we all were having a few drinks and everyone was having a good time until my husb co-workers were taliking about porn, since at my husb job they also sell satellite dish. anyway they were teasing my husb for accidently scrolling through the porn that didnt upset me what upset me was that one of the girls that he works with told him" ws it hard porn or soft porn" and my husb responds it was "soft for me" and wll everyone laughed so after we all went home I told him that was not right he apologized to me, but I cannot help thinking that if they ll speak that way infront me how do they talk at work I didnt like the fact that the girl had such freedom to speak 2 him in that way can someone please give me some advice please?
2007-06-29 15:12:19 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If your husband has never given you a reason to not trust him, then you need to trust him. I used to be a really jealous person, but I realized that I was just pushing my husband away.
2007-06-29 15:19:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
So would you rather have him lie to you from now on? If you make a big issue out of it, that is what will happen. People that work together for 8+ hours a day will get to know each other very well and may feel very comfortable in some ways of communication. Many affairs start at the office. It is something that you can't control. If you leave the communication open for him to feel comfortable to talk to you then you will know more than if you nag him in a negative way and try to control what he might be talking about at work.
2007-06-29 22:21:26 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am having a hard time seeing a problem here. Your husband is working with a group of people that he likes, and they tend to joke around a bit. He is not cheating. He is doing nothing wrong!
They are not quite as uptight as you are, and your husband feels free to enjoy himself with his co workers. You are upset that "girl had such freedom to speak 2 him in that way". She was not making a pass at him. She was teasing him, as part of a group of friends and co workers.
If you can not deal with a little friendly banter between your husband and his co workers, perhaps you should stay home and let him enjoy himself!!
2007-06-29 23:00:14 · answer #3 · answered by fire4511 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
is the female co-worker good looking? and is that why you were upset? turn it around and ask how you would feel if she was ugly or it was a guy who asked. not to offend but is there other reasons you feel suspicious? you could just be blowing this way out of proportion and putting things into his head that are not there. do not ask him to quit, put the shoe on the other foot. would you quit a job if was jealous of a harmless co-workers tasteless joke?
2007-06-29 22:59:43 · answer #4 · answered by laughingtxlady 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
At my job we all joke around and say some silly things, and the girls there are just as bad as the men. But that's at work. They must have felt you fitted in well with them and can take the joking. I really don't think you should take it to seriously, I'm sure it was all done in fun.
2007-06-29 23:21:57 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
what is the difference? if a male co worker or female co worker ask about porn everybody is suppose to be equals at the work place, if he jokes about porn at work as long that she does not get offended by it is alright is just co workers interacting with each other
2007-06-29 22:26:48 · answer #6 · answered by locox62 1 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Guys watch porn, it's nothing to be insecure about, unless it's affecting your sex life. I'd be more worried about what he considers hard porn, than the girl's comments. After all, he went home with YOU, didn't he? Best of luck.
2007-06-29 22:37:50 · answer #7 · answered by Unicornrider 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, I don't really see how that was inappropriate. Since you were already talking about porn and laughing, she was probably just trying to be part of the conversation. I wouldn't look too much into it.
2007-06-29 22:19:44 · answer #8 · answered by Magaroni 5 · 4⤊ 1⤋
It's a sensitive subject when someone else (particularly a woman) is talking casually with your husband about sex. But it was all a joke (albeit tasteless). It's good you told him how it made you feel, and that he apologized. Don't give much more thought to it than that.
2007-06-29 22:20:08 · answer #9 · answered by bubblyboo 2 · 2⤊ 2⤋
I'm in agreement with you. Clearly this is a workplace that enables them all to feel completely at ease discussing such things, and that's NOT okay.
I'd tell your husband honestly and lovingly how you feel about this and ask him to start looking for another job for your sake. If he loves you he'll be a man and start (QUIETLY) looking (i.e., not telling the co-workers), find another job, quit and walk away and NEVER see those people again.
God bless.
2007-06-29 22:20:23 · answer #10 · answered by lady_phoenix39 6 · 0⤊ 4⤋