I was poor but now I'm rich, I became what I said I wouldn't, the money has changed me, why?

Question

I love the power. It has gone to my head. Why?

Answer 1

It is a natural human response to sudden power, and money translates to power. This would be expected based on theories of operant learning. One basic rule of operant conditioning is that when behavior is rewarded, it will likely increase. You are your own source of reward, and you do not have to say no. That also means that you control much of the punishment in your life. If you have sufficient money, you can actually be rude (not saying you are) and still people around you will smile. Of course, it's not because they like rudeness, it's because you are a source of reward to them if they can tolerate you. Before, people would place numerous conditions on you to respond favorably to you, now the equation is different. They respond to you based on the hope of a later reward. That is why rich people can be arrogant and get away with it. By the way, that does not mean that all rich people become this way. You have to develop an objective perception of this new world of wealth.

Also, the principle of satiation/deprivation is less of a concern. If you're very wealthy, you have the ability to continue to spend after the enjoyment of a previous purchase wears off. Most people cannot do that with limited incomes. For example, I love going out to Red Lobster, but it is expensive. One reason I "love" Red Lobster is the fact that I can't afford to eat there all the time. My finances naturally "deprive" me of this reward. However, if I were wealthy, I may try to eat there everyday..., but that would not last (principle of satiation). One's wealth acts as a buffer to satiation, because I can vary the expensive restaurant at will, in other words when bored, I can afford another great place until I start to miss it again (a wealthy version of deprivation).

I suggest financial advice (which I assume you've hired by now), spiritual guidance, the willingness to hold yourself to a higher ethic. Because if you do not restrict yourself, you'll find few people willing tell you the truth when you're being foollish or crude. You may end up using this service for reality checks more than normal. So, more than ever you need to maintain a set of morals and ethics to guide your everyday interactions with others. For some people, sudden wealth is a curse. It does not have to be that way, make it a positive and beneficial status for yourself and others who are good people. Good luck and happy spending.
DP

Answer 2

As the saying goes Be careful of what you wish for it might come true...........I have a semblance of knowing how you feel because in some parallel I have experienced what you are going through right now...........the best answer lies within you my man you have the guts to face reality or else you wouldnt be asking this question.............change is inevitable in life if your not happy with these changes you have the power to choose and take control of your life at least you have it easier who wouldnt want to be rich and thus it would be a lot easier for you Good luck my man.........

Answer 3

The money didn't change you - your buying power did. Once you realize that it is all dross and money can be so much more than a vehicle for the purchase of toys - you will be happier and more pleased with yourself.

Answer 4

Because the people around you start acting different too.

Answer 5

It is because u allowed u get it into ur head.