I Just started my period...how do i tell my mom?!!?

Question

I dont really have a close relationship with my mom....we fight alot..she embarrasses (i know thats common for a teen to think that, but really) I dont really have any other close women or girl friends i could tell. Except for my best friend.I honestly dont know what to do...any ideas on how to tell her i started my period??i cant tell my dad because thats even weirder..pleaseeee help! thankss::

how did you tell your mom?

Answer 1

I have a close relationship with my mum & I still found it hard to tell. Because I was 9 at the time, my mother wasn't expecting me to be menstruating for another couple years. I spent five days in severe pain, thinking I was going to die. Using tons & tons of toilet paper rolled up, as a makeshift pad, to soak up the blood that was pouring out all time. I was told it's only a small egg cup full of blood that comes out. So I thought I was bleeding internally, cos it was a lot more. Washed my pants in sink & hid them. I felt like a freak. My mum knew there was something wrong because I kept following her around all the time. In the end she sat me down & I came out with it. She had no idea- quickly got me some pads, painkillers etc & treats. Plus I got time off school when I was in severe pain- much needed. It's going to be embarasing, but it's part of being a woman. There's no way around it. Just come out with it, don't be weird like me. It's nothing you can control & you will need her help.

Good luck. And don't forget you can become pregnant if fooling around unprotected now, so stay safe.

Answer 2

Yeah she will probably be able to figure it out on her own.
Telling her will probably help the two of you get closer together. Perhaps you could have a "girls day" or something.
When she gives you advice even if it is awkward to listen to, don't grumble at her though. She is just trying to help and if you resent her you may both just end up grumpy and you will feel more embarrassed and go off by yourself or something.
Yeah, you could just say a couple of the symptoms you have and she will be able to say the words herself.
Or, you could come up with a better phrase to say it. Like a funny way by saying "Well, I think I am officially a woman as they like to say" or "Do you think you could get the pads/tampons that are meant for younger girls?"
I hope you feel comfortable and are able to bond with your mom over this.
Congratulations....? Haha I don't know. I was not thrilled when I got mine.

Answer 3

I never had a close relationship with my mom. We still fight a lot and I am no longer a teen! To make it harder, she never got her period (I am adopted) and really made me feel creepy and embarassed about the whole thing. So that is pretty bad, right?

When I got my period, I went to her and just told her that I had gotten it and left. Done. I was expecting all sorts of gross stuff like her wanting to see or for me to tell her about how it felt or other really mortifying stuff but I just walked away and that was the end of it.

Just tell her and don't worry about it. She'll be fine. She had her period. She gave birth to you. She's been there.

Answer 4

Find a time when you and your mother are not fighting and you are getting along very well. Then you could quietly say Mum, I started my period. She needs to know so she knows when to buy you more pads and tampons and you would not tell her when you are fighting so when you are not fighting is the best time to tell her. Then you can ask her any questions you have. If you do nto want to tell your mum or you are too scared then maybe tell your closest aunty to you. She will be able to tell your mum cause maybe she is doesn't fight with her or not as much as you do.
Good luck with this sorry if my answer seems weird but I hope it helps.

Answer 5

I didn't have a close relationship to my mom either and I just bit the bullet and said I had gotten my period, exact words I think were "I got my period." Really, there's nothing to explain and if she questions you about it just say you don't want to go into any further detail at the moment. She might think she has to discuss this with you but if you know about the birds and the bees, tell her that she really doesn't have to explain the changes your going through because you already know and leave it at that.

Answer 6

well just go up to her when shes alone maybe at night time when or when you know shes not going to be talking to people to soon. and say im pretty sure i got my period. she's a mom so she will get you what you need even though you arent close. hope this helps. i just went up to my mom in the kitchen and was like mom i got my period. if your really un easy about it still ask your friend for "supplies" but its going to come every month so why not get telling her over with now?

Answer 7

As for the fighting both of you are going thru changes. And for her it may be hormonal too.

But as for how to tell her, just let her know that you need to talk to her for a minute in private and then let her when you get to a private room that you need to know where in the house the pads are (this is to help get the conversation started). If she asks if you started you say "yes I did start. I started last night (or whenever you noticed it starting".

If you need to talk some more about periods please feel free to e-mail or IM me privately off site any time.

Answer 8

i am the same way!! i was so scared! and I told my best friend first. It took an entire day to get the courage. Okay so first breathe and just relax, make sure your mom is alone
and its better if she is moving around and just keep breathing
and say i started my period. It shocked my mom, it was kind of funny
but even though we aren't too close just tell her, you'll be surprised by the result

GOOD LUCK!!

Answer 9

Well I went to the bathroom *i already had an idea i started*
and I called my mom in there and said momma look at this.
and she said i started
and i just cried
and then she showed me how to do everything, and then i got to stay out of skewl the next day lol
just do it that way or tell her.
Good Luck

Answer 10

Im native american an that time is very important to us. I was 12 when I got mine. An the women in my family have been waiting for me to have it because we have a cerimony for it. I just told her "Mom I got my period," plan an simple. She well understand that you well need help wit wat to do. Even though u guyz fight I see no reason to fight over this. Only that your a women now an stay away from boyz!! lol later hope I helped u out