My husband and I got into a discussion about love being equal between the two people in a relationship. He believes that in any relationship one person is always more in love than the other. Do you guys think this is true or not. With your answer include if you're married, single etc..... and for how long. We're both curious to see what others think.
Thanks :)
2007-06-29 14:14:25 · 12 answers · asked by Christine 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Okay...
I was married for 15 years...hopelessly devoted and in love with my wife...and she finally told me that she "Fell out of love." For the past 9 months I've been living with a warm and caring woman...and just yesterday she has told me the same thing.
Did I love them more than they loved me? On the surface one would tend to think "Yes, because they grew away from me."
But can you really measure love? Who's to say that my girlfriend or my ex didn't love me more passionately for a shorter period of time...remember that the candle that burns twice as bright lasts half as long!
In a long-term relationship love and passions wax and wane like the cycles of the moon. You have times when you can't believe how lucky you are to have this wonderful person in your life...and times when you can't believe you're still with them...but you know deep down that you still love them regardless.
There are times when one person may love the other more...and times when the rolls reverse...the important thing is that you love each other.
Love isn't a "contest"....it just is!
...Well, that's MY 2 cents...
Good Luck to you both...and keep on loving each other.
2007-06-29 14:32:45 · answer #1 · answered by MACHNGUN 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I have been married almost 15 years and I think that the love we share is equal for one another. We have an intense love for each other that only seems to grow over time. We tell each other that we love each other many times a day and we mean those words. I think that because we respect each other the feelings of love are able to flow easily between us. There is nothing that we wouldn't do for each other. I don't even like the thought that one of us might love the other more because in an equal partnership all should be equal.
2007-06-29 14:59:22 · answer #2 · answered by kaylee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't believe that one is more in love than the other....it's really about respect when you are married. Love can be translated into so many different avenues depending on who wants to make something out of it. Love is what brings you together and should keep you together but it changes into so many different avenues as you have children and change over life. Saying that one person is more in love than another doesn't transform into reality unless someone came into the marriange with a different agenda. If the two of you are on the same path with your morals and goals, maybe religion as well, then you are equal. But the fairy tale love issue doesn't merit time or consideration if those issues are the same. I believe my husband and I are on the same track as to what we expect and therefore we are together as to how we love each other and we show it every day.
2007-06-29 14:26:17 · answer #3 · answered by dawnb 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is not a feeling, it is an action. Lust is a feeling. So some people naturally lust more than others. But love. Love is servanthood to one another, in the confines of a trusting relationship. So if one is laying down their life for the other, and sacrificing their own needs for the others well being, that is love.
Hope that helps. :)
2007-06-29 14:26:57 · answer #4 · answered by fellowsjs 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been dating the same guy for 13 years. I believe love can be equal but not in this relationship I know he loves me more then I love him. I'm able to tell he loves me more by all the things he does for me.
2007-06-29 14:28:45 · answer #5 · answered by mormar 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well im single but yea i do agree, now days in america women tend to love the men more and the men dont care. But that is just because they choose bad men to marry who dont care about them. But in a GOOD relationship it is usually almost equal.
2007-06-29 14:21:19 · answer #6 · answered by neohnecrosis 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i do believe one is always more in love then the other I'm a married mom to 3 kids. Currently i love my hubby to bits but, i kinda know he loves me more if something happen to me his world would fall apart. He was not my 1st love i am his.
2007-06-29 14:25:16 · answer #7 · answered by ally'smom 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would have to say equel in my case at least.Been married to the same lovely lady for over twenty years.We tell each otther the three words every day as well as showing it many ways as well.
2007-06-29 14:22:51 · answer #8 · answered by Charlotte's Dad 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Been in love a few times,and after a few heartbreaks, decided the next time to make sure they are more in love with me than I am with them. Yeah it sounds selfish but it works.
2007-06-29 15:07:32 · answer #9 · answered by seahorse 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nope i think that me and hubby are the same in love with each other and we're near the 25 years mark. well i don't know how you can think more then another but we have the same for each other ok?
2007-07-03 13:02:19 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋