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Question

i am gng to have an abortion & i'm very nervous
can anyone who had an abortion tell me the steps & how much time it takes. its side effects. pls help me urgently.

Answer 1

Please don't, there are many options out there other then taking an innocent life. If you can't raise the child yourself allow a loving family to adopt your unborn child.

Answer 2

There are many resources on the internet. Are you sure you want to do this? If you plan to have any children later, chances are that you will have a very very difficult time conceiving again. It has happened to everyone I know who has had an abortion. How can you do that? You knew what the consequences were after intercourse, either getting pregnant and/or an STD. I am not here to judge you, but you should think things cleary. You can give your child up for adoption. There are other families who want to have children but have a difficult time conceiving. Give other families a chance to be happy, because kids are so wonderful. I live for my 4 month baby girl and my unborn baby. Everyday I look forward to taking a nap with her, going to bed with her, watching her move around her crib, hearing her talk. These are all wonderful things.
I hope you do the right thing, the decision is yours. No one can make you change your mind, only you can.

Answer 3

To all of those who are trying to make you feel guilty by saying "it's murder" They lie. In order for a murder to take place there has to be a BORN person a pregnancy/zygote/embryo/fetus is not a BORN person, therefore there isn't even a baby. The pregnancy is not a "baby" until it exists the womb. A pregnancy is not a BORN person until it exits the womb. So what you will be doing is terminating a pregnancy. The steps are determined by which type of abortion you are having. Some are simply D & C takes about a half hour you are giving a sedative prior and pain pills for after and can go home right after the procedure but must follow doctor's orders. Another involves suction and you are given a heavier dose of sedatives along with a pain medication , it is uncomfortable but has few physical side effects later on, cramping being one of them and a bit of bleeding. You will more than likely be held for recovery for an hour or two to make sure everything is okay and then you will be sent home with a set of orders from your doctor. There is also the induction/labor and delivery form of abortion where labor is acutally induced and the fetus is expelled via vaginal delivery. This is the most painful physically.
No one can determine the mental/emotional side effects because every woman is different and every woman's needs are different and every woman's reason for abortion is different.
Don't let anyone "guilt" you into something you don't want to do with "it's murder" or "how can you kill you baby". That is what they are trying to do. Trying to make you feel guilty for decideing what YOUR body is going to be used for. You have the right to make that decision for yourself and you have no reason to feel guilty for it.

Answer 4

When asking this question, there is always going to be a big controversy because many people have different opinions on this topic.

Many people are against abortion, but I dont believe anyone really understands until they are in the position themselves. I got an abortion when I was 17, and although it is something I will always regret, I know it was the best option for me at the time.

When I had the surgery, the doctors told me step by step what was going to happen so there wernt any surprises. They put you to sleep, so dont worry about being awake while it is going on. It takes about 30 min, and it painless with the exception of mild cramping after wards. You will bleed(like a period) for a couple of days after and it will probably be heavier then you are used to.
The doctors want to make sure that theyre arnt any blood clots or clumps so they call you and make sure everything is ok.

If you want to talk more, you can message me. I know this is probably a big step for you and you are probably very emotional, as was I. Good Luck.

Answer 5

There are a lot of good books out there--check your local library or counseling center. But there are other options. I had an abortion over 4 years ago and I think about it all the time. I think about how old my child would be and what we could be doing now...it is a tough decision. And everyone has their own reasons--you just have to decide what your reasoning is and if you can live with it for the REST of your life BC you will not forget about it. With that being said--if this is the choice YOU make (hopefully you are not being forced by your boyfriend, husband, or parents)--Find a reputable place, this is not something you want to skimp on--there are a LOT of potential health risks involved. Additionally, make sure that you have support--this will be a traumatic experience, no matter what your reasons. You should definitely research the procedure and the drawbacks before you make such a difficult decision. And most important--YOU have to make the decision--DO NOT let anyone else make it for you. Good luck.

Answer 6

Many clinics require some kind of councelling before you go through with it, so ask all your questions then or just before the procedure. Go to the appointment early and tell the desk nurse you have questions. I'm pasting in the abortion info page from Planned Parenthood which should answer a lot of your questions. I wouldn't recommend just googleing for abortion though because there'll be a lot of anti-abortion stuff that you might not want to see.
If you're having an abortion because this is an unwanted pregnancy (rather than a deformed fetus) ASK ABOUT BIRTH CONTROL. I get my BC pills for free from planned parenthood so even no money is no excuse for not getting it.
Good Luck
Oh P.S. "post-abortion syndrome" is non-existent. It's true that some women are very sad after doing it but it's also true that abortions have changed many women's lives for the better.

Answer 7

PLEASE PLEASE talk to a crisis pregnancy center before you do this...There are so many things they don't tell you..You live in a country where it is your choice...People will tell you it physically can be painful, but what they don't tell you is the emotional trauma you go through when you see a baby the same age yours would be...or the guilt you can feel..I urge you consider adoption...seriously people will pay you for your baby...you won't have to pay for any medical expenses..I do not know what your situation is and I know it is probably not an easy decision..but if you are nervous chances are you know that this may not be the best choice...I know people who have had them and the way they feel now is almost overwhelming with the guilt...Please contact your local chapter of Crisis Pregnancy Center...they will give you another side of the story and a few more options..

Answer 8

Dearest Hot B,

I have had an abortion some 3.5 years ago and would be very happy to help you to get through this.
Your decision is one that is made everyday and allthough it is seen as murder, don't allow these people to judge you and make you feel bad about your decision. None of them have actually been in this situation before and should rather keep their opinions to themselves!
Having an abortion is emotionally and physically very draining, the time I went there wasn't an option for anesthesia ( but seems like these days it is available). They give you a pill to put under your tongue or drink with some water - depends on where you go - then you go to a waiting room and wait for the uterus wall to become very thin (this is the function of the medication and takes about 4 hours). You then get taken into a room where the actual abortion takes place.
Very clean and white and impersonal. You then get an exam by the doctor performing the abortion and this is internally. They then set you up and clamp the vag*** open and use a very big suringe with a small pipe attached to it which they insert into your womb and then start "sucking" the fetus and placenta out. This is very painfull and lasts for about 5 minutes, it feels like you have menstruation cramps but 10x stronger (it is caused by the uterus crimping back to it's normal size). You will be in quite some pain. After this they give you some medication for pain and let you lie down or a little bit.
You can then go home and make sure not to have sex for 6 weeks.
Please go on a contraceptive as soon as you had the abortion and stick with it untill you are ready to become a parent, 10 years ago, there was no choice for women, you now have a choice.
Good luck and let us know how you feel and how you are coping. I will try to help if I can with gettig you through the road ahead of you.

Answer 9

okay. If it's happening at planned parenthood, they should be able to give you information and answer any questions. DO NOT freak out about anyone inserting different sized instruments to dialate, nor should you pay any attention to anyone who speaks of cutting up the baby, etc. There are several different abortion procedures, and it will depend on how far along you are as to which one you will have. Planned parenthood offers a medication procedure where you can have the abortion at home- more like a miscarriage. I have friends who have chosen this option and you do need to know that there can be severe cramping. There is also something called vacume aspiration that is performed at a clinic and is a bit more invasive, but nothing AT ALL like what some of the previous posters have described to you. At this time in our country, we still have a legal right to CHOOSE. It is a very tough descision, and regardless of which choice is made, it will be something you live with all your life. Best of luck to you!! Take a look at this website, it may help calm some of your fears if you do indeed choose to go that route. http://www.plannedparenthood.org/birth-control-pregnancy/abortion/first-trimester-options.htm

Answer 10

Probably the best thing to do, it to talk about it with your doctor, or who ever is taking care of it, he knows the time you+ve been pregnant, the risks, and the particularities of your situation.
It is your right to know everything about what is going to happen to you... and your baby, some procedures are extremely cruel.
Don´t feel embarrassed to ask any question you have.
Side effects, and details also depend on the procedure they make on you, which changes depending on your particular situation, there also may be a support group in your community or a hot line. Or other choices, which can guarantee your and your little angel´s health.
All the best!

Answer 11

Please ignore all of the negative responses you've received. You didn't ask anyone to talk you out of this. You've made up your mind, and you deserve an answer to your question.

I have never had an abortion, but I've read a lot about them. The method they use will vary depending on how far along you are. If you're very early, a medical abortion will be preformed. You will be given one pill to take on your first visit, and another will be given a few days later.

Before the actual abortion is preformed, you will be asked many questions, and you may be offered counseling. I would definitely accept the counseling so that you're prepared to follow through with the procedure. You want to make sure that you know all of your options, and you want to be mentally and emotionally prepared for everything that comes with it.

If you're slightly farther along (more than 10 weeks, if I recall correctly) you can have a D&C or a D&E done. Your cervix will be dilated, and the fetal matter will be removed either with a vacuum device or some other medical instruments.

You will probably experience some cramping and bleeding, especially if you have a medical abortion. Your doctor can give you pain medications to help with this.

I wish you the best.