Army wives.. advice..?

Question

my husband is deploying in a month. lately i've have highly emotional. i'm feeling depressed and then getting mad at my husband, but i feel guilty about it. i'll feel fine but then find myself feeling very irritated for any little thing. i don't want to feel this way but i can't help it. i want to support my husband because i love him and be there for him. two things i can think of either i'm pregnant because i have the symptoms and i'm a week late OR i'm PMSing bad. any advice or something please. :(

Answer 1

While you could most certainly pregnant or PMSing... It's more likely to do with your husband's pending deployment.

Even though on a mental level you know you can't do anything about your husbands deployment and you "know" he has nothing to do with the change in his orders..... on the emotional level you are probably a wreck.

Do you have any army wives who are friends and have gone through this. Be a support group for each other. They can help you deal with the emotions you are not acknowledge... they've been there and they know what you are feeling inside...

Good Luck... And tell your husband thank you from a stranger..... I appreciate his sacrifices.

Answer 2

Sorry, Not an Army wife, but active duty Air Force and wanted to share. Right before I went to an airbase in Kyrgyzstan I had this going on in my house as well (and not only from my wife). I'm normally a really laid back person, but I would get super emotional, then get all pissy at the drop of a hat. Unfortunately, this is normal it's the whole separation anxiety thing. It should pass after he's on the road but odds are it will come back after he gets home and tries to take his role in the house back. I hope that your Husband comes home soon and he's in my prayers for a safe deployment.

Answer 3

it is normal to go through this when he is leaving, when ever my husband deployed (sometimes for 6month) the same thing went on with me and him as well..I don't know why sadness turns into anger and moodiness but it does, I was never angry at him its his job and we knew this coming into the Military would mean he would have to be gone from time to time, its just a kinda couping mechanism...Talk to him tell him how much you love him and how much you are going to miss him, let him know that your not mad at him you are just having a hard time......you also could be a week late because of stress....if you think you could be pregnant than get a blood test done form your doctor...you'll get through this ......Take Care. I will keep him in my prayers for a safe return home to you.....God Bless.

Answer 4

Sorry... I wish I could help. I kind of feel the same way you do though. My boyfriend is leaving in about less then two weeks. And I feel really sad, I find myelf crying a lot more now. He barely joined, he is going to the basic training now and then straight to job training. But after that... he's gone for three years. Now that's the part that sucks... I wish I could go with him... but we're not married.

Answer 5

I think you really miss your husband and your moody because you don't want to see him go, espescailly with the recent news. You may be pregnant, but all you have to tell yourself is that you have to make the best of the time you have with your husband in case something bad happens

Answer 6

hey there I know what you are going through, my boyfriend left about 3 months ago its ok to feel sad and mad but remember that he loves you, he cant be thinking about you not being able to handel it coz that can cause some serious damage, talk to him the best time you guys have set up for talking (i.e. my boyfriend and i used to do it at night when we were both relaxed) and tell him that you love him but you cant help but feel the way you do try to come up with ways to communicarte I have gone 2 to 3 weeks with out talking to my boyfriend and that is even harder (but everything in do time) just talk to him communication is key to a military relationship trust me


hey email me if you feel lonely or just need to talk I know what you are going through

Answer 7

Your mood swing now and probably soon you will have morning sickness if true that you are preganant.

Mostly woman during pregnancy need more attantion and need somebody to be close to her anytime.

Well try to coupe with your mood and give a healthy baby for husband as soon he will be back again.

Answer 8

If you're already a week late, you should definitely take a home pregnancy test to find out.

Answer 9

not an army wife--sorry but you should take a pregnancy test to know before he has to go

also, maybe you are just resentful that he is leaving even though you don't want to be

best wishes

Answer 10

Tell him you need an emergency hug, a really big one. Then tell him what is going on, and how much you love him.