help me with this MARRIED GUY please?

Question

ok we were dating/having sex etc... like four years ago. we had a fight and within a month he already moved in with another girl. this is his current wife. i tried to get ahold of him and get him back an dhe ignored me. when i finally got ahold of him he bragged about his new woman and how happy he was. he called again to brag that he got her pregnatn. he even called and aksed me to sleep w/ him whlie she was in the hospital over night after she had his kid. i said NO. i got sick ofh im and chewed him out and did not talk to him for four years. years later we ran into each other on a web site. talked on email and such both admitting we miss each other and he said im his soul mate the one who got away. and also during our 3 years of not talking he has married the mother of his child. he kept talking how much he loves me and she is horrible to him , bla bla bla. then says he cant dump her cuase he will have to pay child support. he still wants to talk to me on the side but ONLY when s

she wont catch him. so he winds up treating me real crappy and only writing every so often. he thinks im on his backup burner or someting i have not cheated w/ him and also im getting real sick of our " friendship" I keep feeling like im getting the shaft. what do u make out of the guy/situation?

SCREW THE ASSHOLES WHO CALLED ME A SLUT AND SAID IM A ' CHEATER ' I BEEN PROPOSITIONED MANY A TIMES BY THIS MAN AND DID NOT EVER SLEEP WITH HIM I SAID THAT IN THE Q IF YOU HAD HALF A BRAIN YOU WOULD KNOW HOW TO READ THE QUESTIN BEFOREY OU GIVE YOUR DUMB *** ANSWER

Answer 1

Yep, you're getting the shaft. He's a dirtbag, obviously. Cut him out of your life, you don't need him, and by the way, in case you didn't know, you don't actually miss HIM, you miss the relationship. You can get that somewhere else.

Blech, just reading this I get a bad taste in my mouth, he's a dirtbag.

Answer 2

Ok sweetie you said it yourself.."he winds up treating me real crappy" "he thinks im on his backup burner" "and also im getting real sick of our " friendship" I keep feeling like im getting the shaft." Does this sound like something you want to continue? Sounds like a guy that knows that he can call you and you will come running. And I'm sure you're not the only one he has in his little black book. But you deserve so much better than that. Men like him are a dime a dozen. But you my dear are a princess and deserve to be treated as so. Wait for that man out there that will be your prince. I'd say this one is just a frog. =)

Answer 3

I'm sorry to inform you but you ARE a cheater. The two of you are having an emotional affair and that can be just as damaging as a physical affair. You have both violated this marriage. I feel sorry for his poor wife and kids. Try answering your own question if the shoe were on the other foot and you were the wife. How would you feel??Not a hard question to answer. The pain you are about to cause this innocent woman and child makes me sick. I would say more but I'm sure it would be edited out.

Answer 4

Well this man wants to have u for satisafaction as over the time ppl get fed up with their partners and want some change so thats y he wants change and want to make sex with u after that he finds another gal and walks away and so on so dont treply find some nice person which i am sure u can easily find best of luck and be determined he is not ur match

Answer 5

Dear friends F,

This guy has a very unhealthy attitude toward relationships, women and children. Why would you have done what you did to contact him? Why do you continue to respond to him when he e-mails? You know what he is and you know that he is not available. Don't encourage him any more. He is bad news and you don't need to help him be worse.

Dust your hands and wipe your shoes of this guy. Don't respond to any calls or e-mails. Let him be dead to you. He is a whiny, lying, cheating, skunk. Hopefully, his wife will think he's worth straightening out. She's his only chance. You don't need the heartache or the problems.

Move on, Darlin'.

Answer 6

You are getting the shaft...and that's it. You are missing out on all the things that make a "real" relationship worth having. This guys just wants to have his cake and eat it too. Don't try to screw up his life with vengeful behavior, like calling his wife, just walk away from him.

Answer 7

Have enough respect for yourself to find someone who will love you and care for you Stop waisting your time on a married man. This one is trash. Run the other way and never look back. Change you phone number, change your e-mail, and stop all communication with him. Even if he left his wife, if he could cheat on her with you, what would stop him from cheating on you with someone else?

Get involved in a church or volunteer work, and meet a better class of people.

Answer 8

dont go there, he sounds like a bit of a loser, and there are so many other nice genuine guys out there, while your wasting your time with this guy a real nice single man might come and youre too busy with the ex to notice..

goodluck!

BTW the old "cant leave her cos of the kid/child support" thing sounds like a LAME *** EXCUSE to me!

Answer 9

Let him go. Obviously he has other agendas when it comes to himself. If he doesn't respect and remain faithful to his wife how do you think he would do you. Its obvious he doesn't respect you either. Stay away from married people who cheat. Not only is it unhealthy its not right no matter if its the mistress or the cheating spouse. Im sure you could do much better.

Answer 10

If he doesnt want to leave her because although le love syou he doesnt want to be financially responsible for his kid, Id say he's a pretty big scumbag and not worth all this thought you are putting into him. Just wait til he knocks you up, cheats on you, then wont help you out after he knocks you up. Yeay! Good times.