Does anyone know what to do if they don't want anything to do with child support?

Question

I don't want to go after the father but the state of WI won't leave me be. How do I get them off my backs? The father is with me and isn't going anywhere so why won't they leave us be? How do I file for good cause for the both of us?
and lastly, if all else fails and I decide to skip the state, what happens?

Answer 1

Anytime the state is helping you support your child they will go after the father. So, stop applying for welfare benefits and they will leave you alone. Are you reporting the father's income when you file for assistance? Actions have consequences.

Answer 2

If the father is with you and do his share of take care of the child -that is so simple it is like closing your eyes.
Okay if you are apply for welfare you need to tell who all lives with you so there should be no problem there.
Have the father go to a lawyer and write up a legal letter stating that he is support the child. So he is not an absent father or a deadbeat dad.
I donot live in WI so I donot know their laws.
you could go to legalzoom.com and see if they have anything on child support(this website was created by lawyers so it should be helpful).
You could go to the Child support agency there and ask about a form that will tell them that he is taking care of the childern and help with food and stuff.
If you show them proof of the fact he is living with you but having your both names on the bills that come into the house.like the light bill ,gas bill ete.( have all kinds of documentation or otherwize they will not believe you-paper work with both names on it will stand out more then nothing.)

Answer 3

If your with the father of the child why not get married that will stop them from coming after him for child support. Just my opinion.

You might want to look in to talking to a family law attorney they can tell you what to do.

They wont leave you alone because the money isn't for you but for the child so that the father who if you were married to would be putting forth that so that the child is supported.

if you skip the state i dont know what would happen, i dont think anything but i could be wrong.

Answer 4

In the state of Wisconsin, in order to get any state aid, you must file for child support. This is the way it should be everywhere. You have one of a few options. Don't file for any state aid (this would include WIC, Welfare, Food Stamps, EBT, housing credits, student grants, etc), get married to this guy, or file for child support.

Answer 5

are you receiving any kind of state assistance? food stamps medical cash ? if so they won't drop it because they want their money back. i don't know what will happen if you leave the state but if you go somewhere else and even just get medical they'll go after the father again. and if he doesn't pay he can go to jail or have his wages garnished or have his income tax seized. good luck

Answer 6

If you are seeking some form of welfare in respect of yourself and your child, the authorities are legally required to pursue the father of the child. If you wish to avoid this, then you'll need to get a job and support yourself and your child without any type of government assistance

Answer 7

Just let them take the money from him and give it to you. You now have the money in the same house and they don't know the difference. If you get married, they will consider you a single household and drop the issue.

Answer 8

Are you on or applying for state aid? If so, then they will insist that you recieve child support unless you file for good cause. If you do file for good cause, you're telling them that you don't want the father to pay child support because you think he could harm you or your children (that's how it was explained to me, anyways). I don't think people can file for good cause when they're the one who is supposed to pay...

If you aren't recieving any aid, then I don't know why they'd be trying to get him to pay child support. If you are and it's that important to you that he doesn't pay child support, tell them you don't want aid anymore. I really don't think fleeing the state is necessary...

As far as I know, if you apply for aid and tell them that he's living with you and he's working, there's no reason for them to try to get child support out of him sense his income is being counted in the household income to determine if you qualify for aid.

Their bottom line is that he is responsible for financially supporting his children before they are. If both parents are supporting their children one way or another and the children's household still needs aid, fine. If both parents aren't, they want to get support out of both of them because then the household may not qualify anymore.




EDIT: Having read some of these other responses... I'm rather disgusted. Most people here seem to have no idea what they're talking about. I live in Wisconsin. The system is set up so that it's extremely difficult for inner city residents who went to inner city schools to NOT get state aid of some sort. For many people, "getting a job" won't make a difference because it's very difficult for them to get a high enough paying job to afford health care, even with health insurance that some employers provide. For a young person who has the choice of getting a job and going to school or having kids and getting state aid, the former seems an extremely difficult proposition. Their parents/mom was on state aid, their friends and neighbors and family is on state aid, and that's how they survive. It's just how things are done. Yes, it's possible for any reasonably healthy person to find a way to speak "proper" English so they can get have a chance at getting a decent job, go to school, get a better job, and make a different life for themselves and their families, but to most people who grew up in the inner city, this just doesn't seem like a real option. So what are they faced with? If they want health care when they become adults, they have to have kids. And once they have kids they have to make sure they're working, but that they don't make too much money. If they make even $1 a month over the limit, they then lose their day care assistance, health insurance, and food stamps. For someone who has a two or three kids (especially if any of them have even mild health conditions or take medication), this could easily be at least $2000 a month. Also, recieving aid is practically a job in itself. If you have to contact your case worker for any reason (and you do at least every other month or so), you're looking at taking at least half a day off of work. You can call the numbers they give you, and if you happen to not get a busy signal, you'll be on hold for at least an hour, often longer. If you go down to the dept of health and family services (which you have to several times a year, at least), you're going to be there for at least 2 to 5 hours. It actually takes a lot of time and effort to recieve state aid, but like I said.... most of them can't afford not to.

The system is set up so that generation after generation is dependent on state aid. I'm not saying that people can't get out or that it's right or that people should be sympathetic. I'm just saying that that's how it is. If you actually want to tell someone something that has any potential for helping them change anything, saying "get a job" or "stop having kids if you can't support" them isn't going to accomplish anything, except possibly to further the misconception that people who aren't in their situation won't accept them or give them an opportunity to better themselves because they're looked down on (which is something that they are taught growing up).

Seriously, what do you think you're going to accomplish by talking down to someone and telling them to get out of the situation they're in as if it should be easy?

Answer 9

its easy get off welfare. if you cant house, and feed your children then for god sake stop having them. you and every body reading this knows you have lied to the state and told them you cant find the father just so you can live off the state. the rest of us finds a way to not only to raise but SUPPORT our children. why cant you? i cant believe you would come on here and ask such stupid question. GET A JOB AND STOP BEING A WELFARE JUNKIE AND YOU AND THE STATE WI WOULD BE BETTER OFF.

Answer 10

If you want any kind of state funding, you HAVE to file for child support unless you are married. EVEN if both parents live together.