Just got married on the 16th. The honeymoon was going really well until one day we were making love and he didn't finish. He was going at it for 45mins and he couldn't finish. Should I be offended by this? Am I doing something wrong? Is it possible to be able to hold out that long if nothing's wrong?
2007-06-29 10:42:40 · 26 answers · asked by Cookie Monster 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
NO WAY. Why would you be offended or feel bad? To begin with it's good that he isn't a one minute man.
2007-06-29 10:45:20 · answer #1 · answered by evelyngrz 3 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Nothing is wrong, this does happen sometimes. No big deal although natural for you to feel insecure about it. Most likely if it was the possibility that he was drinking or felt pressure in some way. My husband will have trouble if he knows that there is a time constraint... You are not doing anything wrong, and I ma sure that this will not be an every day thing, more like a once in a great while thing. By the way, most women don't climax every time so why expect guys to!
2007-06-29 10:49:39 · answer #2 · answered by Stephanie B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not at all.. There is a couple of reasons why a guy doesn't finish. One he had a lot to drink and it's just not going to come out.. Another one is when you have sex for the 2nd time it takes a lot longer than normal... And honestly sometimes he gets to tired to finish.. There is more I just don't know if you want to hear more. Know this your not doing anything wrong cause you could do nothing and a guy is going to make his self finish...
2007-06-29 11:02:16 · answer #3 · answered by crown_royalist 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This has happened to me (I admit it) when I am either extremely tired, stressed, sick or all three. Don't let it bother you. Yes, you can last a while just be sheer willpower. Congrats on getting married and don't worry, he'll soon be horny enough for his new bride. As a side note, if both of you are concerned and this has happened in the past with him, have him go to the doc. He shouldn't be ashamed of going to see the doctor and if he is, you can always "entice" him with...something (use your imagination).
2007-06-29 10:59:59 · answer #4 · answered by Jonathan D 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I read your other question where YOU don't orgasm, either. Maybe marriage is a bit stressful for the two of you. That can make it difficult for a man (or woman) to climax. Relax, go with the flow and don't get worked up. Performance anxiety can also cause men (and women) to not be able to orgasm.
2007-06-29 11:18:53 · answer #5 · answered by anniewalker 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you like totally inexperienced? No, you should not be offended, nothing is wrong, it happens. It has nothing to do with you. Believe it or not, guys can feel like they're "not in the mood" too; sometimes they get distracted, or bored, or feel stressed out. If it starts happening every time, then eventually it should become a cause for concern.
2007-06-29 10:52:13 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I really like Starla's answer (3rd from the top). This happened to me a couple of times and it is because of my "staying time". I have a tendency to last long and it gives me the chance to concentrate on her - so, when I didn't "finish" I am really happy that she feels good. I am not trying to sound as a boaster here, but from a guys perspective YOU HAVE NOTHING TO WORRY ABOUT! I promise.
Best to you and Congratulations on your marriage!
2007-06-29 13:22:07 · answer #7 · answered by Gerry 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, no! You shouldn't be offended by that; it just happens sometimes. Given the huge range of physiological processes that occur during sex and orgasm, any number of things could have been just "off" enough to keep him from being able to finish. Who knows, he could have just been stressed out or tired. Seriously, it happens. Just blow it off and keep enjoying your honeymoon. :) Congratulations.
2007-06-29 10:51:02 · answer #8 · answered by Chrisa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry. Sometimes women malfunction and sometimes men do too. It could be that you were simply going at it too long and too many times. Men need to rest in between.
Don't be offended. He's your husband! You should be able to laugh at things together.
2007-06-29 10:46:11 · answer #9 · answered by Starla_C 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he was trying so hard to please you he couldnt please himself. Practice makes perfect so keep the honeymoon going. Placing a blame will only add more stress to the relationship.. Be understanding and try to imagine how you would feel if you were in his place. He will put enough stress on himself over it.. Let him know it is ok and it will all work out
2007-06-29 10:51:07 · answer #10 · answered by Don't make me beg!!! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You didn't do anything wrong and shouldn't feel offended that your husband didn't climax. It happens to men sometimes. He may have had other things on his mind that prevented him from getting excited enough to ejaculate. Or he may have purposely been withholding to try and bring you to orgasm first.
2007-07-01 23:14:28 · answer #11 · answered by Dick Jones 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋