Why does my bf keep asking to try it up my bum. What do u guys get out of it?

Answer 1

Men want the "forbidden" always, and anal sex just seems more dirty and dangerous, doesn't it? Plus, if it's something you've never done together before, he gets an extra kick out of pursuing it with you- kinda like the excitement men get out of chasing a woman for the first sexual experience. Someone mentioned the relative "tightness" of the anus, but I think it's more the idea of it that excites them and that it's "different". Want to get him to stop bothering you about it? Have anal with him every night for a month and refuse any other types of sex. Soon enough, he'll be bored with it and want something else. That's just men for ya!

Answer 2

Think about it! Its a heck of alot more restricitive (tight) up there! Pure n simple..its tight & they like it!

However, there is an art to getting it right, otherwise it can be down right painful!(for women) lots of lube n relaxation required!

Contrary to mens point of view, women DONT actually feel that much in that area... we have zero pleasure receptores! Unlike men (hence why they sit on the loo for hours just to open bowels!)
Yet, there is an different kind of pleasure to be gained in knowing that ur partner is really enjoying it!

Answer 3

There are several reasons. For a guy, a vagina can feel like a cave, tight at the opening but opening up to not really feeling anything except at the opening. Some women can correct that with Kagle exercises. But the an*l feels like a tunnel, more friction and feeling along the male shaft. The second is the mental aspect of it being taboo. And yes a woman can have an orga*m anally. There are nerve endings that are affected and it is different from a vaginal or clitoral orgasm.

Answer 4

He may like to try something new, something he's only heard about..
1) Lots of lubricant.... and it's not something to "punch " into..gentle...
you have to be very aroused. Stimulating the area manually first is good.
2) Trying a dildo first might be wise.
3) Orgasm w/ clitoral stimulation @ the same time is "over the top" for me.

Be open to trying it, but if the thought of it is too upsetting, don't do it.

Good luck,
Jan

Answer 5

I believe that anal sex is such a big deal now because of two reasons.
1. Almost every porn movie depicts anal sex.
2. A lot of females have used it to shut up their mates yet not lose their virginity.

The fact is that even if you do choose to do it, be forewarned that frequent anal sex can damage the sphincter and cause you to lose control of your bowels. Some homosexual men use tampons in their rectum to keep accidents from happening.

And last, but certainly not least, if you don't feel comfortable doing it, then by all means you shouldn't feel like you have to. If he keeps nagging for you to have anal sex, perhaps you can ask him to accept a cucumber up his bum first so that he can experience firsthand what he is requesting you to do.

Answer 6

I can see where they would get pleasure out of it but have you ever saw what it does to you if you do it a lot?? OMG!!! It's awful!!!!!!!!!! I wouldn't mind doing it from time to time but not to the point of having to get surgery to fix it so I didn't take a dump when I didn't want to. It stretches out so big that there's no way you could have any control over going in your pants. But that's of course if your doing all the time. Once in awhile would be ok but not to that point.

Answer 7

Please don't say "guys" and stereotype us all. I don't like that at all.
This is a private matter and up to you, if you don't like it, tell him. He could create all kinds of problems this way.
It could lead to surgery even, from a torn opening or worse. Ask him if this is the end result he wants?

Answer 8

Tightness!

I like Liz's answer.LOL

Answer 9

it's tighter. don't let him, you could really damage things.

Answer 10

why dont you ask him