I love this man i've been seeing . i've been trying to see him off and on he is not married. but my husband has cheated on me before i started seeing this man when my husband was cheating on me my husband and i had seperated from my husband for awhile and then we got back together but the feelings that i have for my husband is not there i saw the other man the other day i the feeling that i have for him is very strong and mutual its a feeling i can't explain please help i'm confused . my husband also used to abuse me and also has a child outside our marriage who is about fourteen years old.but my husband says if i leave him iwould have to pay child support this child is not even mine he did this while we were married how do i get out of this.
2007-06-29 11:05:10 · 25 answers · asked by lil tootie 42 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
f the child isn't yours u don't have to pay 4 it! It doesn't matter that u have feelings for another man! The fact is that your husband abused u! and he still is mentally! I put up with mental abuse for years! U only have one life, why waste it, if u don't love him, leave him! U have no responsibility to a child who isn't yours. Please don't let him blackmail u into staying! If u need 2 chat u can contact me ok?
2007-06-29 11:24:22 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow you are gullible. You met a guy on-line and talked on the phone a few times and you 're in love. Don't you know when you meet a person you get the flavorful version, "Oh we have so much in common," yeah right is he married to a 50 year old and have 4 children." Or do you both just want to get laid? or at least you. I am not meaning to sound mean but you can't forfeit everyone's lives on a fly by telephone conversation. You have no way of knowing if anything this guy is telling is really true because believe me people will come on line and woe you and tell you what you want to hear and next thing you know they own your house and that is the real deal. You are putting your life and your children's life on the line here. You entertained the enemy and now he has swooped your heart. You can't play with fire and expect not to get burnt. My suggestion is STOP before you get what an adulterer gets because that is what you are. If one thinks in his heart to lust after another you have already committed the sin.
2016-05-19 00:15:02 · answer #2 · answered by leonila 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop thinking you have to pick one man or the other. There is a third choice. If you don't want to stay with your husband then make a plan to leave, but not with the man you had an affair with. There will be plenty of time for him after you get reacquainted with yourself. Remember, it is never good to start a new relationship when you are still in a relationship with someone else. Finish one thing before starting another.
P.S. Unless you adopted his illegitimate child you are no way legally responsible for paying child support.
2007-06-29 11:15:53 · answer #3 · answered by mafiosu 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First and foremost, the feelings you are feeling towards this 'new' man will not stay as strong as they are now. Just like any relationship, they strong 'in love' feelings will diminish. So that of the equation needs to be thrown out of the picture.
Secondly, there is no reason for someone to cheat.
Thirdly, you need to understand that after years of marriage, love is a choice. I choose to love my wife and she chooses to love me. So many people say they have fallen out of love when in fact it was their choice to not be in love with that person any longer. You have a legitimate reason to leave the marriage if there is abuse or if he is cheating on you. Otherwise marriage vows should be taken seriously and so should your marriage.
2007-06-29 11:24:32 · answer #4 · answered by dyerhome2603@sbcglobal.net 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why are you wasting your time and your husbands? if your not happy then leave him. Your obviously not willing to work on your marriage because your seeing another man and you have no intentions of stopping. Its wrong no matter what hes done to you in the past... 2 wrongs dont make a right. Why are you lowering yourself to his level? If you dont feel it anymore and your not willing to work things through then leave. Marriage is not an easy thing but you can make it as less complicated as possible if you try! Good Luck honey!
2007-06-29 11:14:09 · answer #5 · answered by Lovely Lady 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You aren't ANY better than your husband.You stayed with him after he cheated and abused you, then NOW you use it as an excuse to get even by doing the same things he did.Just divorce him and relinquish all parental rights, then do the same thing with the next 5 guys.I don't think you know how to pick a decent man.A decent man wouldn't be screwing a married woman.
2007-06-29 11:41:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You would not have to pay child support. You need to divorce your husband before you continue a relationship with this other man. Good Luck to you.
2007-06-29 11:11:36 · answer #7 · answered by frawlicious 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No matter how terrible your husband is or was there is no way to validate what you're doing. If your husband was so bad you should have left. If you love this man so much LEAVE. Two wrongs don't make a right. There is no excuse.
2007-06-29 11:11:41 · answer #8 · answered by Truth Hurts 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't cheat on your husband because if you do, you're not much better, in fact it makes you a hypocrite. If you truly want to see this guy, get a divorce and roll the dice that he'll still be there when you're free and clear.
2007-06-29 11:12:50 · answer #9 · answered by Deep Thought 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your husband is lying about the child support--you are not liable for any part of that child.
That said, you shouldn't cheat---just get a divorce, and HURRY UP!
What a mess people make when they are liars & cheaters.
2007-06-29 11:09:56 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋