after she had our daughter sex does not enterest her at all and its driving me crazy please help make sence of this problem
2007-06-30 00:33:27 · 19 answers · asked by chet26 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Speaking from a womens point of view, and a women that went through the same thing herself there are many things that factor in. For me, after I had my kids, it was a big slump. So much so that I slept on the couch for about 9 months. Take into consideration the sudden plumett of female hormones responsible for sex drive coupled by the increased demands both physically and emotionally, plus the fact that unless your wife is a super model, she is probably dealing with a decreased body image. Our bodies change so much during pregnancy and after delivery that it takes awhile to get everything back. It takes nine months to create the life, you can't expect things to go back to normal right away. I know it's frustrating, even though I was the one going through the changes I still had a desire, but when my husband also had the desire for some odd reason it was a turn off! Hang in there best you can. For me once everything balanced itself out again I was on fire, my hubby said it was almost worth the wait!
2007-06-30 03:45:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
After the first child life changes forever especially for a male (who needs sex). She will be tired all the time never feel like it and you will be going mental. Most males get cold and loose all affection and most women begin to feel unloved and feel like it even less - be the man - treat her like you did when you started dating her and you will get lucky a little more often - if you stick it out it will be worth it and you will end up with a much deeper and more fulfilling sexual relationship - failing that there is always mrs palmer and her five daughters aye
2007-06-30 07:44:24 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
How old is your daughter?
Your wife is probably tired. She feels like everyone is making demands on her body - the baby, you, and her own physical health.
You try getting up for a baby all night long and seeing if you feel like sex the next day. Especially if sex was the cause of all this tiredness!
2007-06-30 07:59:40 · answer #3 · answered by True Blue Brit 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
hi how long has it been since your daughter was born, sometimes women are so busy nurturing the baby its hard to think of sex, on top of being tired. If its been a few months I'd ask her to see a doctor about it as its affecting you. Maybe she is self conscious about her post baby body so be careful how you approach her about it.
2007-06-30 07:37:09 · answer #4 · answered by misstth 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Give her some time she feels tired, stressed, and probably a little insecure about herself especially if she just had a baby. Don't be mean! Show her you love her! Take out the trash, clean the house, be involved don't just whine like a BIG BABY, reassure your love for her and make her FEEEL beautiful. Don't just think you can just plop yourself on her and that it, cuz your just going to irritate her.
2007-06-30 12:10:25 · answer #5 · answered by Dee 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Most men think that if their wife isn't having s*x with them that they don't love them anymore.....that is so not the case....After women have children, I have 4 young ones, they are tired....not only physically, but emotionally too....They are getting up during the night to care for the child, they are continually trying to figure out why the child is doing what their doing and what can they do to help....PLUS...they are trying to keep up their daily routine...cooking, cleaning, and everything in between..... My suggestion to you, because it works when my husband does it for me, is help her around the house WITHOUT BEING ASKED, tend to her needs, and talk to her,,,,,NOT ABOUT S*X, about how she feels, her dreams, her concerns, etc....when you show her that you love her in these ways, she'll be more apt to show you that she loves you in yours....just don't pressure her....when she's ready you'll know it...respect her and show her how much you appreciate her with little notes around the house, flowers occassionally, etc....Trust me...it really does help....and my husband does these things and more for me and I can't tell you how much I really appreciate and love him for it...
2007-06-30 07:48:40 · answer #6 · answered by Julie S 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
This is often the case after child birth..be patient she is probably tired..stand by her.and most of all communicate with each other
She still loves you...You could both try and have a talk together with your Doctor..
Good Luck
2007-06-30 07:39:12 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
she has probably lost it because she is always thinking about your child. if she turned back into that wild card gorgeous woman she may lose that responsibility of having a child. remember all it takes is one silly mistake and along come social services. it is crucial to the babys survival that this kind of thing just happens to all women. it is tricky for men, especially working men to experience this feeling, but if you try, then you might find it will help you get through this phase! hope i helped xxxxxxxxxx
2007-06-30 07:42:49 · answer #8 · answered by Sammy Y 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I guess she's not being a good wife!
or maybe ur not being a good husband... for her to act this way... something must be annoying her, stress or maybe she's new to the "be a mom"... try to understand her, maybe she has some problems that you dont know about. Listen to her, maybe she has something to say... have you ask her?... why doesnt she want it?... communicate with her! Good luck!!
2007-06-30 07:43:04 · answer #9 · answered by ♥becauseisme♥ 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, if I had to guess, its one of two things:
1. She found another man...or woman.
2. After having a baby, which is really painful for them, she probably doesn't want to risk getting pregnant again.
2007-06-30 07:37:39 · answer #10 · answered by USAF, Retired 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋