Do you think that love is a real unique feeling, or it is just the evolved form of lust?

Question

I just I felt that I was in love two times before but one of them ended in hatred and another ended in a very nice and deep friendship (we’re best friends now but it is not a bf-gf situation anymore), and now there is another girl in my life that I feel like I love her, so how can you tell that it is love this time or even such a thing as love even exists? Haven’t you ever had the same experience?

Answer 1

I can't answer the original question of if love is an evolved form of lust because I don't know anything about feelings evolving and such. But to the end question, yes, I've been in that situation. Love is so easy to confuse. Every relationship I get into, if it gets past about 2-3 months, I start feeling like maybe I love this person, as in really strong feelings for them, that tingly one. But then I convince myself that I'm just confused about it and I should wait longer before I start labeling my feelings for people. It's hard to tell. Maybe we do love freely and openly, just in our own way and with our own definition of love. Some say love is the type where you jump in front of a bullet for someone and others say it's more like just treating someone kindly and letting them into your life. So maybe you did love those girls just not on an extremely deep level. As far as telling the difference if you love them or not, I'll use the example of your good friend now. Since you both are still able to remain so close and best friends, maybe that was real love and you're meant to be in each other's life it was just bad timing, something like that. I think you will just "know" when it's that "love you forever" type of love when it comes along but for now, loving everyone isn't necessarily bad, just don't break hearts :P

Answer 2

Sure, I've had the same experience, but I believe that love is a real, deep, meaningful and unique feeling. There are different kinds of love of course. When I got married the first time, I was very young and in a 4 year, volatile relationship. I loved her then but our marriage only lasted a year. I now know that she wasn't the right one. I am 33 yrs old and married to a wonderful woman, my best friend and feel like this is the first time in my life I've truly known what love feels like. It's different, deeper and unconditional. We have a level of trust and committment to each other that I've never experienced before.We've been together for 6 years and we are still very much in love, have long, interesting conversations and do everything together. My suggestion is to get to know the other person before commiting, be sure you really "like" the person and their personality and that you share common values and interests. All relationships require compromise and giving from both sides. When you are with the right one, it's a feeling like you've never had before. You will just know that you can't imagine your life without her. Love does exist!

Answer 3

Love is far more than just the simple egotistical selfish narcissistic contemplation and re-contemplation of the self giving itself pleasure. It can be if you let it. It can be the doing the same for someone elso too. Keep on going. It is all you mentioned but with a few hundred zeros behind it. It is not love if it is not being gotten selfishly too. But it is not always love to get it selfishly. Getting confused yet? And come to think of it... Love is not taking from the internal spot that which you and that which you are created by to replace it with another anything human or fetish or whatever. You need that higher process free within you to weave your realities that can be shared safely with those you want to love. Put a woman in that place, or a man and you block yourself off from some vital energy that can help you make it work with another. Now that I have managed to totally confuse you I will quietly slither off. Good Luck

Answer 4

Think I read in some readers digest magazine that love and lust evoke different parts of the brain. So they should be two different things. I think you have to check out the symptoms you are having now. Sexuality education in school taught me that love and infatuation are different and each has its own behaviour characteristics. Maybe you could check it up on the net and ask yourself. It should be clearer this way.
Hope this helps, and no I don't have the same experience.

Answer 5

I think it is a real unique feeling. It is something that doesn't feel like anything else. An evolved form of lust would be something that you feel in your mind...but love you can feel in through every sense. You can feel it in their touch...you can see it in their eyes...smell it in the cologne they wear. It is in everything they do...every word they say...every breath is for you. It is amazing knowing that someone loves you, and that you can love them just as much. That you can't picture yourself without them....you miss them when they've been gone for a few minutes..and every second you are together you cherish...and you never have a dull moment. It's amazing.
So you tell me...is it love...or is it lust?

Answer 6

"love" between a man and a woman is not real at all. It is a hormone driven bio chemical illusion and transient or momentary delusion. People walk in and out of "relationships", (even coining an objective term for them) just as easily as changing channels on a TV set when the winds of metabolism shift. I can tell you this as an expositor and observer of Human behavior all of my adult life. The viciousness and venom and ferocity with which one will break free from another to seek out and bond , couple with another , especially that of the female gender when the chemical bond is broken is truly astounding and bears witness to my statement. We are animals and everything we do is driven by electrochemical impulse and instinct.

Answer 7

this kind of question has no answer really. ypu cant define love or label it as something. its simply a good happy feeling. lust is....wanting, basically. yes i have had experience, but didnt happen so happily as i hope. people that have had a good loving relationship exists. fot those that have had not so good relationships says it doesnt. but that fact that it DOES happen to people and it lasts at least for a few people, i say it does exist. the problem is that heartbroekn people dont want to believe or think about cus it didnt work right for them. regardless that it hasnt worked for me, hopefully YET, i say it does happen.

that tingly feeling you get...there it is.

Answer 8

I have never experienced love, but I think that it does exist. Maybe you didn't feel like it existed when you were with those girls because they weren't the right ones for you. Once you meet the right person, you will get a feeling, and that feeling wil be love. That's what I think (and hope)
Hope this answers your question!

Answer 9

ok this is comming fro a girl.im wondering the same thing too.how you you know if its love or not.sometimes we mistake love for caring.or like you said lust.we normally know what were feeling.happy mad sad but im begining to realize that love is just indescribale. youd do anything for her, youd sacrafice anything and everything for her.and if she was to leave youd do anything to get her back..yea maybe that one ended in hate..geez i hated my BF when he dupmed me...but somewhere deep inside i said you dont hate him youre jsut mad. the other relationship you had ended in friendship. maybe it wasnt the right time or maybe youre better off friends.but in the end youll understand what loves is.you have to know what youre feeling.mad sad.but itll come to you.and if this is the girl for you...then youll know

Answer 10

Love is a real unique feeling...

You are just clueless...