Do you think that talking about the pain you feel when a loved one dies helps to overcome the pain?

Question

Or makes you kind of "addicted" to it, and you can't stop talking about it?

Answer 1

i do believe that it helps. if you bottle it all up and bury it deep down it will come out in other ways, usually destructive behaviour.

it has been my experience that once I have talked it (it being an emotionally painful situation) out completely I no longer need to talk about it at all. I do understand where you can get the idea of it becoming addictive, but a good therapist should help you aim to finding away to deal with the grief constructively.

Loosing someone you love is the most devastating experiences, but through talking about it, you can find ways to greive without negitive impacts.

Answer 2

I think talking about whatever is on your mind is helpful. Not just the pain you feel, but all the joys, and everything else you've gone through with that person. There is no right or wrong way to grieve. I won't say each person is different, because most people fall into at least one category of grieving. Some talk about it for years, some talk about it for a short time, some do things to get their minds off of the grief they feel, some feel guilty, some don't, etc.
I would like to recommend that you contact your local Hospice. They do bereavement counseling, and it's free for most Hospices. Good luck.

Answer 3

I can't speak for others, but I can share how it has helped me.

I lost my oldest daughter in an accident when she was 10 years old. I have felt the need to keep her memory fresh. I don't want to act as if she had never been.

I see others her age growing up and I feel cheated that I'm not able to see her doing the same. Talking about my daughter with others reassures me that she is not forgotten and somehow that keeps a small part of her still alive.

Answer 4

I think every person handles the loss of a loved one in their own way. I personally don't think it's healthy to hold in those intense emotions because they manifest themselves and can cause many problems later. I think talking about how you are feeling, missing the person and the memories you had with them can be very healing. Getting those feelings out will help to heal faster. Otherwise, you will have to deal with them down the road.

Answer 5

It depends on what the person who's listening says to you. Depending on what is said, it may be comforting and soothing, or it may make the grieving person feel worse. Which is why one who dispenses opinions or advice should take into consideration the frame of mind the person is in.

No, I don't believe you get addicted.
Everyone grieves in their own way. All the talk in the world isn't going to bring back your loved one.

Answer 6

With any normal person, it would help to relieve any pain, especially if the person they speak to knows that person or what they went through. But, if the person is a pathological liar, they will often use greater steps to get attention and the loss may not even be true in that case.

Answer 7

as an addict in recovery, part of the healing process is learning to accept what we did to others and to ourselves... and you have to talk about it over and over in order to find ways to cope.... hopefully this person would seek a support group that has the same common issue... they would be best to share the pain and also teach them ways to recover and cope with the pain of losing someone..

Answer 8

It's good to talk about it, but try praying for your friends who've passed away too. Ask the heavens to send them whatever help they may need, they may be on your thoughts a lot because they need your help in the afterlife.

Be blessed.

Answer 9

Talking about it is like rubbing a sore spot. It only makes it feel worse.