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Why do gay people say just wait and see a couple more years if its what you like, when in the same sentence we all know sexual orientaition is the way we where born, so how could waiting to make a decision change anything? I dont get this

2007-06-29 09:54:57 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture Cultures & Groups Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender

If its not a choice you can not influence anyone to be gay,

For the record I dont think its a choice, but I do think factors insomeones life can push you that way..

2007-06-29 10:06:25 · update #1

26 answers

i dont get it either. i think there is no need to wait, im only 14 but i already no im gay. but i do have one thing i agree on with waiting a few years. if u are gay and u come out, many kids can be cruel and spiteful. i havent come out yet but some kids in my school did and now everyone hates them just because theyre gay or bi

2007-06-29 13:45:55 · answer #1 · answered by chris w 1 · 1 2

Straight people just don't understand more often than not. Some gays will tell you the same thing.
Now, for me, it was a little different. When I was a teenager, you didn't tell people you were,. or thought you might be gay. (I am 40 now)....so I had to go through all the motions of having boyfriends and all that happy shite like writing a boy's name on my notebook. I didn't tell my family or friends for years, although I had my fair share of girls even then...you could do it, I guess, but weren't allowed to talk about it.
And, yes, I was born gay, it was not taught to me...I did not choose it. Lord knows if I could have made a choice, I would have taken the easy way out....picket fence, home raising babies, minivans, car seats...and have some man pay for it all. Give me that life anytime, but I am GAY.
As for the people that tell you to wait and see, maybe they are just hoping you outgrow it (you didn't say exactly how old you were.) And another concern is the diseases out there right now...talk to these people sincerely and openly...if you are indeed gay, baby, you know it already. Find out what their concerns really are, and be straight (no pun intended) up with them.

Might help, I dunno...my family members are my biggest supporters now; at the end of a relationship, etc.

My advice is just be you. People will realize that you are just you whether you are gay or not.

2007-06-29 17:15:25 · answer #2 · answered by melissa 6 · 1 2

Interesting I was just reading statistics on this... 15 yrs ago only 5% of highschool students professed to be gay... 25% 10 yrs ago and now it's almost half. This is mainly because kids arent BEING told anymore that its perfectly natural to question their sexuality in adolesence anymore... its a blanket "you're either born gay or you're not" so when they become interested in the same sex when they're teenagers, they just believe they're gay... and thats that.

2007-06-29 16:59:19 · answer #3 · answered by impossble_dream 6 · 2 0

I think the main reason people say to wait is becuase, young teenagers are so easily influenced by their peers. I truly have heard of people in my high school who claimed to be gay or lesbian and then maybe 1 or 2 years after graduation they claim they were never ever gay or they claimed to not be gay "anymore". When asking them why did they ever come out as being gay in the first place, usually there responses are they were just going through a phase or they thought it made them cool or different. I mean, there are also people who i know that said they were gay/lesbian in the eigth grade and they still are sticking by that. So with teens its hard to tell. Only they know, who they really are.

2007-06-29 17:04:18 · answer #4 · answered by The Queen 2 · 0 2

Because we are very protective of our own. While we want to see all people be happy with who they are, we also want them to make sure that it's not just experimenting, or curiosity. I've known that I was "different" since I was at least 8 or maybe 9. So when I was 14, I told my best friend (who I was actually a little more acquainted with than everybody knew) that I was pretty sure that I was gay. Now here's the funny part. Just after I said this, he pulls his mouth off of my wang, pulls his pants back on, and says,"f*ck you, you g*ddamn queer! you've probably liked sucking my d*ck this whole time." to which i replied,"and when was the last time you didn't like me sucking it?"

I woke up just about 20 minutes later with two black eyes. He never spoke to me again. I did get a letter from him a month later. All it said was,"Yes."

I'd like to say this is supposed to be a joke, but it really did happen. I know this doesn't answer your question, but I started thinking about the whole story, and felt like typing it out.

2007-06-29 17:14:35 · answer #5 · answered by nr347 3 · 0 3

If homosexuality were biologically natural, women would be able to concieve children with women, and men with men.

It is a SEXUAL life CHOICE - no different from necrophilia or beastiality. There is no love involved. It is a shallow, naricissistic behavior. The behavior surfaces by influence from the Liberal media telling kids it's natural, peers, and abuse and/or absence of a parent. Thus: it is a mental disorder.

You gays may argue that homosexual behavior is observable in the animal kingdom as well. All that tells me is that you are no better than animals as to give in to abnormal thought processes. This is somewhat like a case of a person with ADHD who is able to control it without medication. I have personally counseled homosexuals through hypnosis (no, I did not tell them to become straight, we got the center of the problem on why they felt attracted to the same sex) and they changed their ways. Most of them are married to an opposite sex partner now.

2007-06-29 17:14:10 · answer #6 · answered by Basil 3 · 1 3

during the teen years, there are huge and confusing hormonal changes going on in the body, it tends to make it difficult to make informed choices. That is why anyone, gay or otherwise is wise to wait to make major life choices until the hormonal storms of the teenage years are past.

2007-06-29 17:05:18 · answer #7 · answered by essentiallysolo 7 · 5 1

I think it's more so to let the person who's horomones are still racing to chill out a bit. So they know their sexuality to determine if they are bi, gay, or just being curious... At least that's my theory, as it seems everyone has had a gay thought in their head and questioned their sexuality at some point in their lives. :)

2007-06-29 17:14:59 · answer #8 · answered by Jyse 6 · 4 1

I've never heard anyone say "wait a few years". Most of the gay people I've encountered knew "something was up" earlier than their teens - at 5, 6 years of age. Your posting this question shows a desire to try and understand homosexuality. Please don't take comments referring to sexual orientation as "normal" vs. "abnormal". Who defines "normal" anyway? And remember - one doesn't "grow into" homosexuality as one would grow into large clothing. Good question!

2007-06-29 17:05:49 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2 2

First, we usually discourage people, especially young people, from labeling themselves or others. Second, at early adolescence with hormones ablaze, kids get turned on by everything, including cartoon characters. Third, teens are especially socially self-conscious and worried that they won't fit in, so if someone sounds uncomfortable with what they're finding out about themselves, I try to discourage them from worrying about their orientation until they're older and more mature and have had a chance to see more of who and what they are and how many others are just like them.

Make sense now?

2007-06-29 17:12:37 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1 3

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