What is the most serious thing you had to change about yourself in order to achieve what is most important?

Answer 1

Years ago I was charged with public nudity. I was found guilty of such because one night with a fraternity I decided to piss on a car in a parking lot. Cops tackled me like I was a terrorist. And what little evidence I have, no one could have even seen Oscar Meyer. This matter prevented me from getting jobs I don't know how many times. I fought like hell to get it off my record because I don't want to be listed as a sex offender for taking a piss 3:30 in the morning in a parking lot of a bar. I know, I know, it was my responsibility, you are preaching to the choir. But I digress, it was a wake-up call.

About a year after the event, I made my mind up to be an adult. I no longer drink, smoke, or curse. And it has very little to do with religion. I realized that I wanted a family, a career, a life worth living, and in order to do such I had to grow up quickly. Surprisingly, it was not that hard. I started setting goals and attacked them like a piranha on a feeding frenzy. Now everyday matters.

I am now married to the most beautiful woman on the planet, have Sir Gawain on the way, and make excellent money in real estate. I do what I want when I want. I travel. I donate to charity. I live, for myself, and for those I love. Each day a new goal is set, and Lord willing, I accomplish it. I am the luckiest person alive, and all would not have been if I wouldn't have gotten arrested...

Answer 2

I've tried many things in order to get ahead in life. All the gain comes with a sacrifice.. such as mentioned above (stop drinking, stop feeling sorry for yourself etc). What I think the most important step is to changing anything about anyone, is discipline. Any change in a lifestyle means letting go of habits that have been going on for years. The more disciplined one is, the easier it is to change those habits and create new ones.

So how is this discipline achieved? Military disciplines by force, but for everyone else there is not a drill sgt telling you to change, so it must come from within. To change, you must know the change is essential to your future, and that way you feel 'forced' to change.

After this you pretty much will be able to change everything in your life beacuse you will know that it is not easy but that it must be done in order to live life as you want to live it.

Answer 3

After my son was born, the most important thing to me was just to be a good influence on him, and show him how to grow to be a man of integrity. However, I had previously been pretty shady. I knew that, in order to raise my son to be the man that I knew he could be, I first had to become a woman of integrity myself.

The first thing that I did was to call and write to people that I had wronged, and believe me, there were many. This was very difficult and embarrassing, and it is still ongoing as I think of things that I did. After that, though, I began to distance myself from people in my life that were toxic, including family members. This was more difficult than I could ever begin to describe, but necessary in the best interest of my son.

Now, nearly three years later, I am a college student, happily married to my son's father, and expecting my second child. I still struggle from time to time, but because of all of the hard work that I have put in, I don't lose sight of my goals, and I forge ahead and do what needs to be done. The best part is that I know that my son will grow up with a mother that he can see as a role model, and that he can one day be proud of.

Answer 4

My self destructive attitude changed, mainly because i was going in the wrong direction with my life.

I set goals, and it took 6 years to achieve all of them, but i did it.

I am a better person now compared to my old ways.

Think whats important to you Laura? What do you really really want with your life, what would make you happy in life, all that sort of deep stuff.

Hope this helps.

Answer 5

The people in my life.

Despite a cultural slant on families and friends these are, for some, the very people who will contribute to a life of misery. What I changed about myself was how I viewed these people rather than relationships. I let go of beliefs like "family is all you have". It isn't the truth. I let go of beliefs like "friends are forever". The choices that you make will determine if and to what extent you will be involved in my life.

Answer 6

Id say moving down to south parts of england and trying to find myself still looking but i have improved sum finer quals i have learnt and understood a lot and i relised i need more confidence in myself this new job i have just got looks like it may just help me do that i hope

Answer 7

I had to realize and accept that death is a part of life, just as birth is a part. Very hard thing for me to accept the death of my Son. I had to change my views of life. I want to live my life in a way that would make Randy pleased. I would not want Him to grieve forever over me, if I had gone first. Easy to say, hard to embrace.

Answer 8

I had to find my identity. I grew up without anyone having given me one. I made my way through childhood by trying to please everyone. Once I knew who I was, which took many years of therapy and just growing up, I realized that I am an intelligent, resourceful person who is perfectly able to care for herself and I have the identity I need to cope with life.

Answer 9

I had to begin to belive in myself. A lack of self confidence had previosly prevented myself from gaining anything I wanted in life, from relationships to a career.

Answer 10

It is the way thhat I perceived my outlook on life. I had to stop worrying about what people thought of me, and concentrate on attaining my goals in life.