My best friend wants to name her daughter the same name i just used!!?

Question

When my best friend came and visited me and my girls at the hospital she told me that she was naming her soon to be daughter Madalie Melayna after i had just told her our twins names : Ashtyn Alexia and Madalie Merisa! She said she came up with that name two weeks ago, but didn't tell me until that day because it wasn't for sure which i know is a lie because she had already decided on Delaney Rae the week earlier!! Should i be mad about this?? And how can i convince her to drop Madalie considering our girls will be going to school together and all!!

The only thing i can think of is trying to get her to use Maddie as a nickname because i like the name wayyy too much to refer to my daughter as anything but Madalie, does that sound like an idea??

The last name thing will not work, we both have last names that sound like boys names...Mine is Alexander and hers is Tyler!!

Answer 1

I think it will be OK. Don't take it personal, just think of it as you know best.....

Answer 2

Everyone is right. It's her baby and she can choose the name she wants. I know it's not very fair seeing you thought it up, not her, so explain to her how you feel.

Don't expect her to just change her mind because you said so. Give her the reasons why she shouldn't name her kid your kids name.

I would be upset about that too if I were you. It's not just a little thing, it's something you and your kid are going to live with. So I think you should either let it go or talk to her. Maybe she could name her kid Malayna Madalie instead of Madalie Melayna...

Answer 3

It would be nice if you could convince her to use a different name but it all comes down to she has a choice and is free to choose anything even something you have used. Sounds like she changes her mind frequently so hopefully she will change her mind again. Could you tell her that it is fortunate that there are so many lovely names to choose from and thank goodness for that because each child deserves a name that is special for them.
I can tell you from experience as a teacher that they will be known as Madalie A and Madalie T.

Answer 4

FaZizzle is completely right. Just relax! Nothing is set in stone yet, and you don't want to ruin your friendship over something that might not even happen. Madalie isn't that uncommon of a name, anyway. Even if your best friend doesn't use it, someobody else very well might, and then you daughter STILL won't be the only Madalie and you'll have lost a good friend for nothing. Don't let the hormones get the best of you, and remind yourself that she's bound to change her mind again anyway.

Answer 5

Ok, take a deep breath. First off isn't it great that she thinks you have such great taste that she wants her daughter to have the same name you chose? That being said, I think you should tell her how pretty you thought Delaney Rae was, and if she doesn't get the message you can tell her that it will be very confusing for the girls during play dates everytime someone says "Madalie" and they don't know which girl they are addressing, then tell her that you are looking forward to those play dates . God bless you are your little girls.

Answer 6

How in the world could two girls that are best friends come up with that same name without knowing about it before hand, that's what puzzles me. It's not by any means a common name. But to answer your question, I would be pissed. She could make Madalie the middle name. I would tell her sorry bout her luck but you used it first. If she was able to come up with Madalie, not that it isn't a pretty name, then she should be able to come up with another.

Answer 7

I would be upset too maybe she thinks it is a complement to you but I understand just try talking to her about it maybe you can help her come up with something similar maybe she could name her daughter melayna madalie tyler that is just as pretty and she still has madalie just not as a first name so just try talking to her

Answer 8

if u two are best friend then what would mean ur daughters would be best friends.. and best friends love haing the same name!
and plus guess how many other Madalies there are out there.. ur daughter isnt the only one!
u might move one day and maybe ur daughter will be the only one with that name or vice versa with ur friend..
its no big deal .. it might be confusing when raising yalls kids around each other but hey theres tons of madalies out there

Answer 9

Well first of all it is not like they are sisters. In a classroom there are always kids with the same name. It probably sucks because you wanted a different name, but even not so common names are used more than once. You can tell her how you feel and see if she will consider changing. However, when you were pregnant and heard a name that you just LOVED and wanted to name your kid that should if matter how you got the name. She probably heard the name and can't think of any other name that she loves more than that one. If you really want her to change the name go through a baby name book and help her find one she loves even more!

Answer 10

I wouldn't freak about it. I'd take it as a compliment. Just jokingly tell her that it will get confusing. She will probably change her mind. Tell her you'll have to call her daughter Madalie #2. Just be a friend and be supportive. It's nothing to fight over. She is probably jealous of your good taste in baby names.

Answer 11

If she changes her "decision" every week I wouldn't worry about it. If it continues politely tell her it would cause confusion if she names her baby the same as your. (You wouldn't want to get gifts in the mail that were ment for her daughter) ;) . If you want to be rude about it you could tell her that sure, she can use the name, but "MY Madalie will always be the FIRST Madalie." (At least in your circle of friends.) :D