Why does one fish for compliments on achieving something? Is achievement by itself not enough to satisfy us?

Answer 1

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Answer 2

No. We crave praise. You give the performance of your life, but there is no experience like the thunderous applause of the audience. It's like when you're a kid & you want that gold star on your paper. You want that "A". You can't wait to run home & show your mom "look what I did!" & have her say it was good & for one instant feel like you're worth something.

Some people are insecure & need reassurance. The sad part is that no amount of compliments or reassurance will be enough if you don't love yourself. Nothing fills that void. No achievement will ever seem good enough. You will be driven to accomplish more & more & still feel empty.

Be proud of your accomplishments, be accepting of your shortcomings & love yourself no matter what.

Now if I could just take my own advice, I'd be all set!

Incidentally, I used to be accused of "fishing for compliments" by putting myself down. I was accused of false modesty, etc. But the truth was I didn't like myself very much & I figured that if I beat myself up it would save others the trouble & maybe some of them would argue with me & say "no, you're not so bad." It's only recently that I've been able to say anything nice about me. It feels foreign but I'm a happier person overall.

Answer 3

Your right, it's only satifying for a time. We have to move on to another achievement. Almost ultimately happiness comes from our understanding or inside. They say "we either go within or we go without." When you look for praise you've gone without instead of looking for your next achievement or insight and inner satisfaction. People make a mistake that love is without and in an object. The beauty can only be accesses with the beauty within or beauty might as well not exist. As a child I was indiferent to a flower until I was told that they are beautiful. I realized that I had accessed a love within and it wasn't the flower, as I felt nothing before. That's why the injuction, "Know thyself." and is the search of spirituality to know awareness, love and how to access emotions and everything else like insight. The outside gives you information and can turn you on to yourself. It seems to be the direction to look. Turn the other way and your back is turned to all the good in the universe and you can't see it except over your shoulder. Something like that. You have the universe in images, feelings and information inside for you personally. Then you have something to share, your love, not something to get that you don't have. If someone appreciates you from their love it can turn you on, make no mistake they just flipped the switch. You have to keep the lights on. The power is within, the switch is more information sometimes. We can help each other.

Answer 4

Understand that one who fishes for compliments usually has allow self-esteem and want to be recognized. Whether or not you indulge them is up to you. Personally, I will until it turns into a situation where I become a source for a "high". I think for some people, yes, achievement is enough but again, some people just need that recognition.

Answer 5

i think that people are so wrapped up in themselves that achieving something doesn't even matter to them at all its just what people say about the achievement...You don't play a sport to lose do you? And if you do then why play at all or you A's a test you studied hard to A's it and you want people to notice you are happy but it would also be better if you could share your achievement With someone else it would make you feel better and if it doesn't then you wouldn't of tried in the first place..

Answer 6

Achievement -should- be enough. But we humans are gregarious animals and we thrive on recognition and reassurance from others.

I think one of the secrets to true happiness is learning to take pleasure in our own accomplishments and not caring whether others recognize them or not. But even then, it's nice to get recognition, Mr. Top Contributor, 18% best answers. 8^)

Answer 7

i guess its human nature that compliments from others does not only compliment the achievement that we make but the approval of our peers for that achievements that counts more to our feelings and self-satisfactions.

Answer 8

No, not in today, we fish for compliments because not only do we want our own satisfaction, but the satisfaction of knowing that otehers care that you succeeded. That they are amazed enough to compliment you, even if it was after you were encouraging them. It's silly and greedy, and makes us look like we are slef-centered to others.

Answer 9

becoz u have achieved for compliments.
it's not achievement that satisfy U
it's compliments that do.

Answer 10

In my experience, people who fish for compliments are usually lacking in self-confidence. I doubt they realize they are fishing for compliments--in their mind, they're looking for reassurance. Sure, it can be annoying sometimes when people fish for compliments, but just remember that they probably mentally beat themselves up.