And I am not talking about people on Yahoo! Answers. I am talking about people I hardly know at work. Why do I do this? I do not lie about anything major, just little white lies, and I feel so guilty about it afterwards, because I do realize I do not have to lie to them, that they are nice people.
2007-06-29 23:48:45 · 19 answers · asked by Venom 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
It sounds to me like you are lacking self confidence and don't think the real you is interesting or good enough for others, so you exagerate or tell little white lies to make yourself seem more interesting. You have already said that you know they are nice people and don't think it's necessary to do this. Take it one day at a time and try to be your authentic self. Don't you want people to accept you for who you are? You are worthy just as you are and don't need extra hype to sell yourself. Try each day to stop yourself from adding to your stories and be straight with everyone. I think you will find that you have friends who like you for the person you are. Good luck.
2007-06-30 03:27:21 · answer #1 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
People lie for alot of reasons. It can be insecurity, it can be wanting to evade the real issue. The thing that I can best advise you on this is from personal experience. I used to be a compulsive liar. It used to start out with an innocent white lie that somehow spiralled out of control and became my whole life. I did it because I could. I wasn't and never have been embarassed about my family or who I am. I did it for attention because I could. I had the ability to make people believe the most ridiculous things and I enjoyed their reaction to that. However I found I actually became really lonely and isolated because people didn't really know who I was and that was a shame. I lost friends and whole parts of my life. So don't believe anyone who tells you it's only a white lie. One lie will lead to another and before you know it you'll be in a situation you have no idea how to get yourself out of! The best thing to do is to stop before it becomes a habit and leads to serious consequences.
2007-06-30 00:02:46 · answer #2 · answered by waggy 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
In most cases people lie because they want to be accepted to their peers, so they usually lie as a way of impressing their peers.
One good thing though, you are aware that what you are doing is not good.Try to be yourself and if people don't like you the way you are, they are not worth bothering with.
2007-06-30 03:02:17 · answer #3 · answered by soraya 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people tend to do this sort of lying to make their lives seem more exciting to others and to impress them to make friends.
Some do it because they are jealous of others and would like to out-do them.
If you are doing this to make friends be warned that this is the easiest behaviour for people to spot and see through, lies are often caught out, you will end up the brunt of everyones jokes.
You need to realise that people aren't friends with the real you. If they know the real you and want to be friends then you have found a friend for life.
This type of behaviour is the top of the list of my pet hates. I have meet lots of people who do this and it is not very attractive.
My daughter (9) knows a girl in school who also exhibits these tendancies and every day she comes home from school she tells me how the class laugh at her and think up things to tell her to see what she will say.
I'm not gonna try and analyse you here, others have already offered their sound advice. I merely want you to see how you are being perceived by others, maybe this will be the shock you need to roust you into a more open honest type of interaction..........good luck.
2007-06-30 06:10:33 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
It might be good to think about what you don't like about the truth... do you feel like they won't like you if you're honest?
Be aware too that if they find out the truth, no matter how banal the lie, it can make you look a certain way. My colleague found out someone at work in a junior position was pretending they were a manager through her hairdresser...Suffice it to say it's all over the office now.
2007-06-29 23:57:59 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Because you like to suck them in to believing that you're a great person. Any mistakes/foolishness you make next will be disregarded by them because they will be thinking it's not you. You lack confidence in yourself, you're insecure and worries what other people thinks. You're always impressing people at your work about yourself, about what you can't and can do!
At the end of the day, it's only YOU you're fooling not those people at work that hardly knows you because at the end of the day again they've got their own issues they worry about and are probably in the same boat as you are.
2007-06-30 00:25:31 · answer #6 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because you are not impressed by your own life and achievements. A matter of low self esteem and lack of personal appreciation. Have a good look at your self, warts and all, you will be impressed with you and your many achievements; and don't feel guilty about feeling good about yourself.
2007-06-30 01:03:17 · answer #7 · answered by purplepeace59 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you worry too much, it is very normal. you're right though, we want to impress people. basically, it is the first stage in establishing a good relationship. we say all the positive things about ourselves, and, ultimately, we we don't actually lie, we just exaggerate what we really are. see the point? did i impress you? hehehe..^_^
2007-06-30 00:06:01 · answer #8 · answered by Timawa 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because some people understand between a lie which hurts and a lie which does not....
so u lie to people which does not hurt them... thats it
2007-06-29 23:59:05 · answer #9 · answered by dancingdoll 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
So in recognising the problem you are half way there to resolving it.
Lies have a habit of returning to haunt you.
My advice is stick with the truth, however hard it gets it's the best way to run your life.
2007-06-30 00:30:50 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋