What is a reasonable bed time for a 14 year old boy who is off school for the summer?

Question

My son says he should stay up until 12 midnight. He is 14 and sleeps until 11am. Is this too late for him to stay up? What is a reasonable bedtime?

Answer 1

i would come to a compromise with him and suggest that he could stay up later if he proves to you that he can get up earlier in the morning, even i don't stay in bed that long. i have two teenage boys and they usually go up anytime between 10-12. everything is off at midnight but if my two are bickering then it goes off earlier. so if he does that for you then allow him some slack. they won't sleep if they do not want to anyway.

Answer 2

Letting your son wake up late will spoil him. My parents always made me wake up early, and even though this is something that I have a particular problem with (I am really bad at getting to bed early), I really appreciate their effort because I think it's true that waking up late makes you lazy. Also, working in the daytime saves electricity and is part of normal behavior.

If your son were older and had many things to do, I would let him sleep when he wants, but make sure he still wakes up early. But sleeping late and then waking up early doesn't make any sense.

I guess a reasonable bedtime for summer vacation is 10 pm because he sleeps so much. If he only slept 8 or 9 hours, I think 11 o'clock would be fine because
11 pm + 8/9 hr = 7/8 am.

Answer 3

I am 14 and I stay up till 2. I can't go to bed. Let him stay up until 12 it's not like its gonna do anything to you. Plus its summer vacation. Everyone wants to have fun. A reasonable bedtime would be 11 but 12 isn't that bad. I don't even think he needs a bedtime anymore.

Answer 4

I can say this your son is a teenager he should be able to stay up late and and get up early or sleep in its summer. He should be able to set his own bed time by now I've been doing that for years. I go to sleep at 1 or 2 and get up at 7 in the morning.

Answer 5

Well I'm a 14 year old whose off school too. Since you don't have to go to school who cares what time you go to sleep it's not like you'll have to wake up early the next day. When I went to school I went to sleep at 9:30 and woke up at 5:30 (cuz I live far from my school) but now that we're on vaca. I go to sleep at around 11:30 and wake up around 9:00. That's just me. Your son probably sleeps until 11 am cuz he goes to sleep late of course. I don't think he needs a bedtime give him a break.

Answer 6

If its summer time, you should allow him to stay up. If hes not in summer school, theres no use of him going to sleep early. When I was 14, my mom and dad let me go to sleep whenenver I wanted. Obviously not all parents are like that. If you want to give him a bedtime curfew, I would just let him stay up till the time he wants to.

Answer 7

Half the problem is that you let him lie in so late.

Agree with him that midnight is fine provided that he is up and about by 8:30am - the earlier he is up, the more ready for bed he'll be in the evening. Also, the 'fine' for getting up later should be earlier to bed by the equivalent time - the argument being, he obviously needs that sleep!

Answer 8

My son (13) went to bed at 5:00 a.m. this morning. He played Runescape all night. This doesn't happen all the time. It's just that he has a better Internet connection early in the morning.

It's the summer, let your son do what he wants. Midnight is reasonable. Just make him read that last hour before he goes to sleep, that is, if you want him to have excellent reading comprehension, do well in his high school classes and score well on college boards. Get a stack of novels from the library and tell him that he starts reading at 11:00 p.m.

My own son didn't get videogames until last year, and he's a big reader, having grown up reading lots and lots at home. It's all about the habits your kids develop before they leave home, you know.

Answer 9

Hello. I am Jake, and am 14. My mom makes me go to bed at a certain time depending on tomorrows events. So say I have summer school tomorrow, I have to go to bed at 10:30 and wake up at 9am. If there if notihn planned, she lets me stay up until 12:30-1am. and I can get up whenever due to my mom's work. However I may be required to wake up early if someone wants to take a run in the morning with me.

I am with my dad Tuesday, Thursday and some saturdays and sundays. He turns the alarm on so I cant get out, and can here it if i turn it off. But he allows me to stay on whenever, but dont go to bed too late he says due to churhch or somethin else in the morning. But he usually gets me up at 10:30 for breakfast. When I am at his house I go to bed between 1am and 6am. Never later.

So the moral in this is, that if you have trust in your sonm you will trust him enough to make wise choices. But its summer, live it up

Answer 10

He certainly sleeps like a teen. They do need a lot more sleep than an adult. When my daughter was 14 she had an 11pm bedtime during the summer but that was only because I wanted her up before 10am. I think it depends on: if you mind him being up later than you and if you mind him sleeping the morning away.