My fiance loves to dance and i have tried many times but i just have no rhythm. At this 35+ club, he likes to dance with close friends. I know there is no way that he would cheat on me, but the fact that he wants to touch other women like that bothers me INCREDIBLY. Am i wrong? Please be honest.
2007-06-29 19:24:20 · 13 answers · asked by shanleywins 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
These women are old enough to be our grandparents. Im not jealous of the women its the actual dancing.
2007-06-29 19:34:12 · update #1
I'm not jealous of the women, it's the actual dancing? hahahahahahahahahahahhahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahaha.....is that good enough?
2007-06-29 20:42:08 · answer #1 · answered by Rex B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you are wrong for being jealous, but I do not think there is anything wrong with him dancing with others. I have danced with my brother-in-laws, my father-in-law, my father, my brothers, my friends, and my husband. For me, it is just something fun to do. However, I do think it depends on how they are dancing. If they are "dirty dancing", then obviously it is inappropriate. If they are just having a traditional dance I think it is OK.
I would suggest taking the advice of another poster. Take dancing lessons. Even if you feel you do not have rhythm, dancing lessons can help. It will be fun for both of you and your fiance will appreciate the fact that you are making an effort to try something he enjoys.
2007-06-30 02:52:53 · answer #2 · answered by Tiffany L 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're not wrong. I can understand why he would want to dance with other people if you can't/won't, but I can also understand why it would bother you.
Either way, you should talk to him about it. He needs to know how you feel so that the situation doesn't escalate. Ask him to continue to dance with you until you get the hang of it or get lessons so that he can continue to do something he enjoys.
You're other option is to just express that it bothers you and that you don't expect him to give up something he enjoys but felt that he should know how you feel. Tell him during this conversation that you DO trust him and that's not the issue--you're just bothered seeing someone you care about soooo much so close to another person. Perhaps you could just tell him that you'd feel comfortable if he kept the dancing PG/PG-13.
2007-06-30 02:33:53 · answer #3 · answered by April 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I suggest you start taking some dance lessons my friend. If this interest is so important to him, I would think you'd want to try and be a part of it. But he is being a bit disrespectful as well. He should know that it's not cool to touch women like that when he's clearly with someone. He's not being very sensitive to your feelings. you need to tell him that it bothers you and that you'd like to explore other interests TOGETHER.
2007-06-30 03:38:44 · answer #4 · answered by bestadvicechick 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh no, you are not wrong, he is wrong to have such intimate contact with other women. You should tell him to stop this activity, because it makes you uncomfortable. If he won't maybe you should rethink getting married to him. He just uses dancing to touch other women. No way would I put up with that behavior. He needs to find something else to do.
2007-06-30 02:34:47 · answer #5 · answered by Sweet Suzy 777! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you are not wrong. Dancing is a very intimate activity even between strangers. I dont have any clue how to resolve this one, I just wanted to let you know that your feelings are valid.
Good Luck
2007-06-30 02:29:19 · answer #6 · answered by freshbliss 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hi shanley how are you . I think that you are absoluetely not wrong in being jealous it's ok. You should understand that guys are that way and start to be like him do the same thing as he does. Try that he does not cross the limit. Just attarct him the most .
2007-06-30 05:12:17 · answer #7 · answered by jaggy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you are wrong.
Everyone feels some levels or jealousy. If they say they don't they are lying.
Could I suggest maybe surprising him with lessons? Then he won't have any choice but to touch you ;)
2007-06-30 02:28:14 · answer #8 · answered by dorikaboom 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Dont waste time and energy being jealous over nothing.
2007-06-30 03:46:04 · answer #9 · answered by kmacbailey 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
jealousy isent gonna get you anywhere sweetie! talk to him or/and go to like a dance team or get a dance tape or something and learn
2007-06-30 02:31:12 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋