affair right or wrong??????????????????????

Question

i want to have a affair with a married woman because my wife well not give me sex,it has been three years,just because i am married does not mean i lost all my needs,i have tryed to talk with her about it,any ideas??help,i am horney

many have? why a married woman,she has as much to lose as i.we also have a 3yr old,i am not giving him up,no answeres that involve,she is tired,she does all the kid stuff,none of it is true,i spend just as much time with my son as she does,i work a full time job(12hrs),theres more than i know going on,i do care about my wife,but this has gone way to long for my liking

Answer 1

You know the answer to that one yourself. If she had an affair, would you be okay with it. If so, go for it. If not, then treat her the way you want to be treated. No sex for three years is a problem, all right. You need to get some counseling with her to find out what is the REAL problem. Maybe she was abused as a child. Maybe you demand things she does not like to do. Maybe she is never satisfied. Unless you can communicate about it with your wife and get her to love sex with you, you will always have a problem.

Answer 2

An affair is never a good answer. But three years is a long time to go without sex and especially since it isn't mutual. Some couples decide that sex is not important to them and their relationship, but this is when both are on the same page on this subject, which is not the case for you.

Maybe you should find out just exactly is the reason for the absence of sex from your life. Maybe she has a medical condition. If not and you are still in love with each other maybe you can come to some kind of agreement where you can get this satisfaction out of the home. But this might lead to you developing a relationship.

Forget about having an affair with another married person this is a train wreck waiting to happen.

But for your well being you need to get to the root of this problem because it is not fair to you to do without. If she isn't interested and still wants to stay married she should allow you to seek it else where, since you are not dead.

and I don't blame you, I would be horny too. In fact I would never have made it as long as you have. I get real real grouchy without getting my tires rotated on a regular basis. And I also prefer quality to quantity!!
Good luck!

Answer 3

If you want to have an affair with a married woman, you not only dishonor your vows, but you dishonor your family as well. Just because your household is broken what gives you the right to make it with another married person and break up their home. You need to take a cold shower and think about what it will do to your child. If your marriage is just based on sex then you already have a problem. You are also a role model for your child, would you want your child to learn this type of behavior from you, or would you like for your child's spouse to cheat on them with someone who is married. Be careful with the decision you make, it not only affects you it affects your wife, your child, and the other married family as well, are willing to pay the price. You cannot say you love your wife and want to sleep with someone else. Go to counseling

Answer 4

An affair is always wrong when you're married. I realize your wife is not being fair either but you do have a child to think about. If you were caught having an affair it could bring about a divorce which could hurt your child which I know you don't want to do. Maybe you should ask her to see a doctor and see if maybe there is some underlying problem or some counseling but anything is better than an affair especially with a married woman.

Answer 5

Affairs are never ok.
Ask your wife to go with you to see a sex councillor (therapist) as a couple. Assure her you can see a female councillor, she probably wouldn't be comfortable with another man. Now that she's stopped, it'll be hard for her to get started again, but you might try asking her to hug you from behind while you masterbate. It's possible she wants a sex life, but doesn't want intercourse. I think we're all like that at times.
Is she on the pill? The pill can reduce a woman's sex drive down to nil. Do you spend time with her? If you don't give her attention outside the bedroom, she won't be able to give you any inside the bedroom. That's just the way women work.
Definately go to councelling though.

Answer 6

So your wife has not given you sex in three years? That is not right. I can see a couple of weeks sometimes or maybe a month, but three years. If you truly love your wife don't have e an affair. Just by a fake p-u-s-s-y. It may not feel the same or as good, but then you are not breaking your relationship with your wife and you can still get your rocks off. However, you may want to really find out what is going on. Three years is a long time.

Answer 7

An affair will be an unsatisfying experience - you will not get the woman you are looking for that way especially when the other woman is married - the grass may be greener but you still got to mow the lawns. Deal with the problem first - if you have an affair you stand to loose both your wife and the person you propose to have the affair with - three years too long though - deal with that first - one week is too long for me

Answer 8

Couples counseling is Long overdue. Then again, the reality is that you two agree not in agreement in terms of sex. Therefore, it is a divorcable issue if you so choose. I think she wants you to initiate it, because she's too chicken. Perhaps she is shut down for deep psych reasons. Ask her if she's holding back for any specific reason.

I am sorry for you, She could simply be attracted to you any more. It happens. It also could be a memory has resurfaced from her past, and hes needs pro help.

Answer 9

I DO NOT AGREE WITH AFFAIRS REGARDLESS OF THE REASON!!!! Especially with another married woman. Obviously your wife has other issues other than being tired etc if she has not had sex with you in 3 years. Have you considered seeing a counselor?

Answer 10

If you are not happy with your wife you should either go to counselling and try to sort out your problems or leave your wife and find someone else. Having an affair is a coward's way out.