i was sexually, mentally, physically, and emotionally abused. My question that i really would like to know the answered to is it ok not to be completely healed from this bad thing in my life and how long will it take me to completely heal or will i not ever heal?
2007-06-29 14:44:36 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
its only been a year.
2007-06-29 14:45:15 · update #1
I am so sorry that you had to go through that. If I had to go through that I'd never get over it but you need to cope and learn that it was a horrible thing to happen to you but it's time you moved on. It'll be hard at first. Know that not all guys are like that. I am so sorry that it happened to you though. I feel bad for you. If you need to go to therapy then it's ok. I'd think that going through something like that would be a good idea to go see a therapist. That's what they are there for. Don't let anyone make you feel stupid for going to see one. If it'll help you then I think it's a good idea. I think I'd go if i were in your shoes. I know there's hope out there. I'll be praying for you.
2007-06-29 14:50:56 · answer #1 · answered by ? 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi, sorry to hear your going through this hard time especially while your pregnant.Yes I have been through this and I can easily understand why you would go there with your soon to be ex, but I don't think you're being completely honest with yourself (consciously or sub consciously) You're pregnant so your hormones are putting your feelings all over the map, and you're in a sexual relationship with the same man who cheated on you and destroyed your trust,broke up your family and left you to raise 3 kids alone... Does that sound like rational thinking? Also you can't help but have some feelings (good or bad )for the guy, he's the father of your children and you used to believe (or still do) there was a future with a happy ending for all of you. My advice, move on. It's way to soon to even be friends with the ex, and it's probably not good for you emotionally ( or your 3 kids) to be involved with him unless you think there's a chance for you to get back together.(it didn't work out that way for me)Besides you deserve a guy who is really into You and doesn't crush your self esteem by cheating on you. I wish you the best.
2016-05-19 01:02:10 · answer #2 · answered by noel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can heal but you can never forget. You can choose to move on or choose to live in the past. Get professional help to help you heal and drop that baggage and leave it behind you when the time is right to do so. Don't let one bad event define your life or control your thoughts.
2007-06-29 14:50:44 · answer #3 · answered by Sheriff of Yahoo! 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I believe that no one is completely healed from a situation like that. You might learn to live with it and move on but it will still be a part of your history and your life.
2007-06-29 14:51:39 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
ummm, YEAH! As a matter of fact, though alot of us DO grow up, it never completely leaves the sub conscience. There can be certain smells that can trigger a flash back, or sounds... You may be overly overprotective of your kids(if you ever have any). You may be overly sensitive and become a "rescuer"(which you have to be soooo careful of, because a lot of people will take advantage of that.)
You may have to get counseling for the rest of your life. You may not. You may pull through, become a stronger woman than you ever thought you could be(which, IMHO, you already ARE because you SURVIVED!!!), and help other women who have dealt with similar experiences.
In the meantime, check around your area for outreaches for women and girls who have gone through similar things.
Hugs, and all the best of blessings to you. Keep your head up and remind yourself that you survived and you are alive. It didn't kill you, so make it make you stronger.
2007-06-29 14:53:47 · answer #5 · answered by MamiZorro2 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It takes a very long time to heal from something like this. My advice is that you seek professional help, talk to a counsellor, get on some meds. These will help, eventually it gets easier.
2007-06-29 15:01:30 · answer #6 · answered by sasmo 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You ight not be healed for a long time, depends on your personality and how or who did it to you..
As is it okay I have been scarred a long time ago nothing like you have expierenced but bad and to this day it affects me.. And I wish that I could be free of it.. I hope you heal and soon :)
If you want to chat email me... bluelighting@yahoo.com
2007-06-29 14:54:05 · answer #7 · answered by Ray B 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It has been 28 years since it happened to me.
I have found a place for it in my psyche where it can't hurt me anymore. I just recently found that place.
Sometimes the hurt is too bad to completely heal but you can find a place for it where it won't hurt you anymore.
2007-06-29 14:50:40 · answer #8 · answered by Gorgeoustxwoman2013 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The easiest way to heal from that type abuse is to remember that none of it was ever your fault.
You never asked for it. Someone else has to live with it don't let yourself get down to thier level. You get over it and let them suffer. Bless your heart.
2007-06-29 15:04:11 · answer #9 · answered by ya-who 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When you get into something and cut yourself, you're left with a scar, a reminder to be careful next time. It will take time, lots of time. No you will not forget, but you can get to a point where you no longer dwell on it. Sometimes a professional can help you figure out how to deal with your past. Sometimes it just takes a friend. Best wishes.
2007-06-29 14:52:15 · answer #10 · answered by Captain Happy Pants 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋