my two kids are four now and dont look anything like me , they actually look like two of my coworkers:( everyone can see it:(
2007-06-29 21:53:02 · 11 answers · asked by franco blanco 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
id have to take the kids to hospital right?
2007-06-29 21:58:01 · update #1
You don't have to ask her, you can get a kit in the mail do swabs of the kids and get your own sample and then mail it in. She never actually has to know.
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2007-06-29 21:57:43 · answer #1 · answered by Heather 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, no easy way around that question! I can say from personal experience that genes can do funny things. I have six children. I have dark hair and brown eyes, hubby has red hair and blue eyes. Three of my children are dark complected, five have blue eyes, two are blond, and only one red head. I am 5'0, hubby is 6'4. Two of my children are short, one is a monster, and the others are average height. Two of them look nothing like either one of us or anyone in our families. But if you are seriously doubtful about your children.....Has your wife acted suspiciously during your marriage? Do your coworkers act "funny" around you or her, especially when you're all together? If you genuinely feel like your suspicions may be correct then just come out with it. Say to her that you heard a lot of rumours at work but don't name names. That will take a little of the heat off of you, but not all of it. I knew that Anna Nicole Smith's baby was the blond guy's daughter. I would have bet my life on it because that baby looked just like him. I would have the paternity tests done if I were you and had this much doubt. Can't have a good marriage and be a good daddy with these thoughts going through your head. I hope your suspicions are wrong and genetics have just been toying with you. Good luck
2007-06-30 05:10:06 · answer #2 · answered by checkthisout! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make sure u take the right test because there is a flaw with one of them that doesn't occur that often like i heard about a couple of cases where the father was the father but the blood test or swab test said other wise. Had something to do with weird DNA from both parents and child but anyways your really GOING TO HAVE TO KEEP THE TEST A SECRET. Cuz if they are your kids and your wife never cheated than things will GET HEATED.
2007-06-30 05:05:22 · answer #3 · answered by ImKindaAwesomeAtBingo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No and, what makes you think this? If this is in your mind you must of had some reason and she knows it. Then just tell her how you feel.
If you love your wife, your family, forget it Pal and settle down. Start raising your family. If you have a problem with her, if she's been playing around you'll know, then if it leads to a divorce, you can bring up paternity then.
I can guess this will lead to a divorce if you accuse her of this and nothing happen.
Get that jealous streak out of you and get on with your life.
2007-06-30 06:31:48 · answer #4 · answered by cowboydoc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well its like this if you are really worried about it and your marriage means nothing ask her cause the child support department will require her to take one but the bad thing is when the test come back and they are positive that they are yours then you will be with out a marriage but you will have a nice sum of money coming out of your pay check but you will know that they are yours. There is not a tack ful way to ask her about it but then again if she cheated on you you have a right to know Good luck
2007-06-30 05:10:13 · answer #5 · answered by rick k 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have three daughters, my youngest looks more like her grandmother than me or her father. her father had the same idea as you do your wife. He requested a paternity test, no joke the test came back that she had more genes from him than she did me.
my ex told the judge that he did not understand what the results meant... the judge told him, " It means, If I did not know any better I would say from these results that you gave birth to her!"
be-careful of what you ask for.
now, let me ask you a question... do you love your children? would you want to hurt "them?"
2007-06-30 05:11:51 · answer #6 · answered by BlackWidow 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If my husband asked me to have a paternity test I would kick him to the curb. There is no coy way to ask that question.
2007-06-30 05:08:59 · answer #7 · answered by Ruth 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's true that you don't need to ask your wife, unless you need to account for the money being spent for the tests.
Ask yourself what you would do if it turned out that they weren't your children? Would you leave your wife and the kids, or would you stay? I guess what I'm asking is if maybe you'd be better off not knowing.
2007-06-30 05:01:15 · answer #8 · answered by Judi 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well no man would understand the pain of being asked that question. BUT if you have a genuine worry then best sort it now but be careful of the children in this process - they are Innocent and must be kept protected.
2007-06-30 04:58:46 · answer #9 · answered by Happiness 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell her you want a paternity test. if you have to have your wife there then just tell her there willbe no easy way to ask her, maybe ask you co workers if shes had sex with them. but if you think they look lik co workers then there will be no easy way to tell her just do it. good luck!!!
2007-06-30 05:01:10 · answer #10 · answered by Niki 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋