughtless to let the kids see her with another man, you don't need that kind of crap. I am really sorry for you and love stinks.
2007-06-30 09:16:24 · answer #6 · answered by bluebird 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It will be hard but you need to accept the fact that you don't need her, Give her the same treatment that she is giving you, File for a divorce without her knowing and her be shocked when she finds out, you to stay strong and be an adult about it. Don't show her your feelings, get the divorce and give her the cold shoulder everytime you see her, make it look like you are so happy and doing so good without her. As far as your kids, They need to get to know him and except him in there life or not, they can give him the cold shoulder and just answer his questions briefly and go on. You don't need her
2007-06-30 09:48:31 · answer #7 · answered by jjkk 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Oh those poor kids, how can any decent woman put their children in such a situation? She is a lying, cheating individual and you need to take her to the cleaners, you need to seek the advice of a lawyer and soon. And your kids need to talk to a counselor about what they seen their mother doing. Good luck
2007-06-30 09:23:59 · answer #8 · answered by sweetemtation_123 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'd divorce her *** and get custody of the children!! What kind of role model is she being? Your children shouldn't have to be involved with her dirtiness.
She's ignorant for wearing her birthday suit for the man, instead of focusing on her own daughter's birthday! What a sleeze!
2007-06-30 09:21:18 · answer #9 · answered by jane dough 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
awww I feel for you. I think you need to talk to your wife about this. Tell her what the kids have seen and that you are worried about the effect that it is going to have on them. You also need to decide if you want to resume the relationship in light of these details. Ether way, your wife needs to come clean with you for the sake of you and your children.
2007-06-30 09:06:54 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋